"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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pyros

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So, did you ever enter a relationship with a woman that you knew had red flags? you know, you liked her a lot etc, but you also knew that she had a few features you knew were bad, like: history of cheating, drinking a lot, manipulative, drama queen, still talking to ex bf, etc...

if so, how did it go?

Thx.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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El Payaso

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That's like sticking your penis in fire and asking how does it feel?
 

Between_The_Lines

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How did it go for me? Well, I suffered a serious @ss kicking, left bloodied and badly disoriented, but my blurred vision still managed to find the one thing that I needed to get back on my feet - TRP
 

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She had all those features that you mentioned, and negligible benefits in comparison.

It was horrible, it was a disaster and it was all my fault.

:down:
 

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Oh brother. After I married a woman who had more red flags than the British Redcoats had in their uniforms and ended up being a bigamist with 2 other husbands, and cheating on me with 3 other dudes and costing me my job as a police officer:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=214228

...I still end up with another crazy BPD after that who didn't screw me over like the first one but had I not handled it like I did she would have...

In order to survive as a man these days you have to rid yourself of all internal thought processing that people are GOOD by default and the exceptions are BAD. It's the opposite. People are BAD by default and the exceptions are GOOD. That's where every man needs to be, no question about it.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Nu Vision

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Don't do it. I married one with red flags thinking she will change. Nope. Never happens. It can destroy you.
 

ImTheDoubleGreatest!

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I couldn't care about them. Remembering when I would do that, it's like that 'not caring' probably stopped them from doing all of that to me. Except maybe the manipulative part. They can't help that. But I would naturally hate that blackmailing manipulation and would leave.

Her: "We can't be together anymore"
Me: "k"

And I was what you would call an 'afc' back then lol.....
 

zorg198

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My ex,

Manipulative , lying, attention wh0re , messed up in the head.

The scars in the soul still remain .
 

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Women are on their best behavior when they are still trying to lock you down. So you would be a fool to believe their behavior would improve after you commit to them. :crackup:

Remember.. men are punished for committing to women. They get lazy, comfortable, etc. because the "chase" is over. This is why spinning plates is essential for ensuring that the chase never ends (for her).
 

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entering into a bad relationship
So, did you ever enter a relationship with a woman that you knew had red flags? ...if so, how did it go?


I was so distracted by entering her mouth and vagina that I didn't realize I was entering a relationship.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Poon King said:
Women are on their best behavior when they are still trying to lock you down. So you would be a fool to believe their behavior would improve after you commit to them. :crackup:
I laughed so hard reading this!:D :D :crackup:
 

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I dated one with insecurity issues. Red flag I close to ignore as she just seemed clingy in the beginning. As time went on she became more and more annoying to deal with. She turned out to be; emotionally unstable, manipulative, and always in constant need of attention/validation. I'm 99% sure she was BPD. But as I said before, I was thinking with my little head rather than the big one.
 

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YES, the good news is that's over & she is not pregnant!

It's really not that hard to see once a relationship starts to tilt towards the toxic side. If you start to rationalize her sh*tty behavior then you know this will never stop but the relationship probably should. Overall my last 1 wasn't devastatingly bad, it just had a shelf life. We had our fun & now it's time to move along.

History of cheating, still talking to ex bf??.....yeah I wouldn't take her serious 1 bit.
 

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Had some really great sex. When she become a pain the ass I tell her to leave.
 
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