entering in a relationship before having sex!?

[Cassify]

what you guys think about that

 

[DonJuanabe]

What does that mean? IMO if you're not having sex you're not in a "relationship".

 

[Cassify]

well let's say you're dating a girl and she wants to enter in a relationship with you but you guys didn't have sex yet, that's my point

 

[Tiguere]

do you go to a car dealership and buy cars without test driving them?

 

[DonJuanabe]

There are many kinds of relationships. The one you're describing is known as friendship. A "dating relationship" is a sexual relationship.

 

[Cassify]

do you go to a car dealership and buy cars without test driving them?

i know what you mean, and i agree lol
but at least with this behaviour we know she is not a ***** right!?

 

[Iceberg]

well let's say you're dating a girl and she wants to enter in a relationship with you but you guys didn't have sex yet, that's my point

I'd say that it's not "dating" unless there is sex. And I'm not going on more than 3 or 4 dates with a girl without having sex with her. Otherwise, it's just childish.

I mean, realistically, how long would you have to date a girl before the "relationship" talk even happens? 3 - 5 months (or in my case, longer than that)? Are you going to go 3 - 5 months "dating" a girl without having sex with her? Or, on the other side of that argument, are you going to date a girl for 2-3 weeks and call it a relationship? Either way, it's a joke.

i know what you mean, and i agree lol
but at least with this behaviour we know she is not a ***** right!?

No, actually. You just know she's not a s1ut for YOU.

 

[Deep Dish]

From a scientific perspective, it’s imperative to have sex because emotions and trust are bonded by the neurotransmitter oxytocin. Sex first, emotions second. Sex first, relationship second. The effects of oxytocin are activated by estrogen, which is why sex emotionally bonds women deeper than men. So why would a chick have emotions before sex. There are chicks who are “forward-thinking” who quickly start thinking about having a relationship, but sex quickly happens and “the talk” happens after sex.

The paradox of sluts is sluts have high standards in men. Sluts are only “sluts” towards men of high value, alpha males, and are “Let’s take it slow” prudes towards men of low value.

 

[badboyjmm]

I was trapped doing that (I was a shy and virgin) and I never had sex with the girlfriend at time (she was a virgin as well)

She had no problem moving on and getting another bf (1 month after we broke up out of a 2 year relationship) Although she apologize for not being more physical with me at the time we were together, it's not worth it at all. Rollo Tomassi said that a female that makes you wait, generally the sex is not worth it

I should of gave her a ultimatum for sex and walk out if I didn't get it...

 

[Mr.SomeoneElse]

What does that mean? IMO if you're not having sex you're not in a "relationship".

this ^ Spot on. hahaha

 

[bigneil]

"At least (her not having sex) proves she's not a sl*t"?

Wow.

 

[nismo-4]

F**k no!

It's sex before relationship. Not the other way around. Sorry. Anybody who does this is in the friendzone, and deserves it.

Case closed.

 

[Young Juan]

I like sex too much. If I don't get the sex I like, it will be a short while before the relationship is over/dead. Even if we're not broken up, the relationship will be dead.

I did this once. The relationship lasted three months, but was essentially over after the first. Never again

 

[Zippapants]

With my recent ex we did not have intercourse until after we were in a relationship. We did everything else before that, though. As it was, I was the first guy she slept with.

However, this was a special case. Usually, I agree. Sex before a relationship is pretty much a given.

 

[Zerro]

I've done that once, there were some extenuating circumstances as to why intercourse was delayed for a couple weeks and it did end up being worth the wait. Still an exception to the rule though.

 

[SamTheHobit]

You guys are deluded, have you ever thought that maybe she's actually a quality girl. I doubt any of you guys have met any quality girls because you're all busy chasing slvts.

Women with self respect now days is rare.

Lol you all say sex before a relationship, but do you guys realize that the pre media brainwashed generation has always been doing it the other way around.

 

[Who Dares Win]

I would never consider any of that if there was no sexual contact prior to it.
At least a naked handjob if she is very young or shy, anything else is just showing her what a desperate pvssy you are.

 

[thorwynn]

I have been in this kind of setup...i'm telling you, it's not worth the wait to have a relationship without even having secks, she may be a "quality woman" right now but making you wait for a certain date, or a couple years to do it is not a very good idea. A lot of things could happen in your life during that period of time.

On the other hand, it is okay to wait and play along, maybe for a few days or weeks if she's already experienced (in having secks). I have been in both situations before. Just don't fall "in-love" and get too attached.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Read this:
https://rationalmale.wordpress.com/2011/11/04/taking-things-slow/

You're welcome.

 

[SgtSplacker]

For the sake of contribution I will say that if neither of you have kids then skimping on sex is skimping on the relationship take that how you will.

But what if she has a kid already and he's around 13? Doesn't a mom have a responsibility to her child to not sleep around with just anyone? I mean that's how I would want my mom to act no? If a woman has a kid how long would you wait for sex? How long is right?