"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Enough with this FLAKING business

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I've seen way, way too many threads asking why a girl flaked, or what can be done about it. There's only one thing you can do about it: Nothing. It's completely pointless even discussing it. She wasn't interested, period. If she was, she'd meet up with you.

Yes, it's bruising to the ego and contemplating every possible thing you said and trying to figure out what you could have done different might ease the mind, but the reality is it doesn't change anything. It's over with, done, finito.

You need to take your phone and go menu --> delete. "Are you sure you want to delete this contact?" Yes.

The only person you have to blame is yourself when you go out on the weekends or run day game and stop after you get one or two numbers. And yes, that's exactly what's happening because this is the reason you get so worked up when a girl flakes. You only have a couple leads, and when they fall through you have nothing else to fall back on.

If you want to be a player (I don't like the term Don Juan), abundance needs to be your number one priority. Do you know what I do when I encounter a girl who is open, flirty, bubbly, shows interest and eagerly gives the number? I go out and talk to nine more girls. Don't be fooled into thinking she's interested just because she's in your phone. They will flake, I promise you.

I went out over the weekend (Saturday) and accumulated 10 numbers. You know how many flakes I had? 6. On the other hand, 4 girls wanted to meet up. Instead of sulking around asking why those bad apples didn't text me back, I had a different problem. I was trying to fvck 4 girls in the same night and needed to use all my brain power to work out the logistics to make it happen.

Instead of filling your mind with flaking, fill your phone with numbers.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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^what he said
 

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exactly what I had in mind....
I still need to manage to go out and get 10?!? at least 1 number from a random girl tho. (gotten a few online but need to work on my real game)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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options are your power. its all a numbers game. have fun boys!
 

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Good Post! Its all a process to weed - out women with Low Interest.
 

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Good advice there and simply written. What has been said there can take some guys weeks, months OR EVEN YEARS to come to a conclusion on.
 

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I honestly believe most of this flaking is down to guys acting too defensive, refusing to text or build any rapport with a girl before the date.

That said, I totally agree with the OP. Always keep your options open...ALWAYS!!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Jariel said:
I honestly believe most of this flaking is down to guys acting too defensive, refusing to text or build any rapport with a girl before the date.
I was thinking the same thing. I was asking girls out, without building report, no success. I'm currently testing this theory out. Will see how it goes.
 

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Jariel said:
I honestly believe most of this flaking is down to guys acting too defensive, refusing to text or build any rapport with a girl before the date.

That said, I totally agree with the OP. Always keep your options open...ALWAYS!!

I just think flaking is the nature of the business.

Sometimes it's the guys fault, and the majority of the time it's just women being women.
 

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Iceberg said:
I just think flaking is the nature of the business.

Sometimes it's the guys fault, and the majority of the time it's just women being women.
Totally agree!!! Girls get all exited and all then poof... they flake. Girls are just weird to the point they cant explain themselves for their actions.
 

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imo flaking is simply a supply/demand issue. HB7+ are fully aware of their sexual value in the dating market place. To them, most guys are dime a dozen. You just need to stand out in some way to cut down on flakes.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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st_99 said:
imo flaking is simply a supply/demand issue. HB7+ are fully aware of their sexual value in the dating market place. To them, most guys are dime a dozen. You just need to stand out in some way to cut down on flakes.

Post # 1,700!!! Oh hell yeah!


Most guys try to hold on to any female they can get because they know it'll be a while before they get another one.

All women know their sexual market value.

Work on getting fit both physically and financially and you'll have a much better chance of not being flaked on.

Keep on truckin!

Case closed.
 
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nismo-4 said:
Most guys try to hold on to any female they can get because they know it'll be a while before they get another one.

All women know their sexual market value.

Work on getting fit both physically and financially and you'll have a much better chance of not being flaked on.

Keep on truckin!
agree with you nismo!!! Im getting really good attention results from my 3 month working out period. I still have a long way to go but I can feel girls love to look at me and smile at me.
 

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I agree 1000%! I used to get all worked up over some broad flaking on me and going over every little thing that I might have done wrong. what I finally convinced myself of is it was their loss, not mine. I know what I have to offer and if they aren't interested in that then fvck 'em. now I've come to the point where I have more dates then I have time or $$$ to go on. I'm the one that's doing the choosing now, not them.
 

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good post.

I expect flaking to occur, so it phases me NOT!!
 

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evansblue said:
I've seen way, way too many threads asking why a girl flaked, or what can be done about it. There's only one thing you can do about it: Nothing.
i stopped reading here. why? because that's all i need to know.

every girl I have got a number from, or got facebook. hasn't responded. Do I care? no. I know this will come in TIME. I'm more in it for the INTERACTION for then anything.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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