"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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It's been a while but I'm gonna update this. I've just got back from an over indulgent holiday & want to change things! My life is changing in general & I want the gym to be a big part of my life again moving forward.

I haven't been to the gym in around 3-4 months after I pulled my back deadlifting. My neck is always sore and my back aches. I play football and go jogging so cardio isn't too much of an issue. Diet is an issue & it is something I'm going to address.

I'm going to start off with 3 x 10 on resistance machines to build up some strength as well as yoga.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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So I went to the chiropractor today. He said my back is extremely tense and needs a 6 week intense course of treatment to get me right.

He advised me that doing chest, back & shoulders in the gym is a no, no for now!

He said I could do cardio, squats & yoga for now!

I need to take things slow & build myself up gradually. I have a tendency to subscribe to 'all or nothing' thinking, which I can't do for now or i'll end up back where I am now.
 

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I need to change my relationship with food. I comfort eat a lot. I love the gym but I've fell into the bad habit of prioritising other things over it.

I have been stressed for a long time & I think this has caused the back problems.

I am about 170lbs at 20% right now, which isn't good at all!

I am 25 & entering a new phase in my life. I am building a solid business & have moved on from the vast majority of my high school friends.

Truthfully it has been this way for a while, I've just stayed in between my new life & old one. It's relevant because it's causing me stress!

I am going to make a commitment to myself right now:

I will hit the gym at least 3 times a week
I will cut bad food out of my diet.
I will jog 4-5 mornings a week.
I will start training at American football again.

If I do the above every week, I'll be fine.
 

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For the past 12 days I've eaten well & cut down my sugar consumption drastically. I feel tonnes better and my stomach is now flat again.

I haven't made it to the gym much, having only been once in the past 2 weeks, but I have been jogging and going to the chiropractor!

American football is probably going to be a new year thing, which I'm looking forward too.

On the whole I feel a lot better, which is great. I am a lot less stressed which I think is half the battle.

I am actually planning & building for the future, which is great!
 
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