"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Enough girls already didnt give themselves cause they say Im a player

Who Dares Win

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As the title says but honestly Im confused, werent girls interested in guys which have many girls in their life and repulsed from guys who dont get any?

Given this last line to be true, may it be just an exit strategy for them to leave only because they simply dont like me?

I mean instead of saying that they dont like me they would come out with that bvllsh1t just to "not offend me" or something like that.

The way I behave naturally is a half way between sean connery in bond movies and the stereotipical antonio from brazilian soap operas, I start with kino and eye contact pretty soon but not because its my game its simply what I have to do and cant stop it,so stereotipically I may look like one.

But sincerly Im pretty confused and also last week I've been almost depressed because some girls I was having around were really open in physical contact and flirting but then it simply lead to nowhere.

So it may be as they say or they simply dont find me physically attractive and use that line trying not to harm me?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Uncharted

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I haven't had a girl give a "player excuse" but after a few dates girls have said "you seemed like such a player that I was hesitant about getting hurt at first" or something. I usually laugh it off and say "haha you think I'm a player?" and change the subject. I think it was more that they thought I was playing games versus playing women. Who cares though.
 

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PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
or you're not a attractive enough player.
I think that often, it's this.

See, women are like us. We can find a girl that is literally perfect in every aspect of her personality, but if she isn't attractive enough, I won't want her.
We want uniqueness. Something that says, "damn, I'm proud to say 'that b!tch is mine' to my friends.", and so do women.
All of this Don Juan sh!t applies to men, too. It's all about analyzing the human desire aspect.

One thing I try to do to stick out is not dress like the stereotypical player (e.g. "nice" jeans, dress shoes, a button up and a douchy haircut). That keeps women from feeling like they're being played by a player, and it also makes me feel less like an idiot for dressing like every PUA ever.
 

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The girls I get with call me Pimp, lol. Not in a negative way either.

You probably come off too smooth, not that it's a bad thing, but given the context/setting youre talking to these women in they see it as too playerish vs someone who can fall back for a little
 

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Hmm idk what to think of it... If a girl thinks your a player because you have a lot of girls around u and she knows your dating a lot and yet your flirting with her she prob gonna think hes a player i need to get out. Do u guys back off or you keep all the flirting and teasing on at any cost any time you meet up with her or she texts u? curious..
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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