"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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enjoy your uniqueness ...

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Enjoy that uniqueness. You do not have to pretend in order to seem more
like someone else. You weren't meant to be like someone else. You do not
have to lie to conceal the parts of you that are not like what you see in
anyone else.

You were meant to be different. Nowhere ever in all of history will the
same things be going on in anyone's mind, soul and spirit as are going on in
yours right now.

If you did not exist, there would be a hole in creation, a gap in istory,
something missing from the plan for humankind. Treasure your uniqueness.
It is a gift given only to you. Enjoy it and share it!

No one can reach out to others in the same way that you can. No one can
speak your words. No one can convey your meanings. No one can comfort with
your kind of comfort. No one can bring your kind of understanding to
another person.

No one can be cheerful and lighthearted and joyous in your way. No one can
smile your smile. No one else can bring the whole unique impact of you to
another human being.

Share your uniqueness. Let it be free to flow out among your family and
friends and people you meet in the rush and clutter of living wherever you
are. That gift of yourself was given you to enjoy and share. Give yourself
away!

See it! Receive it! Let it tickle you! Let it form you and nudge you
and inspire you!



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"Don't Let Your Past Rent Space In Your Head Today.MOVE FORWARD.

"judgement comes from experience n experience comes from bad judgement"

"LOVE ME JUST FOR THE DAY"
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Sure, your post sounds like some New-Age wishy-washy bullsh!t, but upon re-reading it I can see that you make a valid point.

No two people are alike; likewise, no two DJ's will mack in the same way. There are as many individual "styles" out there as there are personalities, and what works for me may not work for you (and vice-versa).

By trying to copy someone else's techniques a guy may find himself frustrated. Everyone's got an "angle" he can use to his advantage; the trick is to find your "weapon of choice" and learn to wield it effectively.

Some of that may sound corny, but it really isn't. I discovered this truth a long time ago - the hard way
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That chick you're obssessing over already HAS a p*ssy... she doesn't need another one, so be a man!
 

~UnDisputed~

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take this to heart fellas...

this site isnt meant to change you into someone your not...

i made the mistake of reading all of these posts and trying to become some super dj, i recently figured out that i cant change the way i think, i cant cant change the way i am.all i can do is be me...

my advice, dont become a don juan....

what?

what?

thats right, dont...

be yourself, your the only one like you.use techniques like the ones on this site to improve you, not to become a "dj"

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~rEpResEnt ThaT~
 

affirmed

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If you're trying to improve yourself then there must be some aspect of yourself you're not entirely happy with. Hence the advice "Just be Yourself" is a little hypocritical?

I like the way this post talks of uniqueness, you need to harness your unique qualities and get rid of all the stupid ones that are doing you no favours at all and are only there as a bi-product of media, peer and parental propaganda.
http://www.sosuave.com/articles/whynot.htm

However I do agree you DO have to love what is unique about you, there will always be somebody out there much better than you at everything (if there isn't... well done), this can be an ego blow, especially if you have to be around these people in a work or school environment, the best way to realise your own worth is to appreciate what makes you unique, and as Indian says, that can be the individual way you handle situations, be it sensitivity, your smile, your conversations.

La la la.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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