"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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[Enjoy] Visualize. Action. Momentum - The Power of VAM!

Allurre

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VAM!

What up fellas,

I wanted to come through and expound on VAM! -- yes, might sound silly, but you can't say it isn't catchy. In short, this is a three part principle I followed by ritual, which also dramatically changed my life direction – more precisely, it skyrocketed the quality of my life both business & women wise.

I’m aware that the three components I'll be talking about may have been discussed multiple times on this forum, so if you're amongst the haters with nothing conductive like " *Yawn* old news... read this before..." then, I suggest that you should refrain from even replying.

Save yourself the burden of looking like an ass.

Anyways, I believe this should stick at the fore of everyone’s mind when pursuing not just women, but any facets in life they genuinely desire.

The VAM Principle is the constant jolt and energy source that evolved me into a young entrepreneur, gave me the power to launched my own business (music, fashion, jewelry, dating consultancy, propelled my music career, and as clichéd as it may sound, converted what were once dreams to reality.

Hopefully, this can you give you a motivational kick.

Now, here's VAM! Defined.

V- VISUALIZE


Before you set your mind to achieve any particular objective – getting the girls number, kiss-closing her on the first date, making her break out in a jovial laugh, see it all happening. See yourself performing those actions before you conduct them. Visualize before your desired reality takes place.

Whatever you’re visualizing, you must give it a high worth – something your life would depend on. Your life will unfold upon you when you’re ready for it.

See it happening, over and over, even when certain situations or negative strings of thoughts or events may defy it.

You must see the abundance of potential in yourself to make those things happen. If you don’t feel the inner potential from within, then no action will be taken. No action means no results. No results equals no *****.

Fear, doubt, second-guessing are all poisonous habits that need to go. Imagine an Exit sign in your head. Show them the way and never welcome them back.

Believe it in your heart, and your head and body will follow. You have unlimited potential.

Just like to add that another main reason that people have so much difficulty in ’shifting their mindset’ is that they are ‘out of their comfort zone’ and their creative sub-conscious mind is trying (successfully) to take them back to where they are comfortable and think they belong and that is doing nothing!!

A- ACTION

This is the part where you follow up. The action is the bridge between where you are today, and the reality you envisioned for yourself. Don’t rush the process without preparation, but take some time out to research what tools or knowledge you’ll need to acquire before that desired outcome can come to fruition.

Take one step at a time. Only then can you walk in strides, then move forward by leaps and bounds. Several ‘big dreams’ are the results of incremental success points.

Now here’s what’s most important. While taking action, you must hold to that strong certainty you had when you were visualizing. Don’t let any self-doubts chain you behind. Continuously convince your mind that you can do it.

The secret to any forms of success is following through with it.

M - MOMENTUM

Momentum derives from the feeling of making progress, and getting a taste of progress. It’s like being a state where you’re at the pinnacle of your game, you want to avoid from snapping out of it. Once you detach yourself from the state whether it’s uncontrollable or not, your momentum whittles down.

The process of keeping the momentum is simple. Don’t ever slack off or veer off course. Doing something once won’t last. You must repeat, review, retest, repeat etc. The intensity of your determination cannot wind down.

Also, grow immune from instant gratification. You must be committed and embrace whatever challenges hurled at your direction as you march forward.

Before I wrap things up…

The power is all in your mind. Your brain is like a muscle that needs constant conditioning, nurturing, disciplining, and working out. What you believe will manifest into your lives. Becoming emotionally attached and engrossed to whatever desired outcome you have today, that you will fight vehemently for it.

You fail not because of others, but not preparing yourself for it. In most likelihood, only 1 out of 10 people will be able to follow up and sustain this formula.

If you don’t get yourself together and push yourself out the comfort zone and going beyond personal limits, don’t complain about the mediocrity of your existence.

In summary, here’s a simplification of what I just said.

1. You have a desired outcome. Be determined to seize it.
2. You find out how you to do it.
3. Chain this believe that you can do it in your head.
4. Take action.

Only when you take action, will there be results. Only when you reach those results will it support your belief. Only with undying belief will you move closer to your desired outcome.

Whatever desired outcome you hold in your head, you have to achieve it. Condition your mind to doing it, and believing you can achieve it. Cast away any doubts. Skeptics are gutless. Fortune favors the bold. Bury all your negative thoughts – they’re self destructive, poisonous, and unnecessary. I also like to call it “Waste in the brain” Clear your head.

Push yourself back against the wall, and point the gun to your head. Only when you get into the habit of taking massive action will you get a taste of glory.

If you doubt the power of visualization, then just reflect back to a time where you were deeply passionate about wanting something in which you eventually achieved. Think about all the actions and steps you took prior to getting what you wanted.

“People who are relentless will always find a way” --- Tony Robbins

Practice isn't enough. You must feel that roaring absolute certainty coming from the inside. All it takes now is a mind shifting, action, and dedication.

Fire your belly up and get ready to live your life as you envision it.

You owe it to yourself.


Have a great day, and here's a toast to exploding your game.

Andrew
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Allurre

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and just one more thing which I forgot...

Whatever you set yourself to succeed in, make sure pure happiness comes with it.

When applying VAM to just women, you'll soon come to realize that the only one thing that never dies in novelty is the pursuit for growth and to help others live a better life.

Thank you for being here and checking on this entry.

I hope you have a great day.
 

frisco

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The hardest part is Action, The "knowing" that the steps you are doing are going to lead you too your goal or desired outcome. Sometimes we get into the grove where life controls us, We sit back and watch everything we come into contact with.

I love the whole VAM idea catchy and somthing I do pretty much everyday. No matter what take action. Or else you will never improve apon yourself.

And momentum, I remmeber times when I could pull girls left and right, Always had a date everynight. Some times you loose it though you get your Ego caught up in the situations and you lose you Mental stability kinda like "kanye on the VMA" ha

Great post mayne
 
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