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A girl from one of my classes apparently likes sports a little bit, and she's a pretty cool chick. She's no fanatic, but she follows the major sports more than a lot of other girls do. In class a few weeks ago, she started teasing me about my favorite football team losing (I started laughing b/c it came out of nowhere). I found out what team she is a fan of, apparently our teams face each other, and I circled that date on the calendar. As a pretty big sports fan, I did not forget the date (she knows this too). :trouble:

Well, that matchup is coming up in the not-so-distant future. Coincidentally, the game is also on her birthday. My question here (which explains the topic title)...what C+F sort of thing could I say if my team comes out on top? Keep in mind I won't see her until after this game happens (Thanksgiving Break mixes around the class schedules, we're both in our hometowns - 2500 miles away - when the game happens). I do have her cell # and we are friends on Facebook. I don't want to show a whole lot of attention, so as of now I was thinking of perhaps just writing some C+F comment on her wall.

FYI, I didn't really think of her of someone I could try to date until very recently (it snuck up on me), so that's why I didn't make any sort of bet with her regarding the game's outcome.
 

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The Comeback Kid said:
My question here (which explains the topic title)...what C+F sort of thing could I say if my team comes out on top?
"That was an interesting game. Perhaps we could get together for coffee to discuss it some more."
 

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"That was an interesting game. Perhaps we could get together for coffee to discuss it some more."
haha, not bad. However, I should have provided a little more background here, I think I need a different way to approach this for the time being:
-There isn't much time until winter break. After I get back from Thanksgiving, it's a week till Finals Prep Time. After finals, we're all off a month.
-I had texted her asking getting together for coffee a week or so ago, she said she had a lot on her plate before Thanksgiving...never a good sign. However, I came back as if nothing had happened and we didn't miss a beat.
-I get a lot of positive responses from her (smile/laughing, engaging conversation, even body language). She's a lot different than many of the other girls I've pursued, so I'm willing to give this another shot.

With all of that in mind, I feel the best time for us to "hang out" is after winter break. Sure, I'd like to sooner, but the timing isn't all that great before. No one is doing anything during the finals period (our class doesn't have a final) and she probably really is busy then anyways. I'm suggesting to her that we keep in touch over break, if she follows through then I know there could be some interest.
 

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Any other thoughts? As I said before, the most realistic opportunity for anything to start is when we get back from winter break because of all the finals coming up soon (we don't have a final in our class), but I want to say something that will make her laugh and perhaps engage her in some good-natured banter.
 

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I can actually help BIG TIME on this subject matter. What's your favorite team and what's hers? I can give you so much material if your team wins or even if your team loses. I'm a sports nut and bit of a ballbuster with women.
 

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CP3WOO said:
I can actually help BIG TIME on this subject matter. What's your favorite team and what's hers? I can give you so much material if your team wins or even if your team loses. I'm a sports nut and bit of a ballbuster with women.
haha we'd be pretty good friends (sports + ballbuster). I live on sports, so I know everything about the teams and the players; I'm covered there. I guess what I'd be asking is how to go about it; I can fill in the blanks with the players and the team. ;)
 

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I saw some friends earlier today, a couple of them had ideas of this situation in general; here's the only one that's actually possible:
-There's still a week and a half between when we get back to school and finals "prep" time (one weekend). See what she's doing that weekend if we could hang out with her and her friends.

It doesn't really relate to this thread exactly, but it may be the better option than waiting all of winter break and suggesting and hoping we keep in touch (although I will do that too).

As for this thread though, I'd of course like to do some good-natured trash-talk, but as we're not anywhere near one another that's not doable. Hence, I probably have to wait until after the game; I also don't want to show too much attention here.
 

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The Comeback Kid said:
haha we'd be pretty good friends (sports + ballbuster). I live on sports, so I know everything about the teams and the players; I'm covered there. I guess what I'd be asking is how to go about it; I can fill in the blanks with the players and the team. ;)
Well, just be playful with it. Bust her balls every chance you get if her team loses.

WIN: Don't go in her face and go HA!!!!!!!! LOSER!!!!!!!! That just makes you an arrogant punk. In fact, don't even mention. Pretend the game never even took place UNTIL she says something dumb.

Girl: Dumb woman gibirish
You: Had to be a (insert a team name) fan

Or something like that.

LOSE: Of course she's going to rub it in. Just say, "congrats you won." Then, find fault with your team and blame the coach as any fan would do. Finally, you can say something negative about her team's off field antics or past.

Girl: Haha your team lost!
You: Yeah, but your franchise is still inferior to mine. I got more championships, hall of famers, pro bowlers. So :p

Just don't say it in an arrogant way. I know it's tough, but it's worked with me.
 

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okay you can do this when you see her or post a pic of it on face book.

With your index finger pointed and your thumb extended, like your making a gun with your hand, lift it up to your forehead and face your palm away from you. Then make a ugly funny face.
 

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haha funny jacob.

CP3WOO - Oh of course. Growing up, I heard it from all my friends who like a rival team in another sport. I guess it's affected me, as now everytime my team wins, I bask in it. I won't go up to someone and say "WOO HOO! YEAH MY TEAM IS BETTER!" Anyone can do that, and it's not fun. :down: I like to be witty and crafty. I'll take a player, a coach, or a team theme (i.e. the Bears and the Super Bowl Shuffle) and base things off of that. :up:

I'll probably be the one who initiates the correspondence regardless, mostly b/c it's her birthday and everyone will write on her wall anyway. If we win, it will be easy, I already know what I'll say. If we lose...I'll have to think of something good. My team is doing a little better in the standings, however I'll probably give her team credit for winning and say it was her birthday gift or something.
 

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