First off let me say thanks for all the help on this forum. I posted awhile back and am back for more help. I have a question I have been struggling with and wanted to post. My GF of 2 years left me a couple months ago. I know why, she moved to my city to be with me, I became supplicating, she lost interest, telling me I lacked passion for her and for life. Things were going bad and I did all I can to "fix" it, pushing her away. Classic. I went no contact with her after the breakup, and now she is hitting me up all the time, on AIM (I need it for work so can't not sign on), texting, and lately begging me to videochat. I talked to her the first time last night. She complains of being depressed, saying she thought she wanted to be single but now wants to be in love. She never mentions wanting ME back though, saying that something was missing when we were together. But says she wants to be in love with someone, to have that feeling of being completely in love. She also complains that I don't fight for what I want (referring to herself I assume) and asks me why I've been so "dry",how could I walk away and be happy so easily, and asks why I haven't contacted her once since the breakup. I told her I'm moving on with my life and can't dwell on her, dont have rooom for people that aren't interested in me, etc. She accuses me of never caring. My question to you is how to come out of no contact and keep the interest level high? How do I respond to questions about why I've been so cold? (I have been busy, but its still not like me to just flat our ignore pples texts) Her telling me that she is depressed but not implicating that me missing from her life is the reason is somewhat disheartening. I HAVE been working on myself and focusing on my business and health, making positive changes in my life, and living for me instead of her. I realize my mistakes, and its textbook how her reactions towards me changed as I became more supplicating to her needs, breaking under the sh!ttests. I do have other options so its not like I'm desperate. However, I do want her back if we can reframe the relationship, as I believe in our connection. I can get laid and have the plates spinning, thats not the issue. What is the best way to address why I haven't been in touch without bringing up the fact that really emotionally I wasnt ready and I also wanted to give her space to miss me. Any advice would be appreciated, as I know your all busy.