I have been living with a girl for the last five years and we've been together for seven years. She is incredibly in love with me and gave me a lot of support during a difficult time for me (my father passed away and I was struggling with depression). She hasn't had many boyfriends and she is from a more traditional culture where people get married fairly young and are more serious minded generally.
I have been feeling bored in the relationship for the last few years especially as our sex life dried up. I knew she wanted marriage and kids and I did not see a future for us and didn't want to settle down especially as I was a late bloomer and she was my first serious girlfriend. But whenever I tried to talk about this she would get upset and call me ungrateful and say if I didn't want her I should have broken up with her years ago when she was still young and able to find someone else. And tried to persuade me that I will never find a girl like her and I do not want to be old and lonely and throw away seven years together just because I want to play the field. Another thing resting on my mind is she has sometimes threatened to suicide if I leave her. So I let it drop and hoped she would make the decision to break up with me herself. I started cheating on her and she caught me a few times, got upset, but forgave me.
We are comfortable together and trust each other and are quite attached (especially her) and as I said we live together, share expenses, and in many ways our lives are intertwined. But I am starting to feel old at 33 and want to be single again before I am old and unattractive. At the same time she is going to turn 30 and I don't want her to miss out on having a family and kids because she is hung up on me. But appeals to reason do not seem to work.
Is the only way out to simply move my stuff out, ignore her calls, and hope she won't do anything stupid?
I have been feeling bored in the relationship for the last few years especially as our sex life dried up. I knew she wanted marriage and kids and I did not see a future for us and didn't want to settle down especially as I was a late bloomer and she was my first serious girlfriend. But whenever I tried to talk about this she would get upset and call me ungrateful and say if I didn't want her I should have broken up with her years ago when she was still young and able to find someone else. And tried to persuade me that I will never find a girl like her and I do not want to be old and lonely and throw away seven years together just because I want to play the field. Another thing resting on my mind is she has sometimes threatened to suicide if I leave her. So I let it drop and hoped she would make the decision to break up with me herself. I started cheating on her and she caught me a few times, got upset, but forgave me.
We are comfortable together and trust each other and are quite attached (especially her) and as I said we live together, share expenses, and in many ways our lives are intertwined. But I am starting to feel old at 33 and want to be single again before I am old and unattractive. At the same time she is going to turn 30 and I don't want her to miss out on having a family and kids because she is hung up on me. But appeals to reason do not seem to work.
Is the only way out to simply move my stuff out, ignore her calls, and hope she won't do anything stupid?