emotionally playing the women: good or bad

[moneyisking]

I think there was a recent post concerning shaking the women's mind by "playing game", involving not responding to texts, waiting purposefully for hrs to return a call, etc. To tell you very frankly, I am not fond of this kind of manipulation, cuz primarily, I fvcking hate it when girls do that on purpose. My time is too precious for me to wonder around about sh!t that could've gotten relayed to me fast if those bs mind game hasn't existed. Also in most cases, I reply with "aight" or "cool" because I had a father who would royally rage and question about one's integrity and family education if the said person did not at least have the courtesy to reply back, and I agree with him. So even if a girl texts "ya blah blah, good night", some of the DJs would say Oh don't respond to that, just play it cool and don't text back. But in my opinion that is retarded, cuz come on, have a common manner to respond back to people. There are many ways to play game, yes, but just purposefully playing that kind of game is like a child play.

I was texting with a girl while I was just listening to class lectures online, and since phone is right there, I just pick it up, respond back promptly, put it down, and study. I don't understand why some people would wait and respond million years later just to "put the other person on the edge." There are other ways you can do that. Personally, I say those "putting edge" comes better when you are interacting with the girl in person, and you just bust her balls, joke around with her, just have some fun. Are you telling me I have to wait certain minutes to respond to text in order to be a Don juan?

 

[Purefilth]

You don't have to.
Sometimes ill leave it an hour or two, sometimes ill answer straight away, depends on what I'm doing.
Leaving it for a bit gives you a chance to have a decent reply for her, I.e. put together a plan of where to take her, what to do etc,
It also keeps her thinking about you, keeps you as a mystery, if you're the reliable, instant replier she will slowly lose interest since it seems you have nothing better to do than to sit by your phone all day, waiting for her to text you.
Personally, I have more important things to do.

 

[cablecow15]

To me, its like this... its kinda like how I view guns I dont like them , but there here and there not going anywhere so ill own and use them for defense

women use these games , and you can either learn how to use them yourself, to combat them , or go about it your own way . The main key tho is to atleast get into it enough to understand how they work and what they mean , and the best way to do that is to do it yourself

 

[backseatjuan]

The game is to raise her interest level. Do what's needed when needed, no set rules, except don't fall in love.

 

[MisterD]

I'm not into being on the offensive, and being the first one to play games and manipulate. Never. If a girl is into me and is making my job easy, so be it. I'll use my natural game.

But if she's playing games, I have to combat them. That's where the stuff you learn on here comes into play. I very much use what's taught here as a defensive strategy.

 

[NobodyCares1]

well I don't use games when the girl isn't anymore... there was this girl that didn't play games... but I did... just because I thought her interest level was low... now I know it was the highest that any girl ever had she just didn't want to look easy... anyway playing games ruined it... now I know not to play games too much unless it's necessary and even then I wouln't like to date a girl who plays too much games...

 

[moneyisking]

oh ok, so use it only when deemed necessary, like when she is playing you a game. huh ok, i like how you guys say you use game as defensive. I will keep that in mind.

 

[Zarky]

To tell you very frankly, I am not fond of this kind of manipulation, cuz primarily, I fvcking hate it when girls do that on purpose.

OP is making the common mistake of assuming that women respond to things as he does. You and girls are different. To make a wildly generalized statement that doesn't hold true in all cases but does in the majority of cases: Women Love Drama. You don't. Give them what they want, not what you want.

 

[dudewut]

As for the title question; women will NOT hesitate to emotionally play a sucker. As Robert Greene said something like seduction is a game, don't take it too seriously.

 

[moneyisking]

@zarky: would holding off a txt really be something a girl wants? i mean i could probably chew a girl out for being completely disrespectful or you know something bigger than responding 15minutes later kind of deal...

 

[Chamber36]

As a rule of thumb I let the females wait as long as they are willing to wait.

Of course one must be respectful, but if you reply too quickly women quickly get bored.

It's like giving them the gift of missing you. It will let them realise how much they really want you. Just drive them bonkers. Make them think crazy things. Let them worry.

 

[bigneil]

I don't think any man naturally wants to play games, but women don't naturally NOT play games.

Ask yourself:

1) How many times did the girl you love initiate a text and you NEVER text back?
2) Did any man ever not text her back? (Hint: it's the ones she couldn't get/maintain - i.e. the ones she likes the best).
3) How many times did she not reply to YOUR text?
4) Did you give up forever?
5) What was she doing when she didn't reply to you?
6) What will she imagine you are doing when you don't reply to her?
7) If you don't text her, when that other guy does text her, she will wish it was you.
8) She will eventually give you a higher status than the guys who keep texting her.

We learn to love only through rejection. No wonder why she doesn't love us.

 

[Desdinova]

Drama induces emotional fluctuation. Women don't necessarily need drama, but they need emotional fluctuation. You can bring emotional fluctuation into the relationship without bringing in drama.

The amount of emotional fluctuation needed is dependent on the woman. Some of them require lots of it to be excited, some require just a little. Regardless, you need to know how to bring it into the relationship in order to fulfill the need for it. When a woman isn't getting enough, she will create drama to have that emotional fluctuation you're not giving her.

 

[Deep Dish]

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[moneyisking]

I think I know what yal mean by that "emotional fluctuation". I just couldn't picture myself purposely throwing my phone away for couple minutes just so I can have her wait (which normally would result in her waiting to write back... kind of like a return serve?). Well women are sure complicating and there's no way to keep them in a simple way i assume. even to a simplest chick, you got to surprise her or bring that emotional ride once in a while to keep her... dam it's pain in the azz

 

[Zarky]

You can either play them or they'll play you. If you refuse to make that decision, then the decision will be made for you.

 

[pdx1138]

Some of them require lots of it to be excited, some require just a little. Regardless, you need to know how to bring it into the relationship in order to fulfill the need for it. When a woman isn't getting enough, she will create drama to have that emotional fluctuation you're not giving her.

Couldn't have said it better myself.

Thats precisely what women are about.

Epic post D. Epic.

Reminds me of what Doc Brown says in Back to the Future II about "unlocking the other mystery of the universe.....women."