Emotional bank account

[tksniper]

Whenever a woman makes a genuine effort, she is depositing into the account emotional bank account between you two. You don’t have to worry about signs, confusing signals, her flirting with other guys to make you jealous (this is actually her taking away from the emotional bank account due to insecurity), or any of that nonsense. Whenever she makes a deposit, it’s your turn to make a deposit. And all you have to do is make a genuine effort to get both of you closer together together, whether it’s figuring logistics, escalating, opening up and being vulnerable, etc.

All game comes down to the emotional bank account between you and the woman. When one party makes a deposit, the other has to return the deposit. Otherwise it’s not a fair dynamic and resentment will arise.

I’ve let go of all game, ignore all signs and signals from women, and just trust my intuition. I would just ask myself “Do I feel like she made an actual deposit? And if my intuition feels like she did, I would make a deposit myself. Always trust the guy as spook would say. Your gut can always tell who’s investing in you.

A lot of times women would make “efforts” but it’s not genuine. They are stealing from the emotional bank account. They want validation and attention. Your guy always knows which is which.

Do you feel richer after her effort? You should if she was actually investing into the emotional bank account. Women know how to make guys feel “richer” so don’t fool yourself. If you feel like she is stealing, chances are, she is.

Women are either investing in the two of you or stealing from you. Always trust the gut.

 

[Billtx49]

Great analogy, never heard a growing relationship described like that before, but it clicks all my common sense boxes …

 

[tksniper]

Great analogy, never heard a growing relationship described like that before, but it clicks all my common sense boxes …

It applies to relationships with men and business partners as well. People are either making deposits (good) or making withdrawals (selfish) or straight up stealing.

 

[tksniper]

I sort of agree, as long as its limited to a bank account analogy. I would not use an investment analogy because as we all learn eventually, past investment is not a predictor of the future.

Yeah it’s limited to deposits, withdrawals, and stealing. People tolerate each other despite disagreements because both have deposited a lot so the emotional bank account is full and can withstand disagreements. When the bank account is low (neither side making deposits, or just one side depositing all the time and realizing that, stops depositing, even a minor tick in their personality you don’t like is enough to break up with them.

In order for any relation, whether business or romantic to thrive, both sides need to keep depositing. The “well running dry” as why you see family members beefing and even killing each other.

 

[BadBoy89]

I would consider emotional bank account what a woman wants from a guy. In terms of romantic relationships, men don't care too much about effort or emotional bank accounts. They care about results, which is sex.

Men want physical bank account from the girl, not emotional. If she deposits too much emotional stuff in the man's lap, she won't have sex with him since she won't risk all she is getting from him for a one-night roll in the hay.

Emotional is good, but it has to be AFTER having sex with the man. Anything a woman does BEFORE sex doesn't matter.