Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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If you are in a relationship, or you are looking for a relationship for validation or to fill a void, get out of it now and stop searching. It's better to end a co-dependent relationship and learn to be independent and unplugged than it is to stay in one or search for one.

You cannot and should not depend on another person for your happiness and value in the world. If you do, one day (most likely), your world will come crashing down around you, and you will have a hard time climbing out of your hole.

Always find yourself and be that person that you love the most. Love yourself the most. Then when you go in a relationship you won't be expecting anything from them, and you won't be let down. Your partner should only be a piece of the puzzle, not the puzzle itself. She should be an added bonus to your life, and not your life.

It's time we as men find value in ourselves and offer our value to these ladies. We have to stop asking these women to fill our half-filled cups with their validation they unwilling bestow on us because of our desperation. We are men, and we offer our strength to women. We do not get our strength from them. Feminism cannot offer masculinity to a man.

We are strong, not only with muscle, but in mind. We do not beg, do not put a woman above ourselves, do not cry over women who have cheated or manipulated us. We control ourselves and we don't care what the outcome is because we as men live in the moment.

At this very moment it's time for weak men to change. It's time to find courage, strength, and validation in themselves. No longer will we be stuck in the past and dwell on what a woman has done to us and hold that against all future women because we control the frame. We control our destiny. We will stop looking to the future and stop worrying about the outcome with women because we as men only live in the NOW. We as men only live in the MOMENT!

Rise soldiers of misfortune and misguidance. March forward and don't look back. Be brave, be strong, and live in the moment.
 
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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excellent thread dude. Five stars, it should be added to bible. Your 34 yrs , and it shows because your giving us good advice. just I had a similar situation i was going thru my mind, about where i should continue with someone just for the emotional reason, but i m suplicating is going to make me lose my dagger to attack and find what i truely need.. I need to get what i need, what i am ...and find that which i feel we sync better with
 

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i made that mistake, coming up that hole was the hardest thing i ever done, but at least that made me the mack i am now.

seriously codependent relationships are the worst thing ever, she'll break your heart in pieces and make you bitter.
 

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Great post. Always respect your masculinity. Dont turn your back on it and it wont turn its back on you.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Lishy, I'm panting for you. I love you so...
 

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Lishy said:
Ok lets not turn a joke into a pantomime eh Mav ;)
But according to LS, I'm supposed to shout it from the roof tops and let it all out there.
 

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Mavrick said:
But according to LS, I'm supposed to shout it from the roof tops and let it all out there.
Yeah babe, but not to some bird you met on the internet! that just makes you look less Rambo and more Pee Wee Herman!!!!!!!!!!!!:p

But carry on if you like, not that I like attention or anything!:crackup:
 

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You do know it's a joke, right? I'm starting to wonder about you.

Um, nevermind. You already said that.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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A joke? Are you saying you lied to me? You dont love me?

YOU SAID YOU LOVE ME and now you are back tracking? I have bought the dress and everything!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:cry:
 

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Lishy said:
A joke? Are you saying you lied to me? You dont love me?

YOU SAID YOU LOVE ME and now you are back tracking? I have bought the dress and everything!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:cry:
Sorry, baby, I love you, but I'm just not in love with you.
 

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Lishy said:
Oh I dont care about the love babe, just give the diamonds and I will be happy!:p
We all know that's not true. lol
 

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We all know that's not true. lol
I would choose love over diamonds every time!

But I have a confession ... I am screwing your best mate, so it is cool that you are not in love with me, cos HE is! :p
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Good post, Mavrick.

Emotional Attachment is usually ALL or nothing for men.

They usually lack the Emotional Attachment Switch or gauge. In which they can invest emotionally a certain degree according to their resources, and theri needs being met.
it is important to be able to attach oneself carefully, and with full respect to one's feelings and resources.

And it is important to detach oneself when one is not being fulfilled by another in the way the would like.
And still be emotionally strong enough to not wish that person harm or any negative feelings.
When one's needs are being met, one can GIVE more freely.
When one is feeling lack or scarcity, one usually withdraws one's emotional resources from others, and often from oneself.

And perhaps the greatest sign of growth and abundance is to STILL be emotionally attached, to Love another even if that person does not love you back.



Lishy, the usual them of 'soldiers' , or preferably "Warriors' or alluding to military themes or war is a powerful one for men.
It is something that is part of being a man.

There are deep reasons for this.
And they dont necessarily mean a man versus woman War.
The notion of a Warrior or Soldier resonates very strongly for a lot of men.

And many women have no idea how to relate to it and understand it.
 

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Most men only appear weak because they are beaten down be desperation due to excessive competition for a few women. Average women keep raising their standards higher and higher pushing many men out of the equation and forcing them to go to great lengths to get a woman.. Ok yeh we could say that these men should just ignore these women and do with out but it is nit in a heterosexual mans nature to do without interaction with females.
 

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co-dependency = destruction of both man and woman

beware!

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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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