(Note: I couldn't think of a better thread title for this, except that it's pressing.)
I met this girl on OkCupid about a month ago, messaged back and forth for a few days, then met up with her.
We went out twice and after the second "date" (after roughly two weeks of knowing her), I asked her to be my girlfriend. She hesitated and told me she'd think about it (which I never take as a good sign, but I try to remain optimistic).
The next time I saw her, she accepted and everything was great. The one "problem" was that she's old-fashioned (i.e. no sex before marriage; even kissing was off-limits). It's something I was prepared and willing to deal with.
Fast-forward to this past Saturday, I took her out to celebrate our one-week anniversary and everything went great. The problem came when I felt like there was the perfect moment to kiss her, even though I kind of expected her to turn away. She didn't turn away; in fact, we locked lips for a good ten seconds.
She stayed over at my place that night. We watched a movie and I gave her a massage (she likes that kind of thing). Even though we were both a little intoxicated, I made sure that nothing got out of hand, because I knew what she believed in.
Yesterday morning, we went to breakfast near my apartment and then we parted ways.
To back up a second, she said on Saturday afternoon that she wanted to spend all (or most--she has class on Monday) of Sunday together.
I could tell something was wrong when she didn't respond to the two texts I sent late Sunday (late, but not so late that she'd be sleeping). Early this morning, I got a text from her telling me she needed time to think.
After again not hearing from her for the rest of the day, I text her again, commenting on how it felt like she was in a hurry to leave yesterday. She responded by saying that she was, in fact, in a hurry to leave and that she wasn't sure if our relationship would work out. I responded by asking her if it was over between us. And her response was that she's still thinking about it.
I guess I'm looking for advice on how to handle this. Should I just tell her I'm through with the relationship? I mean, if she's going to act like this when I didn't really do anything wrong, I'm not sure that I want to be around her anyways, especially after she told me that if something did happen, she wouldn't be mad at me. She also commented how she's not like my ex (who went silent after the relationship went to the next level) and that I shouldn't worry about losing her.
Or should I just wait for her to "think about" it? I don't know how long that will be and it ultimately may not be worth the wait. However, if I do wait, there's the chance that she tells me she wants to continue our relationship.
Sorry for the long post...if I didn't go into the background stuff, it would be impossible for the situation to be assessed.
Thanks.
