Hey guys I've begun to notice something in my relationship that is bothering me and I'm a bit embarrassed to ask for advice or clarification. My gf lives at home still, with her mom and younger brother. She's 24, he's 16. I've noticed that she compliments him more than me, and I'm a bit baffled by it. For instance, the other day I joined the 3 of them on a walk down past some Christmas lights and such. We took a bunch of pictures and stuff, and my gf was not happy with any of the pictures we took together, but she commented on how her brother looked sharp in one of his pictures. Or I'll go out of my way to cook her a nice dinner at my place, and she'll eat and thank me and I'll have to say was it good or what? And she'll say oh yeah it was good. But her brother will cook bacon and she'll be over the moon about how good a job he did. I don't know if all this is cause he's her baby brother and she just assumes since I'm her bf I don't need the compliments from her? What's your thoughts? I obviously can't bring this up with her without looking like an insecure maniac
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TheGambino
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This could be probably a sh1t test.
I wouldn't ask her anything you will look insecure like you said. I wouldn't ask for her thoughts on what you do nor compliments, do your stuff have fun with her and do what makes you happy without her approval. If this becomes worse, if she shows bad behavior in her feedback on you I would tell her straight up. Hey I look for a girl who supports me and motivates me in the things I like to do. But she isn't negative about you so far so no worries.
I would ignore it, she wants her lil bro to have fun and grow up as a secure young male thats natural mom/sister behavior. If shes testing you than its the best to react like you don't care about her approval on things. Don't be a d1ck don't get me wrong but do what you like without wanting her approval all the time. It's her lil brother man youre her bf, don't forget.
I wouldn't ask her anything you will look insecure like you said. I wouldn't ask for her thoughts on what you do nor compliments, do your stuff have fun with her and do what makes you happy without her approval. If this becomes worse, if she shows bad behavior in her feedback on you I would tell her straight up. Hey I look for a girl who supports me and motivates me in the things I like to do. But she isn't negative about you so far so no worries.
I would ignore it, she wants her lil bro to have fun and grow up as a secure young male thats natural mom/sister behavior. If shes testing you than its the best to react like you don't care about her approval on things. Don't be a d1ck don't get me wrong but do what you like without wanting her approval all the time. It's her lil brother man youre her bf, don't forget.
This site has helped me enormously in dealing with my own insecurities and I'm really grateful for all the people on here. She doesn't compliment other guys really so that's why it's embarrassing that I feel bothered by this when it's her family. I get a bit concerned though when I will try to look nice and instead of complimenting me she'll say well now I don't look as nice as you instead of just saying I look good
"She lives at home with her mom and younger brother "
That's your answer right there , she is maybe trying to play the daddy role and make sure her younger bro is happy all the time.
She is old enough to understand maybe their dad is not really involved much and she is doing her best to make her brother feel loved. As long as she is not doing it to other guys just allow it and to win her heart even more , take interest in the poor brother. Buy him some stuff when you can and also compliment him when he does something.
O don't let it bother you if you done see any major red flags. She is doing what you will do for you little sister if you were in her situation.
That's your answer right there , she is maybe trying to play the daddy role and make sure her younger bro is happy all the time.
She is old enough to understand maybe their dad is not really involved much and she is doing her best to make her brother feel loved. As long as she is not doing it to other guys just allow it and to win her heart even more , take interest in the poor brother. Buy him some stuff when you can and also compliment him when he does something.
O don't let it bother you if you done see any major red flags. She is doing what you will do for you little sister if you were in her situation.
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I think she's just trying to be kind and encouraging to her younger bro. After all, he's just a kid at 16. She knows that you're an adult.
Unless she's talking down to you, I wouldn't worry.
Unless she's talking down to you, I wouldn't worry.
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You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
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RangerMIke
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Spot on. Do this and you will be golden. Judge a woman by her actions. She gives attention to her brother so THIS is important to her. She is telling you, by her actions, what is important to her.Yorkex said:
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who gives a sh!t! but it seems like this relationship is not going to last.
one question: is she a daughter of a single mother?
if that's true then she may be trying to cover the kid's father figure if the father is out of the picture. you never know
one question: is she a daughter of a single mother?
if that's true then she may be trying to cover the kid's father figure if the father is out of the picture. you never know
Yes their mom is a single mother. They're technically half brother/sister with different dads, but both dad's are non existent. I wish I could just relax, I honestly feel like a neurotic idiot when this stuff bothers me, but I ask only because I was curious. I appreciate the input fellas.
Her interest level probably isn't as high as when we first started dating, as I turned into the biggest beta male as soon as I fell in love with her. I really spun out of control emotionally. I actually found this site because I Googled how to regain the power in my relationship hahaMidnightCity said: