"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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go tan email closed and she punched her number in my phone.
what to do next?

i know i have to wait 3 days. so that means will be friday after 3 days. So on friday i call and tell her to have a coffee with me on saturday?

p.s. she has a bf and she doesnt know if she likes him anymore. i think i messed her mind today.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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The only days you should call are Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday. Friday is too late she already has plans.

If she has a b/f - leave her alone man. Show some respect. That's just my opinion.
 

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Wednesday might be late also. Throw the whole 3 day window out the window, but you should only call to set something up. Don't call just to say "I was just wondering how you were doing". Have a plan when you call
 

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mind_sould_body,
why monday, tuesday, webdnesday?


My friends keep telling me call her today or tmorrow. call her ASAP. lol.
even i asked a girl she told me call her and talk to her on the phone today.l
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Somebody make it stop....
 

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francisco,
im just asking for opinions cause i cant find the answer on the search box.
u dont need to be aggresive. i never touched u man.
 

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dude... call her whenever... but the whole reason to call her is to set up another site survey (date). don't call her to ask how her grandmother is doing, how her job is, what she did during the week. the whole purpose of the phone call is to set up another meeting. doesn't matter when you call as long as you're calling to set up another meeting. read the bible
 

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francisco,
im just asking for opinions cause i cant find the answer on the search box.
u dont need to be aggresive. i never touched u man.
It's nothing personal however I don't know what's worse, cliche BS like the three day rule or putting an effort towards a woman who doesn't know if she is over her ex. Could she be looking for any guy to give her attention and to make her feel better about herself since she's feeling unsure about her relationship with her boyfriend? Could she be doing this to make her BF jealous? Does anyone consider these things? This just doesn't sound like a situation that would merit following a basic sarging strategy.
 

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**** it.
she says she was busy and she has to catch up with homework.

i planned for 24h and she doesnt wanna join me for a cofee.

i feel like a loser now.

p.s. should i have asked when i should call her?
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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funketekun said:
**** it.
she says she was busy and she has to catch up with homework.

i planned for 24h and she doesnt wanna join me for a cofee.

i feel like a loser now.

p.s. should i have asked when i should call her?
Put it behind you. Personally, I would call this an advanced pickup with little chance of pulling it off for anything substantial. Take that with the fact that you were still wondering how long you should wait before calling and I saw a lamb being led to slaughter. For the time being just work on the basics and stay away from women who are still dating or are on the rebound.
 

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Because this girl is really smart + pretty. I will giver her another chance Ill call her again on wednesday.
 

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I'm putting on a mask, I smell a bit of "one-itis" in the air. :woo:
 

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francisco,

no at all. she is really smart and worth to be her. she is in one of the top 10 university in the world.
she is is as smart as im.
 

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francisco,

no at all. she is really smart and worth to be her. she is in one of the top 10 university in the world.
she is is as smart as im.
How does she compare to the other women you are seeing. You are seeing other women, right?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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She is not interested man. Oh yeah, i'm sure she's great. Just one problem. There is no interested in you. The homework excuse was just that, an excuse. When a girl is interested, she WILL jump through loops for a guy and always make time for him. Forget about her and find someone else that is actually interested in you enough to make time for you.
 

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francisco,
im seeing nobody. im really newbie to this stuff.

ryannath,
but im interested in her. thats why i will giver her another chance.
 

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Hey man, I am interested in Jessica Alba and Jessica Simpson too. Does that mean if I am interested in them, they will want me? No, it does not work like that. Read the DJ bible.
 

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francisco,
im seeing nobody. im really newbie to this stuff...
ALRIGHT EVERYBODY, GET OUT OF HERE! I'M CLEARING THE THREAD AND QUARANTINING FUNKETEKUN BECAUSE HE HAS A CASE OF ONE-ITIS!
 
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