You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Exactly, this is a thread on approaching, however people attack my game? That is nothing but BS hating. Constructive criticism? Nah, it's just looking for a fight.ElStud is giving advice on how to get over the fear of approaching; something he has already mastered. He's not trying to advise anybody on how to actually close a woman, so any criticism regarding his technique should be saved for another thread.
Those of you trying to provide constructive criticism should understand that if it isn't applicable to the thread, then it isn't warranted. I'm sure ElStud would appreciate a private message as opposed to you calling him out on a thread that has nothing to do with your subject matter.
Blah blah blah bloodi blah blah blah blah. When you say something useful I'll reply.Smack said:El Stud, you seem to think you're the sh!t here because you can cold approach and get a phone number.
But in reality, no one cares because you're still a virgin and have never, to my knowledge, got past a quick coffee date with a woman.
For your age, you're extremely unsuccessful with the ladies and whilst you do possess a skill which many don't, you can't utilise it.
People here aren't haters, but would just rather not take advice on girls from someone who is a virgin.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
hes post was one of the best in this whole thread...ElStud said:Exactly, this is a thread on approaching, however people attack my game? That is nothing but BS hating. Constructive criticism? Nah, it's just looking for a fight.
Blah blah blah bloodi blah blah blah blah. When you say something useful I'll reply.
finally I see a post that I like. a post that is not all negative and that is not complaining about something.ElStud said:Hey guys this is ElStud and today I'm gonna talk about my views on approaching from what I've experienced. I know right off the bat that not everyone's going to agree with this, but I don't care. This is basically gonna be a guide to help newbies get better at approaching and get over their approach anxiety.
So why are guys afraid to approach girls?
Why are guys afraid to approach girls? I can answer this one word, they fear being rejected by the girl. They fear that the girl won't like them or that they are not good enough for the girl. But let's look deeper into this, why are they afraid of being rejected? Well because they have an insecure mindset and have bad beliefs. They are not "Confident" in their approach. So yes, insecurity and bad beliefs are the two main reasons guys are afraid to approach. And these insecurities and bad beliefs ultimate lead to...
Approach Anxiety
Approach Anxiety is what it is which is when you see a girl and you're afraid to talk to her. This is a common problem that most newbies have and it comes from the fear that you will be rejected by the female. The fear that she will not like you, the fear that you are not good enough for her, the fear that what you say isn't going to work. That's approach anxiety for you.
So how do you get over Approach Anxiety?
Well to be honest at this point, even I still get a little AA but in the end I'll still approach. But how do you weaken your AA and become more comfortable with approaching? Easy, you just keep approaching and approaching until you're comfortable with it. It's kind of like you see a set and even though you are nervous, you eventually just grab your balls and approach the set. That's how I got more comfortable with approaching.
Okay, I get that. But the thing is, I don't know what to say when I finally do approach the girl. Any tips?
You need something to say to the girl after approaching? "Hey, how's it going?" it's simple as that. Don't worry about if the convo doesn't go any further than that and don't worry if she rejects you. Just go up there and say "Hey, how's it going?". Alternatively, if you want to try something different than that, there are a lot of canned openers out there that you can use. Personally they're not my style though. But really don't worry too much about what to say, as it's more body language and subcommunication that matters.
But ElStud what if I get rejected?
So what dude, there are plenty of other women out there, you'll live if one girl rejects you. There'll be other fish in the sea bro don't worry too much about it. Just focus more on actually having the balls to approach and talking to the girl for right now.
Once again you know everything, great!oakraiderz2 said:Ohhh man. Elstud threads are HILARIOUS. You guys are great, and i shall rep you for making me giggle. Its funny how this chode thinks hes better than everyone else because he can approach. He doesnt get any further because 1) girls arent attracted to him cause he has no clue how to create attraction and he has a BAD personality
2) he hates girls (another ball busting post)
3) he wouldnt know what to do with a girl god forbide he actually make it remotely that far
Add all of those things together and you get why Elstud has NO GAME or anything of the sort. At the very least you would think he would work on his personality or himself overall, but he wont because his ego is the size of f*ckin jupiter, which explains why he thinks hes hot sh*t cause he can get a fake phone number. This kid is a JOKE. Im pretty sure everyone who knows him personally probably cant stand him because hes an arrogant pretentious little sh*t.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.