Eliminating insecurities....

[FM 3321]

After going through my first relationship ever and seeing it end has made me really sit back and think of how badly I need to get rid of my insecurites.

One of them is my bodyfat. Part of me says "no, you don't need to lose that fat, you just need to work on your personality to get the ladies you want".

The other part of me says "Losing that bodyfat will eliminate an insecurity I have of myself and therefore increase my chances of being successful with women."

So I know that there should be references to ideas like this but I'm not sure where exactly to find them. I've always had the mindset even before I found all this material that "I need to get in shape before I start talking to women." It seems to hold be back when I want to go to the gym and in my dealings with women.

What are your thoughts on eliminating your insecurities? What insecurites do men need to eliminate?

 

[quest]

i am most insecure about my smile..

i never got teased about it when i was young, no one has ever said anything about it.
but off to my right of my front too there wasn't enough room and one tooth grew kind of behind the other 2, leaving like, a large gap with a tooth at the back..
i want braces, but i'm 21. it seems to old to get braces, i think they'd REALLY affect my game..

also my body needs alot of work, but i can still get chicks regaurdless...

 

[MindOverMatter]

I already said this in another thread like 2 mins ago, but here it goes again.

Girls are just as visually attracted as guys are. They can be just as superficial. Personality DOES matter, but if a girl does not find you attractive, all the personality in the world wont make her go crazy for you. If a girl finds you hot, you'll be surprised at how little work you have to put in to make her yours.

If you are fat, stop eating like a pig, start working out, and develop a body that you will not be ashamed of. Stop looking for an easy way out. Personality, confidence, C&F, neg-hits, all that sh!t can help your game, but if she's not attracted to you, it's all for nothing.

Thinking in your head you are the prize wont fool her into seeing you as one, you need to BECOME the prize.

Good luck bro.

 

[quest]

its totally true..

thats my problem with braces for example..
i know if i get them now, they'd be off by say, 23, and really, 23 onwards is still PLENTY of time to be scoring chicks..
and also, they wouldn't make me completely out of the game, i don't know how reduced my scoring would be, maybe not at all?

but i think that i can be "hot" without the braces, prob need some time in the gym..
girls used to rate me a 7, and i feel far more attractive now.. so i think that working on my body and getting that where i need it to be, maybe my teeth isn't a problem..

i still pickup chicks all the time, but almost always night club scene. i suppose i need to try some cold approaches on some hot chicks to really know... maybe i'll try some at uni when we start back.

 

[Fender]

Erm, chances are, u didnt break up with your last Girl cuz u were fat.

Moving on...you should get rid of that fat - the only thats stopping you is that lazy son of a B*tch AFC inside you. Go do some lifting and watch your diet a little more carefully. Mix it in with a sport you enjoy and you'll be a crazy chick magent. It will do wonders for your self esteem and most importantly, you'll feel like a million bucks!