Eliminating insecurities, how does a man do it? What is it?

[FM 3321]

I've heard and read in many places that one of the keys to being successful with women is to "eliminate insecurities." Now maybe I'm not paying attention or whatever but what exactly does that mean? What are the insecurities that guys need to eliminate?

Off of the top of my head I think of my insecurities as being out of shape, driving an old car, not having the money I want, still living with my parents at 25, needing improvement on my dressing style, not having a college degree yet, and needing a hair cut at the time I type this.

Eliminating insecurites is I think one of the big things we on this forum have to deal with but I feel like I need some clarification on what that really means. If someone knows the answer or a link to answer my question that would be very helpful. Plus, is there a way to permanantly eliminate insecurities? I'd like to know.

 

[mactheripper]

It's that little voice inside your head that say's your not good enough for that HB10. Crush it at all costs, but be realistic at the same time. Easier said than done, the balance we all strive for.

Then again, if you can convince yourself that you're all that, then maybey you can convince a girl too.

 

[DJStudent]

You already got the idea, you just need to work on them.

If those are your insecurities then, work on them slowly. See the improvement in yourself and your confidence will rise. Easist one to work on is the whole physical thing. I'm talking about your physical shape.

Go to the gym and get fit to where you're happy with the way you look.

The rest of your insecurities all tie together and can be all knocked out with one blow. That is to get a college degree. Focus on getting a degree first and the rest will come to you. Money means, nice car, buying things you need, buying better clothes, getting out fo the house and in your own place, and yes it will even get you a hair cut

You're only 25 and still young, get to improving yourself and enjoy it the rest it for the rest of your life.

Depending on how far your education is everything will change in 2 years.

Took me 1 year to change how I look physically and that's going to the gym everyday for a year for 2-3 hours at a time. I went from being a stick to ripped, that's harder than being fat and slimming down. As far as education.... it's coming along, but it has nothing to do with my success with girls. I'm broke but the still love me

 

[PVSSY-EATER]

hey whats up bro! To answer your concern....

well, there is good news and bad news, you want bad news first? okay..

we probably will never be able to totally eliminate fear and insecurities from our lives, the man that can do that is a perfect man, and that man trust me will not be walking around earth.

However, we must understand that we cannot eliminate fear or insecurities, but we can, master them.

By keeping a positive attitude, it allows you to continue doing what is right or what you must do at the time, regardless of being nervous, being scared, being whatever.

Haha, hope you dont get too upset with me, but that little voice in your head that says you are not good enough will always be there.

But with a positive attitude......you continue and press on in spite of that voice...and you eventually make that voice out to be a liar, and guess what......even though you heard him say you are not good enough, you now will know....that he is lying!

You got it bro!

 

[squirrels]

Recognizing opportunities, taking them, and creating new ones. And most importantly, faith in oneself.

 

[Life-Trainee]

Insecurities work in mysterious ways. Our subconscious minds will go into great and creative measure to preserve them. You are not always conscious of them. The best way is to educate youself about insecurities, mate with their women and in time the differences will be indistiguishable.

 

[bullmoose]

What's an insecurity?

 

[PVSSY-EATER]

bullmoose, insecurity is a voice.

Insecurity is that voice in your head that tells you that you are not good enough....despite, whatever reasons.

Insecurity is a challenge for every person walking the earth, but there is a way to master it.

Remain positive, and eventually, your insecurities will not bother you as much, they wont ever go away, but they will not be a hinderance.

Stay positive and keep going, in spite of fear, nervousness, or depressionl

 

[bullmoose]

Originally posted by PVSSY-EATER
bullmoose, insecurity is a voice.

Insecurity is that voice in your head that tells you that you are not good enough....despite, whatever reasons.

Oh, yeah, I remember that voice.

I stomped that little fvcker's guts out in the swamps of Parris Island.

 

[Visceral]

To God Damn Fvcking Hell with muscles, cars, money, living at home, clothes, college, and style!!!

Insecurity is thinking these things have any bearing on your worth as a human being.

Having these things makes your LIFE better, not yourself better.

 

[whistler]

I'm a firm believer in:

Childhood rejection (<18) --> Dwelling in isolation on what you you think led to the rejection --> Fear and reluctance in social situations

Being in a context similar to those in which you were rejected will trigger you insecurities... and they're probably well entrenched and extremelt difficult to "re-program."

But make addressing your insecurities a priority.

Persistence in the gym or in your running shoes or starting conversations or improving your look or getting an education should help counteract those old triggers.

whistler

 

[FM 3321]

Well I think I have a better idea of what an insecurity is. I think it's one of those things that you hear or read all the time but sometimes slips by you.