Ehh...My Situation I guess?

[LaoRyuu-Des]

Umm where to start....Well I guess I could give a little background for starters.
Well all my life I haven't really been the social type, as a result of my past. I can count on one hand how many girlfriends I've had, which is what three I believe? I've been rejected more times than I can count on both hands though. I'm 15, going on 16 now in September and a Sophomore in High school. The last girlfriend I had was in 8th grade and that was a disaster. I think I need help.

About me, I'm not athletic at all. Yet I'm pretty fit in my opinion. I can outrun most people I know, but that's about it. Which is odd because my entire life I've had asthma problem becomes of a condition I have. I guess the surgery I had last year really helped because I can go a helluva a lot longer now without becoming winded. Anyway, I'm one of those anime/manga lovers for you guys' information. *Points to username* That may have given it away. I think that's lead a lot of people to look at me differently. I draw, quite often as well and it's mostly manga stlye, but I do draw other styles. I'm also a computer nerd, to an extent. Ummm what else....I read difficult looking literature apparently. People question why I carry around a rather thick book with a collection of Edgar Allen Poe's works with me, but I've just started carrying around with me because of a lack of space. Ehhh.....oh yeah clothing. My style is....awkward I would say. I wear FUBU, Ecko, and Sean Jon. That's a result of my mom wanting me to look as she says "normal". I prefer the style I created that's basically the style my brother created in high school with a bit of the style my mom tried to make. If you'd like an example, ask for it.

Alright I believe that covers everything about me. Not quite sure if that info was necessary but I gave it anyway. Now about my current situation. I like two girls, both don't like me back however. I thought at least one did, but I was wrong. Both are still good friends of mine though. I asked one of them what they thought of me. She told me I was a nice boy, that I wasn't ugly, and some other things that I guess was supposed to boost my self-esteem. She also said she that she had to stay dedicated to someone else. That person apparently hurt her in the past, but she still has feelings for him. I really wanted it to work, and even another friend at the table I eat lunch said we should date. I didn't really have anything to say because we (me and the girl I like/liked) already talked earlier about that. With the other girl, I believe it's just a lost cause.

At this point I figure myself to be hopeless. I said I would give up on high school relationships, but I don't think I can. I want to change for the better. I'm too damn shy and have no confidence in myself, this stems from self-esteem issues. All of the girls I've liked thus far only wanted to remain friends with me. Nothing more. I'm starting to think I should just avoid trying to start relationships with existing friends. It's not working out for me at all. The last girlfriend I had I barely even talked to. I just don't know what to do at this point.

 

[L Duke]

read eckhart tolle 's book "the new earth"

or go on itunes and download tolle's interview with oprah

the book will change you
worked for me

 

[Triple T]

Seems like your the kind of guy that pulls straight A's in school. Its good but to an extent, if you have no social skills/connections than it does you no good in the future.

You also seem like the "nice guy" that no girl likes. I must warn you that you will be critized by us, but don't take any of it as a put down. Take it as a way of us transforming you for the better.

Read the DJ bible, learn ****y & Funny techniques as well as overcoming your shyness and a TON of other useful information in there.
Also, after you read it...APPLY it.


I used to be just like you. I was the "nice guy", the shy guy. But I changed all that, you just have to come out of your shell like I did.

Start by:
1) Expanding your social circle - Since you like manga I'd suggest you find other people who like it too and from there you can start improving your social skills and overcoming your shyness.
BUT I'd highly suggest getting into a sports team of some sort. They give you bigger social circles and get you more active/fit. :yes:

2) Fixing your confidence - I'd suggest going to the gym and working out. You'd be suprised at how much a confidence boost it is! Take it from me, after a few months you feel great, look great, and above all you are confident as hell!! It also improves your lifestyle and is very benefitial to your health.

3) Thinking POSITIVE - I can't stress that enough. When you think positive it opens new doors to your world. I used to be the shy guy, now i'm the cheerful, confident, happy guy that everyone LOVES to be around! (including the ladies)
My secret? Thinking positive.
Don't dwell on those negative thoughts or those bad moments you have had in the past. You can ONLY think about them when you are LEARNING from them, don't think about them any other time or else it'll get you down.

4) Reduce the Niceness - I tell you this because I used to go overboard with being "nice". Everyday I'd compliment a girl thinking that she would fall for me. Well I was wrong.
You can still be nice, but reduce it. You don't spoil girls with compliments or else they WILL get annoyed with you. Think about it, put yourself in their shoes.


I can go on and on and on...but quite frankly the DJ bible covers most of this stuff. Read up on that, and apply it to your life. Pretty soon it'll be second nature to you.
If after reading the bible you still have questions post them up.
Also, check out the DJ Tips section...theres some pretty good advice there.

Good luck bro, also an example of your style would help.

3T

 

[canadianmetalhead]

Dont throw in the towel man, you are in a perfect position. you are 15 years old and are beginning to become conscious of things that most people dont see until they are much older. If you're good at running, practice, develop that, and try out for the track team next season. it will help boost your confidence and also help make a name for yourself. there are always plenty of girls on track teams (who are also fit ). As far as the computer goes, try to eliminate it form your life (if all you do is play video games and stuff). search "weapons of mass seduction" and read the intro regarding computers tv etc. we waste a lot of time on these things when we could be using it to develop ourselves. Also, if you like to read those books...then read them, **** what other people think. reading is a great hobby, and much better than playing video games all day, they teach you things and how to use your imagination.

from what i get man you're in a great spot, you like to draw, you like to read, you have athletic potential, i think you just need to read the dj bible, and apply what you learn. You have a lot of hobbies and stuff in place to help you develop yourself. just remember to not place success on a girlfriend, but on the development of your own life.

 

[LaoRyuu-Des]

Alright, well I plan on starting the Boot Camp pretty soon. But I'm starting it with the other guys here on the....28th I believe which is right after school lets out. I have yet to read the DJ Bible but I'm willing to do so whenever.