Ego, hating to lose and not wanting to quit

[Ricky]

You know the whole thing with my recent ex made me evaluate things a bit more on how I feel after a breakup.

I have boiled it down to a few things. One of course was that I thought this girl was the best of the women I've dated. She also talked alot about moving to be with me, etc, I was excited.

However I started thinking about other breakups where it was the girl breaking up with me as well and maybe I wasn't so in to her anyways.

What I've come to discover is that

1) EGO is a big part of it. She broke up with me. It kind of puts you into a bit of self doubt or pissed off mode after a breakup. Even if she wasn't right for you, now your ego took a hit.

2) Hating to lose- Sometimes dating is seen as a win lose thing. The thing that bothered me about this girl was that initially she had way higher interest than me (of course I had other girls I was dating at the time). I hate the fact that she lost interest or got scared

3) Hating to quit- Not only don't I want my ego to take a hit and I don't want to lose, I feel like giving up sometimes is like quitting. I never quit at work or school, so why should I quit here.

So in all a part of me still wants to win her back (actually a large part). In the meantime I will go out and have sex with as many other girls as I damn well please though.

We talked for an hour tonight. I use her for target practice on my material, ****y funny, seduction stuff etc. I may as well get some use out of her. And yes I will win her back, I can see the interest rising. But would I take her back? Don't know.

You might ask why I'm so confident about this? It's because I have another ex that calls me every day I don't always answer, but she has had a horrible year and I genuinely feel bad for her and want to be her friend. She lost her mom and brother this year). But we dated for longer for 3 years also. I think she wants to get back together, of course I'm in a new town and know better but she also makes damn good practice too.

In the end I don't quit. I do diversify my portfolio and get other girls, but I will keep bugging these girls just to have some booty call in town lined up.

 

[Slickster]

Ricky I read many of your posts and have tried to give you some helpful advice. Now I'm beginning to see that you are beyond help. (At least for the time being.)

Just a little outsider's perspective on your scenario.

1. You've got oneitis - Bigtime!

2. You're living in the past.

3. You're on an emotional rollercoaster.

4. You're letting your ego control you.

5. You like to rationalize your actions and thoughts so you feel like you are doing the right thing. When all along deep down you know better.

6. You claim to be pursuing other interests including women yet we don't really hear to much about them. Are you being honest with yourself?

In summary:

Welcome to Chumpsville. Population - YOU!!

Listen Rick I don't mean to be harsh on you. I am a friend. You know that. Its just tough to see a bro who has everything going for him and so much potential, get bent out of shape over a woman.

Until you decide to change these patterns you've created for yourself I expect we'll be seeing a lot more of these sad-assed posts from you.

SNAP OUT OF IT DUDE!!!!

Consider your arse kicked!

Peace

 

[Ricky]

Slickster I agree. But thanks for putting it that way.

I am suffering from P U S S Y dependent confidence. I am putting way too much importance on that one girl and that is leading me to not go out now and not score. Not a ****ing good think at all.

 

[Slickster]

No worries Rick. I'm sure you'll return the favor someday.

People who achieve greatness in any venture all share one common trait.

The ability to pick themselves up off of the mat when they are knocked down.

I see better days ahead bro.

Good luck.

 

[iveyleeger]

She's torturing you with these little talks. Stop it. Make a clean break.