"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Hi all.

I've been struggling lately with maintaining erections. Doesn't happen during masturbation, only sex.

This is a new thing for me. Never had an issue before but it's happened with the last two women I've slept with and it's quite hard to deal with (pun not intended).

I'm 36, am in very good physical shape, have a good job with q very good income and have no idea why this is happening to me.

I really want things to work with my girlfriend but since I became RP aware, I've kind of stopped wanting to have a lot to do with women. Have any of you had a similar experience after internalising the red pill?

I struggle to even get in the mood lately and I can't understand why
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Cut the porn mate that has desensitised me before. Now I use my eyes and imagination. So if you see a 10 take a few snapshots with your eyes and store those images in the wank bank for afterwards and buy a pocket ***** with lube
 

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Take a Cialis pill around 5-6pm. That could be only a temporary solution though, you should go to a specialist.
 

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I don't think it has to do with internalizing the red pill. I think it has to do with frying dopamine receptors with porn, and a tight grip when jacking off.
what he said, its most likely all psychological.

you can test this theory by abstaining from viewing any women online. and abstain from touching your LeRoy.

for the first week he will shrink and go cold, week 2 you should start getting more plump, and by week 3 you will have morning wood that could go through granite.
 

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If this only happens during sex, not fappin, then it's almost unquestionably caused by porn addiction. Cut down on porn as much as possible, or quit it outright if you can. Fapping is fine by itself, but avoid porn.

In the mean time, take cialis, that stuff is a godsend. You can get it on bluechew.com or alldaychemist.com for cheaper. There is even a study that daily low dose cialis taken for a month can permanently increase size by a bit.
 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Hi all.

I've been struggling lately with maintaining erections. Doesn't happen during masturbation, only sex.

This is a new thing for me. Never had an issue before but it's happened with the last two women I've slept with and it's quite hard to deal with (pun not intended).

I'm 36, am in very good physical shape, have a good job with q very good income and have no idea why this is happening to me.

I really want things to work with my girlfriend but since I became RP aware, I've kind of stopped wanting to have a lot to do with women. Have any of you had a similar experience after internalising the red pill?

I struggle to even get in the mood lately and I can't understand why
Are you dealing with b1tchy and difficult women?
 

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Or coming to a realization that your gay.
Respectfully it happens.
 

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Some things that you can check:

- Sleep: whenever I have poor sleep my erection decrease. Im also using isochronic tones during the night and Im observing that my sleep quality increase using it. Its like binaural waves but doesnt require headphones... It uses the pause between one frequency to another to stimulate some frequency in your brain (meditation, sleep, relaxing, etc).

Im using this one:


You can use phone audio to sleep or put on computer or any audio device. On a comfortable volume.

Since sleeping is very important... Maybe this can help.

Some other things to check:

- Stress levels
- Magnesium
- Testo (but as you said to be physically active it might not be the problem)
- Maca root increased my libido too, so maybe you find it interesting.

But most cases where I have ED Im tired, sick or in with headaches.

They used to tell me about anxiety, but I dont think it messes too much with.

Hope those things can help you!
 

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If porn disappeared overnight, and there was no way to get it for a while, men would become chickhunters overnight.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Hi there. Am basically in the same situation. Here are my facts:
  • Quit porn about half a year ago. Have been a long time user, many years (nofap.com is the site for these kind of things)
  • Low stress levels (beyond this issue, which on the other hand is major)
  • No risk
  • Good or bad sleep doesn’t affect
  • Workout 4-5 times a week, eat healthy
  • Drink alcohol once a week, max.
  • Viagra didn’t help
  • No lust whatsoever; no fantasy, not when a picture flash by, not from seeing women in real life
  • Don’t fap and don’t feel a need for it
  • Sometimes a bit of morning wood
  • I saw an andrologist, it was a joke
  • Doctor couldn’t find any hormonal problems
  • Somewhat red-pilled and have changed interactions in the same way as OP describe. But I think the idea that red-pilling could be a cause should be taken seriously, although there is plenty of people here who of course is the exact opposite. In my case, I see some vague correlation.
  • Have had a sex life; notch count 13, a mistress or two.
Really long time since I’ve had sex, let’s leave it at that. I suspect this lack of libido/drive can be one explanation. Extremely high flake rate.

It’s my guess I likely wouldn’t function in the sack, difficult to tell.

I’ve dealt with stress using fapping and it has been a defence mechanism in general. nofap.com’s material reasons the same way. I’ve quit that “addiction”. That’s a positive thing.

I have no solution beyond staying away from porn/fapping and hope this “flatline” (as nofap.com calls it) cease to exist. A net-therapist says the best would be an “understanding girl” to investigate this with. What a joke.

I started taking a medication that correlates with when this problem started. But yes, maybe also dopamine-fried from porn/fapping. Maybe both causes at the same time.

I’ve experienced a lot of sh1t, but I’d say this is worst. As one might guess, I have a self esteem of like 3%, though a lot doesn’t show due to over compensation.
 
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There are so many different reasons why this can happen. There are times where I am absolute maniac and the wind can get me going. Then other times when my mind is in a different place nothing works. Same with dieting... if im cutting weight too quickly I suffer from ED.
 

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There are so many different reasons why this can happen. There are times where I am absolute maniac and the wind can get me going. Then other times when my mind is in a different place nothing works. Same with dieting... if im cutting weight too quickly I suffer from ED.
Fast weight cuts raise stress, which result in ED. But it might be worth it for the short term especially if you can hold it.
 

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Hi all.

I've been struggling lately with maintaining erections. Doesn't happen during masturbation, only sex.

This is a new thing for me. Never had an issue before but it's happened with the last two women I've slept with and it's quite hard to deal with (pun not intended).

I'm 36, am in very good physical shape, have a good job with q very good income and have no idea why this is happening to me.

I really want things to work with my girlfriend but since I became RP aware, I've kind of stopped wanting to have a lot to do with women. Have any of you had a similar experience after internalising the red pill?

I struggle to even get in the mood lately and I can't understand why
Fundamentally, I mostly agree with red pill. But it's mostly married boomers and no receipts. Lots of ebooks and digital programs. 0 receipts. some of the receipts that are avail aren't impressive and Tate took out a flamethrower on some of these characters. I have never heard a playboy say hypergamy and see receipts or a man go on about red pill &&& actually get girls. Not saying that it can't happen. I'm saying that I see fellas that pull actually get girls. not mental masturbate about celebrity gossip or love is blind. Wtf? ??

Get your testosterone checked. If you can fapp but sex is a problem, I suspect that the women are u attractive or too much porn.

How's your diet? Sleep? Beyond ED, it could be foreshadowing of serious health issues, circulation, stroke or heart disease. More likely it's too much porn since you said you fap.
 
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