Hey man.
I posted here last night about seeing Chantal today. I thought a lot about what you guys said, thanks a lot. I respect what you have to say. This is a short summary of what happend today:
When we get to her house she gets me something to drink, so I end up saying to her "You know I'm not really going to help you pick out an outfit do you? I don't want you to think of me as one of your gay friends." (or words to that effect)
She started laughing, and needless to say. I didn't help her pick out an outfit. Got out of that one. Ok, so I'm thinking about what you guys said, and I'm feeling very tense, the words "user", "friendzone" running through my mind.
Anyway, you said I should stop posting about this here. But today she tells me she likes me more than she should, and she doesn't know what to do. I just said "Well, I'm not going to do anything with you because you have a boyfriend." She's saying things like, "I've never been able to talk till one in the morning with anyone before"; "A guy who can hold a conversation is a turn on." Anyway, I had to take a friend to the doctor and left early (not that long with her today ).
Like clockwork, she phones me at 8:00 tonight. Just to talk. "What you been doing", "what turns you on?", etc. And she says to me, after talking for a while "Honestly, I really wanted you to kiss me today." I said, "Yes I wanted to, but you have a boyfriend and I'm not going to do anything while he is in the picture."
This girl is NOT using me, trust me on this. I am in the situation and I can see from how she looks at me, and touches me, and calls me everyday, things she says. She looked like she was going to cry when I left today (this situation is confusing for her). She did say to me, on the phone thsi evening, "I hope this isn't going to change anything between us."
She also said she wasn't going to stay with her BF much longer. She's talking about us bathing together. We talked about how sex together would be, mostly C&F, I'm like "No man would ever compare after you've had me."
She also TOLD me to call her or text her tomorrow. I don't want to follow orders, it gets boring talking EVER DAY on the phone. So i'll just text her?
I get the impression that she wants to have her cake and eat it too. She's torn between going out with me and her BF. She's told me that she's only known me a week, and she's not sure what to do. Looks like she wants me to sit and WAIT for her to break up with her BF. That's just AFC. She says she wants to see me again soon.
This whole situation is upsetting her. She is going with her BF to his prom on Friday, and she said she'll see what happens.
I don't think I should see her for a while. I think she'll get too comfortable seeing me while still going out with her BF. I'm also aware of the fact that she could run back to him at any moment.
She isn't breaking up with him because of ME, I'm just her motivation. She was complaning about him when I met her once 3 months ago. (we only started going out a week ago)
When I got to her house, she was dropping hints all over the place about being fed up with her BF. This is the first time I've seen her since I told her friend, "I can't do anything with her because she has a BF".
Thanks for any input
Santos
I posted here last night about seeing Chantal today. I thought a lot about what you guys said, thanks a lot. I respect what you have to say. This is a short summary of what happend today:
When we get to her house she gets me something to drink, so I end up saying to her "You know I'm not really going to help you pick out an outfit do you? I don't want you to think of me as one of your gay friends." (or words to that effect)
She started laughing, and needless to say. I didn't help her pick out an outfit. Got out of that one. Ok, so I'm thinking about what you guys said, and I'm feeling very tense, the words "user", "friendzone" running through my mind.
Anyway, you said I should stop posting about this here. But today she tells me she likes me more than she should, and she doesn't know what to do. I just said "Well, I'm not going to do anything with you because you have a boyfriend." She's saying things like, "I've never been able to talk till one in the morning with anyone before"; "A guy who can hold a conversation is a turn on." Anyway, I had to take a friend to the doctor and left early (not that long with her today ).
Like clockwork, she phones me at 8:00 tonight. Just to talk. "What you been doing", "what turns you on?", etc. And she says to me, after talking for a while "Honestly, I really wanted you to kiss me today." I said, "Yes I wanted to, but you have a boyfriend and I'm not going to do anything while he is in the picture."
This girl is NOT using me, trust me on this. I am in the situation and I can see from how she looks at me, and touches me, and calls me everyday, things she says. She looked like she was going to cry when I left today (this situation is confusing for her). She did say to me, on the phone thsi evening, "I hope this isn't going to change anything between us."
She also said she wasn't going to stay with her BF much longer. She's talking about us bathing together. We talked about how sex together would be, mostly C&F, I'm like "No man would ever compare after you've had me."
She also TOLD me to call her or text her tomorrow. I don't want to follow orders, it gets boring talking EVER DAY on the phone. So i'll just text her?
I get the impression that she wants to have her cake and eat it too. She's torn between going out with me and her BF. She's told me that she's only known me a week, and she's not sure what to do. Looks like she wants me to sit and WAIT for her to break up with her BF. That's just AFC. She says she wants to see me again soon.
This whole situation is upsetting her. She is going with her BF to his prom on Friday, and she said she'll see what happens.
I don't think I should see her for a while. I think she'll get too comfortable seeing me while still going out with her BF. I'm also aware of the fact that she could run back to him at any moment.
She isn't breaking up with him because of ME, I'm just her motivation. She was complaning about him when I met her once 3 months ago. (we only started going out a week ago)
When I got to her house, she was dropping hints all over the place about being fed up with her BF. This is the first time I've seen her since I told her friend, "I can't do anything with her because she has a BF".
Thanks for any input
Santos