"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Ears messed up from wrestling
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
NO MAN, no one will notice untill you even begin about it. Like if one of your legs is longer than the other you will be insecure about that, but actualy no one sees and even cares. SO DO IT. If you love wrestling there is that price to pay, the benefits are your strong and buff (i may hope so).
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
I never got it bad from hs wrestling, but I have since taken up jiu-jitsu, and it can be rough on the ears. Pulling your head out of a triangle or guillotine choke bends them backward. Sometimes I miss headgear.
LostAndConfused
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But honestly if your ears can get pulled forward from wrestling, perhaps you can tape them to the side of your head when you are at home and they'll slowly return to normal
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
The Inside Man
Master Don Juan
OP if you are that concerned about it you can have it surgically fixed, I'm sure you don;t have the career cauliflower of someone like dan henderson. I used headgear too but people don't use it for every single match or live practice, it only takes once to hurt the ear enough to make some cauliflower.
You can go under the knife, I think it is a plastic surgery procedure. I had gynecomastia when I was younger, since I was 13, not caused by steroids(all natural) or other drugs. I went under the knife to have it taken care of and it was hard, and it hurt, but in the end it was worth it not to have puffy nips. I felt like it was holding me back too because I had built some muscle and was still intimidated to take my shirt off. I recommend going for the procedure if it bothers you that much.
Wrestling comes with a price as other posters have indicated, I have had two knee surgeries and an upcoming shoulder surgery from injuries sustained while wrestling in high school, and made worse kickboxing and boxing in college. But you have not only the muscles and strength but also the ground know how to take out most people except for strikers with a good sprawl and good submission or JJ fighters. What you have suffered through and earned in wrestling will stay with you for the rest of your life in the form of inner strength and rugged belief in yourself. How many other sports do you not get to rely on your teammates? Not very many.