Earning respect and building social proof

[Rint]

Guys i need help i'm dying here. I always feel like i'm lower then all the playas at my school even though i hang with them alot. I feel hella uncomfortable around new people, and i stand out from the crowd and get no talk time. I want to say the right thing in groups to people. i'm always getting pushed around. I am sort of a push over, but i dont like giving people attitude when they ask me to do something. I rather be a good guy. It's pretty hard for me to become popular and build social proof. DL like i talked about in my past post can pass through a room, and everyone kisses his ass. He's a great guy. I'd rather have his social proof. HELP ME GUYS

 

[limerick]

I used to be like you... just talk to more people. if the teacher asks for people to read do it. get rid of your anxiety by desensitizing yourself to it.stand up for yourself but don't start being a **** to everyone. and as for meeting new people and stuff... just talk to them! im sending u on a newbie mission ok? go to any mall u want... and talk to every hot girl you see and ask them the time and do this until you're confident or at least not as intimidated by EVERYONE.

 

[Rint]

i know a guy who just talks to everyone. He's ****ing annoying and no one hangs around him. I talk to alot of new ppl and they invite me to hang out, but when we go out to lunch or something they're all talking and i'm all silent because i dunno what to say, and when i do say something it's just white noise to them

 

[CalmCoolAndConfident]

Dont be everyones favorite punching bag. stand up for yourself, and when people ask you to do something give them a snappy answer back but do it with humor.

 

[FreeFlow488]

yeah. don't take sh!t from people!

you know what that annoying guy looks like, so don't let yourself become him. get your name out there, get people to know you. make smalltalk with everyone, and just get your voice heard (not to be mistaken with trying too hard and seeking approval). just talk to people and don't be that little creepy weirdo that thinks everyone likes him and is annoying. just start out with 1 convo a day at school or something with someone new or someone you havent talked to in a while,then move on to 2, then 3, etc. you get the idea. or just do whatever you feel is best to move on and better yourself in conversation. it takes experience, and by pushing yourself, you'll do good. who cares about fvcking up? you only learn!