Eagerness

[Bingo-Player]

I did ok in 2023 with chicks got 4 lays , 7 dates and a lot of random kiss closes on nights out

But one recurring factor I kept coming back too was me being too eager , not only could I feel myself being too keen at times but a few girls actually told me you need to slow down its ruining the suspense , some were into me enough to go with it but a lot of girls actually got turned off from me being too eager to bed them

Not only that but looking back through all my messages and texts I can see I am being far too "open" far too "easy to read" and far too "available"

part of the feminine polarity is that they want too seduce its in her nature too want too seduce your attention away from other women and "win you "

She can't do this if your all over her like a rash and available at any given second, women need tension they need too fantasise about what you are doing and what it will be like too be with you thats why they love celebrity men ( they are generally unattainable )

As men we dont understand just how efficient women are at reading between the lines , we dont understand how easy it is for them to read us

Especially when it comes to things like social media and direct messages her mind is analysing every word you are sending

This is why so many men send paragraphs on text then get left on read and ghosted ..... you are just too dam boring and too dam predictable theres nothing for her to wonder about

I myself am guilty of doing this especially with a woman I am very interested in , I'll just be like an open book and even if interested to begin with she looses all interest very quickly

Conversely when I am not that bothered about a chick , my conversation tends to be shorter and more to the point because I am not that interested then she usually senses it and starts wanting me even more

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I have now taken a couple of months away from dating and approaching to try and take scope and self assess make some adjustments , I understand I need to become far more difficult for women to read , far more open ended and much more of a challenge for the women I meet

the good news is from what I understand A LOT of men are over eager with women so the competition is very very low

In 2024 i am going to completely overhaul my style of communication with women

A lot of work to do

 

[Bingo-Player]

Your eagerness is scarcity mindset. It's not that difficult to read. How many of the 'four lays' are you still having sex with?

None , I wasn't particularly interested in pursuing any of them for more which is probably why they were interested in the first place

I agree with scarcity mindset , I don't really meet enough women in my day to day life too combat it

Nearly all my approaches are usually cold or in Luke warm environments like the gym / bar

I'm nearly almost always thrown in at the deep end and trying too validate myself too my targets and from there its an uphill battle a lot of men I speak to are in exactly the same predicament

Going travelling next month so hoping this will help in meeting more girls on a day to day basis , my goal is too have a few chicks just as friends

 

[soulforge]

I did ok in 2023 with chicks got 4 lays , 7 dates and a lot of random kiss closes on nights out

But one recurring factor I kept coming back too was me being too eager , not only could I feel myself being too keen at times but a few girls actually told me you need to slow down its ruining the suspense , some were into me enough to go with it but a lot of girls actually got turned off from me being too eager to bed them

Not only that but looking back through all my messages and texts I can see I am being far too "open" far too "easy to read" and far too "available"

part of the feminine polarity is that they want too seduce its in her nature too want too seduce your attention away from other women and "win you "

She can't do this if your all over her like a rash and available at any given second, women need tension they need too fantasise about what you are doing and what it will be like too be with you thats why they love celebrity men ( they are generally unattainable )

As men we dont understand just how efficient women are at reading between the lines , we dont understand how easy it is for them to read us

Especially when it comes to things like social media and direct messages her mind is analysing every word you are sending

This is why so many men send paragraphs on text then get left on read and ghosted ..... you are just too dam boring and too dam predictable theres nothing for her to wonder about

I myself am guilty of doing this especially with a woman I am very interested in , I'll just be like an open book and even if interested to begin with she looses all interest very quickly

Conversely when I am not that bothered about a chick , my conversation tends to be shorter and more to the point because I am not that interested then she usually senses it and starts wanting me even more

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I have now taken a couple of months away from dating and approaching to try and take scope and self assess make some adjustments , I understand I need to become far more difficult for women to read , far more open ended and much more of a challenge for the women I meet

the good news is from what I understand A LOT of men are over eager with women so the competition is very very low

In 2024 i am going to completely overhaul my style of communication with women

A lot of work to do

I have always been aware of this fact when it comes to messaging chicks, even when in an established relationship.

I tend make less effort than her, shorter replies.. Either match her response time, or take longer than her.

Obviously this should ideally be done on a subconscious level, but unfortunately in order to keep these chicks interested who have 500 different options, these games are necessary.

 

[Bingo-Player]

I have always been aware of this fact when it comes to messaging chicks, even when in an established relationship.

I tend make less effort than her, shorter replies.. Either match her response time, or take longer than her.

Obviously this should ideally be done on a subconscious level, but unfortunately in order to keep these chicks interested who have 500 different options, these games are necessary.

I always viewed them as games but as I am getting older I am starting to understand that they are just fundamental differences between men and women

Women tend to over analyse communication a lot more than men , ive both had female freinds and worked with females who do this

" oh did you hear he said XYZ " , What did he mean by that !?! , "oh well I think he meant XYZ" , " I dont know it sounded wierd to me "

All of this would just completely go over a mans head and we would take whatever was said at face value

Women do not operate like this

In 2024 a message you send is likely to going to be sent to 4 girlfriends and maybe 2 group chats it needs to be water tight

 

[Divorced w 3]

Nice honest post, I dig it. Thank you for sharing.

 

[Bokanovsky]

I have the opposite problem. Women often think that I am distant, too aloof, don't care enough, etc. (I don't try to be like that on purpose, it's just my personality). So don't try to overdo it in the opposite direction.

 

[Bingo-Player]

I have the opposite problem. Women often think that I am distant, too aloof, don't care enough, etc. (I don't try to be like that on purpose, it's just my personality). So don't try to overdo it in the opposite direction.

Definitely need to find the sweet spot because yea you're probably giving off heavy player vibes and a lot of women don't like that either

Like I said in another post you will know when you hit the sweet spot because she will respond very positively and very quickly you will become the main feature in her life and in such a competitive environment that is where you need to be

theres. nothing you can do about women that aren't at all interested in you but if you're calculating and have an abundance of options its definitely possible to raise interest

women are merciless when it comes to interest and if you're doing something wrong you will know about it via a swift ghosting or very long response