during sex, what actions/moves should be best AVOIDED - common beginner`s errors?

[Cyledehysp]

what usually guys do wrong during sex, wrong as in turning her off, showing inexperience, or generally not leading to mega orgasms and satisfaction

I mean, what are MOST common ones, and what are simplest way to turn them around and make her remember this sex for a lifetime?

 

[svarog]

laughter is the biggest enemy of sex

 

[Celadus]

Do not slap her in her face with your penis. One of my friends was really inexperienced and asked two of my friends what girls liked. They said girls like it when you slap them in the face with your penis. He believed them. The next girl he slept with he pulled out, climbed up and tried to hit her. She asked what he was doing and he said "John told me to do it." He admitted it to us and she told me the same story a couple weeks ago.

Pretty funny.

Celadus

 

[Latinoman]

what usually guys do wrong during sex, wrong as in turning her off, showing inexperience, or generally not leading to mega orgasms and satisfaction

I mean, what are MOST common ones, and what are simplest way to turn them around and make her remember this sex for a lifetime?

Slapping/spanking/etc...without warning or previously talking to her about it.

Cold hands or feet making contact with her skin.

Bad odors (foot, mouth, under arms).

Biting without first putting her in the "wild mood".


Going for a very long time especially after she orgasm 5- 6 times ( wink - I'm guilty of that ).

Dirty or old (with holes) undies.

Wearing socks.

 

[AVERAGE & FRUSTRATED]

Slapping/spanking/etc...without warning or previously talking to her about it.

Your doing it wrong then.

 

[Latinoman]

Your doing it wrong then.

I'm not doing anything wrong.

I'm simply answering a question...not based on MY "experience" (I have had been having sex for over 20 years - and being very active at that). But based on general common sense and what some women have said to me about their experiences.

You will be surprise how many times women talk about how "pathetic" are many men in the sack. They talk to their girlfriends and the more blunt even tell their male friends.

 

[Wiesman44]

my first few times having sex I was literally a one minute man. Hope you'll do better than me on this one, as I didn't have much time to make any mistakes, lol.

My best advice is don't worry about how you perform the first few times. Just get them over with. You'll make some mistakes, its inevitable. Just get 'em under your belt.

 

[( . )( . )]

Slapping/spanking/etc...without warning or previously talking to her about it.

I strongly disagree.

 

[Cyledehysp]

thank you guys, for such nice friendly encouraging answers

I`m a fvcking old virgin and wnt to have sex and possibly will arange it soon

my experiences are two makeout/massaging, making out sessions, and each time I`m doing better

I now take some time to warm her up, and make her wait until I get to her tits or whatnot, and also use more than one hand to feel and etc. her, including my legs as well to multitask

however, as far as sticking my dyck into her, I know nothing about it, and actually during this last makeout/massaging I could have sex with her but I chickened out a bit (after waiting and wanting for so long!) and was satiesfied with just touching feeling each other

but now I feel like I want to take care of some inside blocking poinyts in me, and deal with my fears - and actually I`m not affraid anymore, atleast not so to not want to go for it

Just read Sex Secrets by David Deangelo, only 13 pages but seems like a great boog, seams to be in tune wuth what I already read here in various threads, and makes sence - It makes me feel more comfortable, since I feel now I do know some things about to pleasing her big time that ordinary guys dont know - but no ammount of info will replace real life experience and I know about this and actually I`m happy - I want to learn by actually having sex

however its still good to know how to NOT make a complete ass out of myself, hence reading da book and this thread

thanks againd and will appreaciate more input

 

[Cyledehysp]

yeah as for slapping in the ass, I`m freaking very not experienced, but slapped like 6 girls or so in my life and all, all liked it - of course I wasn`t walking around slapping random chicks (not untill I was piss drunk that one time, that is )


edit:
I was at her place, and asked: whats that, on your bookshelf? she asked what? (I was thinking: damn it stand up go see whats that and I`ll slap you by surprize!)

so I say: well, this behind the vase

-flower?
-no, the other thing (damn you women stand up and let me surprize you from behind!)

-what other thing, painting?

- no no, not that (allmoust giving up)

-well... (standing up, going near the shelf and bending totally down to see what I was talking about, exposing her ass totally in front of me, like a huge target marked with a friggin X)

SLAP!

well, she hasnt complained

 

[Jariel]

One of the most common beginner mistakes is jumping into sex without foreplay. Foreplay is what defines a great lover!

Also, try to avoid emulating porn. The way you touch her should be very delicate and should aim to tease her. You should always build very gradually to the fast and heavy stuff!

 

[Cyledehysp]

thanks, thats what I was doing last time (except the sex itself) partly by accident partly since I`v heard it before, and since we started with back bassage it took like 45 minutes before I reached her breasts, and from there a lot of time to her pvssy, and most of that pretty slowly and gently, carrasing whole body, not just goodies, next day she said I got something in my touch that shee needs, and it makes her senses to go crazy...


anyway, about oneminute man, I`m pretty sure I won`t be able to least for long, what can I do?

stimulate her with fingers/orally for long, before (if at all) going in (and letting her give me oral sex only?

or pergaps go in, ejaculate (comdom) and finish her off by hand/tongue?

or... ejaculate, continue shortly and second time shpould be better

edit: Jariel, you have more or less summed up deangelo book in this short paragraph, sounds good and makes sence

 

[johnmich]

Hi, i know this is not my thread but i also got a question. Most people who post say they can make a chick orgasm when they go down on her / finger her, but dont make her come when they shag her. Any good positions to make her come when you shag her?

 

[Nighthawk]

Also, try to avoid emulating porn. The way you touch her should be very delicate and should aim to tease her. You should always build very gradually to the fast and heavy stuff!

Teasing is super-important, but so is using the dominant attitude prevalent in porn films. And don't go easy on the fast and heavy stuff. The faster and heavier the better.

Hi, i know this is not my thread but i also got a question. Most people who post say they can make a chick orgasm when they go down on her / finger her, but dont make her come when they shag her. Any good positions to make her come when you shag her?

From behind, while pulling her hair from the base of the neck, violently.

Never fails.

 

[True Realness]

Hi, i know this is not my thread but i also got a question. Most people who post say they can make a chick orgasm when they go down on her / finger her, but dont make her come when they shag her. Any good positions to make her come when you shag her?

Many women are not able to orgasm with just vaginal penatration, it's all about cL1T stimulation. As far as positions to try, I've had success making my ex come by doing her doggy as my jewels would lightly brush against her cL1T with each in-stroke. Also from this position, I'd have her masturbate herself while I smashed it from behind. From missionary, try to in-stroke very deeply as this will allow your pelvis/lower stomach area to bang against the cL1T stimulating it.

anyway, about oneminute man, I`m pretty sure I won`t be able to least for long, what can I do?

Try using a condom with either some thickness to it or simply use two condoms. This "might" desensitize you for a while which would allow you to go more freely. If all else fails, just wait for your second hard-on because you should be able to go a little longer after coming the first time.

 

[I'm Joe Dirt]

Try using a condom with either some thickness to it or simply use two condoms.

Using two condoms is a VERY VERY bad idea. The friction will cause heat, which will SIGNIFICANTLY RAISE the likelyhood of the condoms bursting or tearing, and you DEFINITLEY don't want that.

I learned that in sex ed in high school, I can't believe someone would actually suggest doing that.

 

[Nighthawk]

Don't shout 'mommy!' when you come.

 

[Latinoman]

I strongly disagree.

It shows inexperience if you for the first time spank or smack a woman. It is an act that NO EVERY woman likes. I will tell you why...no every one has the same pain resistance.

Several women have told me (or told my ex- in front of me) that they have lost their rythm when their boyfriend/lover/etc. have spanked her without she expecting it. I have asked them..."Did you tell him?" And their answer is typically..."No...I didn't want to hurt his feelings" or "No".


Spanking/smacking/whatever is something that is done well by somebody that understand TIMING and understand his partner. Just because a woman didn't tell you "I didn't like it"...does't me that she liked it.

Women tend to be very sensitive about our feelings in the bedroom. I personally encourage my LTR partners in the past and present to tell me straight up if there is something that she doesn't like. Because when it comes to it...what one woman might like, another might hate.

Another thing...some men have strong hands (I know I do). If I smack another man...I would probably knock him down.

 

[Latinoman]

Also, try to avoid emulating porn.

EXACTLY.

 

[Zerotwoonenine]

ok the first mistakes the most guys is that they just go straight in there. In most of the times ,its usually one kiss, everything off and they thrust, roll, grunt and sleep, leaving the girl running.
Firstly like us trying to get it up, girls needs theirs to fill with blood to feel good as well, otherwise if you just thrust, it will end in wear and tear.
Before the inital contact, you need to make sure to get her in the mood, usually with at least 30 min of forplay, but without touching/licking/etc, that means you can go for kisses but dont touch or allow her to touch you, this will build up anticipation and get you both in the mood.
after 30 mins for forplay, go for the ggggggggggg-spot, for more on this, google it, when you know how its done, i promis she will beg for more.
Goodluck