during sex 180? What happened? what next?

[get1]

Hi guys,.the quick story is..

I've been gaming this HB9 for the last 3 months. talked a lot, caught up seldom but high quality time when we have as she's been getting out of a rel'ship and I've slept with her on numerous occasions.

her ex is obsessive and won't leave her alone. I'm playing a kind of tentative interest game, we chat a fair bit and she has grown a lot closer and more attached. She is now completely separated from him and I think she is in the stage she is working out what to do next...all her friends are single but she is the kind of girl who needs a guy there, she left each of her ex'es for someone else...

everything is going well and the other night she comes over, we're in bed and she actually made all the moves on me to get me naked and we're getting into it then out of nowhere she stops and goes "i promised myself I wouldn't be with you tonight" and does a full 180. i said thats fine and keep going but she goes "i'm serious I want to sleep" OUT OF NOWHERE. I remained calm then in the end it was getting awkward so I say - if you want to go home feel free,,i'm not fussed if I don't see you again..i'd rather hang with girls who know what they're thinking..she leaves..very awkward sitch and i prepared myself to not see her again.

then today we talk and i say lets forget about last night and imagine we didn't even see each other. She agrees and we've had some incredible times together and a lot in common. Then she asks if I have changed my feelings for her and I say no, lets just forget about it...

And now she is acting like nothing ever happened. However imo there is much more to the story and I'm trying to work out what the best strategy would be with this girl to lock her in.

I'm thinking my best option is to disappear and be really busy for a while so she starts to realise she doesn't have me necessarily. then catch up again. Whats the best frame in this situation. As i said she is the kind of girl who goes from guy to guy but only LTRs.

Thoughts? Opinions? Insights? THANKS

 

[Metaphysical]

what the best strategy would be with this girl to lock her in.

oh god. it's not supposed to be a strategy. these little games only last for so long. you cannot keep pushing and pulling all your life or else you won't have mental ability for anything else in your life.

what you need man is to find women who are attracted to you naturally, without the games or the tricks.

 

[get1]

haha easy to say metaphysical but my inner game is great. I have my life set up where I meet dozens of girls a week,,in terms of approach i'm bang on, numbers, dates, **** closing - bang on. This girl is very attracted to who I am, I live a busy and interesting life with parallels to hers and her "mission statement."

The trouble is though she has just broken out of a long term relationship and basically left him for me. She is attracted and has become more so and has broken away from her ex over the last 6 weeks. What I mean when I said strategies and games is what card of my personality should I play. Naturally most people are very loving but if you played this card all the time from the start you would play a losing hand. What I am asking is if anyone has advice for a situation where a girl is attracted however she is confused and maybe stretched between several ideals. I.e friends saying stay single. her saying be with me, her ex making her feel guilty and so on.

any advice from someone who doesn't pick out one line from the above and try to advertise their website? imo, david d, brad p,rsd and mystery and all those guys are much better.

Cheers.