Hi guys,.the quick story is..
I've been gaming this HB9 for the last 3 months. talked a lot, caught up seldom but high quality time when we have as she's been getting out of a rel'ship and I've slept with her on numerous occasions.
her ex is obsessive and won't leave her alone. I'm playing a kind of tentative interest game, we chat a fair bit and she has grown a lot closer and more attached. She is now completely separated from him and I think she is in the stage she is working out what to do next...all her friends are single but she is the kind of girl who needs a guy there, she left each of her ex'es for someone else...
everything is going well and the other night she comes over, we're in bed and she actually made all the moves on me to get me naked and we're getting into it then out of nowhere she stops and goes "i promised myself I wouldn't be with you tonight" and does a full 180. i said thats fine and keep going but she goes "i'm serious I want to sleep" OUT OF NOWHERE. I remained calm then in the end it was getting awkward so I say - if you want to go home feel free,,i'm not fussed if I don't see you again..i'd rather hang with girls who know what they're thinking..she leaves..very awkward sitch and i prepared myself to not see her again.
then today we talk and i say lets forget about last night and imagine we didn't even see each other. She agrees and we've had some incredible times together and a lot in common. Then she asks if I have changed my feelings for her and I say no, lets just forget about it...
And now she is acting like nothing ever happened. However imo there is much more to the story and I'm trying to work out what the best strategy would be with this girl to lock her in.
I'm thinking my best option is to disappear and be really busy for a while so she starts to realise she doesn't have me necessarily. then catch up again. Whats the best frame in this situation. As i said she is the kind of girl who goes from guy to guy but only LTRs.
Thoughts? Opinions? Insights? THANKS
I've been gaming this HB9 for the last 3 months. talked a lot, caught up seldom but high quality time when we have as she's been getting out of a rel'ship and I've slept with her on numerous occasions.
her ex is obsessive and won't leave her alone. I'm playing a kind of tentative interest game, we chat a fair bit and she has grown a lot closer and more attached. She is now completely separated from him and I think she is in the stage she is working out what to do next...all her friends are single but she is the kind of girl who needs a guy there, she left each of her ex'es for someone else...
everything is going well and the other night she comes over, we're in bed and she actually made all the moves on me to get me naked and we're getting into it then out of nowhere she stops and goes "i promised myself I wouldn't be with you tonight" and does a full 180. i said thats fine and keep going but she goes "i'm serious I want to sleep" OUT OF NOWHERE. I remained calm then in the end it was getting awkward so I say - if you want to go home feel free,,i'm not fussed if I don't see you again..i'd rather hang with girls who know what they're thinking..she leaves..very awkward sitch and i prepared myself to not see her again.
then today we talk and i say lets forget about last night and imagine we didn't even see each other. She agrees and we've had some incredible times together and a lot in common. Then she asks if I have changed my feelings for her and I say no, lets just forget about it...
And now she is acting like nothing ever happened. However imo there is much more to the story and I'm trying to work out what the best strategy would be with this girl to lock her in.
I'm thinking my best option is to disappear and be really busy for a while so she starts to realise she doesn't have me necessarily. then catch up again. Whats the best frame in this situation. As i said she is the kind of girl who goes from guy to guy but only LTRs.
Thoughts? Opinions? Insights? THANKS