Sorry to offend you Millerman by causing you to infer that your own personal worth was somehow intricately related to the personal qualities of someone you choose to spend time with.
Yes, you are in the right forum. The one where dissident viewpoints are accepted as a healthy part of any discourse. I know someone who has just completed his 50th year of marriage. His wife was attractive when young, but he had the occasional mistress in that time. And she held a grudge about it, and still does.
They argue sometimes. He is sometimes a hothead. I doubt whether either of them ever enjoyed "complete emotional and mental satisfaction" but they did raise 3 children and stay together 50 years.
The point of the story? Your approach seems to me to resemble a different permutation of the "soulmate theory". If you could only just find the perfect partner, bliss. Complete emotional and mental satisfaction. Like the "Rolling Stones" said, Just can't get no satisfaction.
Yes, you are in the right forum. The one where dissident viewpoints are accepted as a healthy part of any discourse. I know someone who has just completed his 50th year of marriage. His wife was attractive when young, but he had the occasional mistress in that time. And she held a grudge about it, and still does.
They argue sometimes. He is sometimes a hothead. I doubt whether either of them ever enjoyed "complete emotional and mental satisfaction" but they did raise 3 children and stay together 50 years.
The point of the story? Your approach seems to me to resemble a different permutation of the "soulmate theory". If you could only just find the perfect partner, bliss. Complete emotional and mental satisfaction. Like the "Rolling Stones" said, Just can't get no satisfaction.
