"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dumped because of low finance

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Hi,
how would you treat a lady who you were in love with in a long relationship,then immediatly you loose your job,she dumps you! coz of luck of finances.you really want her to feel guilty and fall madly in love again with you.what would you do?
regards,
Dedan
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Dumped But In Love

hi ,but what about if you are in love? and you dont want to let go? or what can you do to completly forget her.remove her out of your mind completly.and dont tell me to get another chick,coz thats the easiest way.you never know you can fall for a worser chick.then which other way can you get her out of your mind?
regards,
D.




f283000 said:
why would you keep pursuing a woman that leaves you cause you lost your job? let her go after some rich 90 year old and be happy. Find yourself a woman that wants you for who you are not your financial situationl.
 

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I just dropped a chick I REALLY liked. it gets easier after a week or two.
 

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[hi,
what did you do to get her out of your mind.
regards,
D.



QUOTE=Amazing]I just dropped a chick I REALLY liked. it gets easier after a week or two.[/QUOTE]
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Went out, talked to a lot of other girls. Made out with a couple.

This girl's personality was like PERFECT from our interaction, but I reminded myself that I still don't know a lot of things about her, and there have to be other girls there like her, who could be EVEN BETTER!!
 

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dedan said:
Hi,
how would you treat a lady who you were in love with in a long relationship,then immediatly you loose your job,she dumps you! coz of luck of finances.you really want her to feel guilty and fall madly in love again with you.what would you do?
regards,
Dedan
She didn't dump you because of your finances, she was just waiting for the best excuse and that was it.

Move on and find a good girl who likes you and wants to sleep with you.
 

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She wanted a provider and you no longer can .......NEXT!
Get yourself a new better job.Live your life.Forget her.
 

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Jesus Christ, don't you have better things to do with your time than worrying about someone who wants you to be their life support?

Shouldn't you be looking for a job?

If ANYTHING, consider this a BLESSING.
She did YOU a favor by dropping you like a bad habit because of something stupid like "losing your job". In today's economy, everyone's job is "unsafe" and if she wasn't willing to stand by you in such a dire time, she is NOT worth it.

I know some people will say: Spin plates, join a gym...

Which is all good and awesome things to do, but right now, you are kinda strapped financially. So I say, treat finding a new job as if it were your "daytime job" and at night, read a book, go out with friends, do some indoor exercises or just go out for walks. Maybe find a part-time job in the meantime to tide you over. Or something menial like walking dogs or plowing snow or whatever.
Just keep yourself BUSY.

This girl is NOT worth it.

And the sad fact is, spinning plates might be hard when they suddenly ask you what you do for a living and you say you are "Unemployed" (Because we know you WILL say that), you'll go through the same rejection all over again.

Time to move on. And be glad she dumped you for THAT reason.
 

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Why would you want to be with a gold digger anyway. If she is not prepared to stand by you in difficult times, she dont deserve to be around you in good times.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Cinamon said:
Why would you want to be with a gold digger anyway. If she is not prepared to stand by you in difficult times, she dont deserve to be around you in good times.
This.


Love is a feeling, like hate, anger, sadness. None of those feelings last forever. Get over your feelings and move forward.
 

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Cinamon said:
Why would you want to be with a gold digger anyway. If she is not prepared to stand by you in difficult times, she dont deserve to be around you in good times.
Yup. It's better you know now then later when sh*t matters even more. You got rid of a goldigger, be proud, not sad that she's gone. She's slightly classier than a hooker.
 

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Warrior74 said:
This.


Love is a feeling, like hate, anger, sadness. None of those feelings last forever. Get over your feelings and move forward.
i don't agree with this.

I sincerely believe genuine LOVE is something truly special and can last a life-time.
 

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teacha said:
i don't agree with this.

I sincerely believe genuine LOVE is something truly special and can last a life-time.

You see what you did there. You added a qualifier "genuine love". Which means we aren't talking about the same thing then are we? Apparently we were talking about being "In Love" not "Genuine Love". I've been "In Love" a half dozen times, and it always ends. But I have always loved my parents, siblings, offspring and life long friends. And you were afraid no one knew the difference eh? Bunch of ponces and dunces on this site.
 

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At least you know what you got before you marry it!!! If you think many women out there are not like this, you are in for a rude awakening!!!

I have been unemployed for several months because of an on the job injury and still have issues from that. I posted something several weeks ago about dating and being unemployed that sort of reminds me of this, but only the end and not beginning.

For the shallow chick that did not get the memo that times are hard out there, "Do not let your a$$ touch my door as you exit because you may get your filth on it!"

May times improve for you!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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teacha said:
I sincerely believe genuine LOVE is something truly special and can last a life-time.
Genuine love is also not something easily found and nurtured.

I don't believe there was any real love in this relationship with the goldigger. What he's experiencing right now must be withdrawal and some infatuation. I say infatuation because he liked the image of who he thought she was, not reality.
 

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Losing your job is most likely a time bomb with an invisible timer on it if you're in a relationship. If the woman hears this, you may only have a few minutes left in the relationship! She may or may not dump your ass. If she does, she's not worth taking back. If she stays trying to help you out or is able to give you a job, she's a keeper.

OP, you got your feelings hurt. I can tell. Don't deny it. You were in love. What did you see in her? Do you see the reality of the big picture. If not, I can't help you.

Get your life in order and then you will be able to keep a woman for the long term. But make sure she's a keeper.

Case closed. Work on yourself.
 

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My current girlfriend supported me for over a year while I made no money. She was smart enough to see my potential, and I am wise enough to value a woman who still wants me when I have nothing.
 

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dedan said:
Hi,
how would you treat a lady who you were in love with in a long relationship,then immediatly you loose your job,she dumps you! coz of luck of finances.you really want her to feel guilty and fall madly in love again with you.what would you do?
regards,
Dedan
If you just lost your job, don't you have more important things to deal with than romance??

Get your priorities straight, first of all. No job, no plan, and worried about who is and isn't "madly in love" with you?? Come on, man.


Second of all...if she's not gonna hang through the tough times, to hell with her. You can get another woman once you get back on your feet.
 
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