EbbsAndFlows
Don Juan
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- Jan 7, 2014
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Pretty self-explanatory.
The girl I've been seeing for 6 months is getting distant and irritable for the 2nd time in this relationship. Both times I have done something a not egregiously wrong and she got really emotional and pulled hard. Last time, I simply went NC and she came back begging for my time. I upped my game(initiate 15% contact, fun dates, good sex, etc.) and got another 3 months of healthy relationship under my belt, but maybe let myself slip into complacency again.
She's distant again after my last minor mistake 7 days ago, which is unwarranted, so I decided to initiate LC and more recently NC ahead of time. Been about a week now of low-to-no contact. Basically I apologized in a non-*****y way, which was warranted, and she got super irritable, angry, emotional, etc. She was inconsolable so I've let her be.
Been like 4 days radio silence. Again, I'm NC. I'm not bothering or anything. I've occupied myself with work, music, lifting, grown man ****. She had to work 12 hour days all through the weekend. Normally in this instance, she'd still be low contact but not radio silent.
Prior to the radio silence, she was all cute with me, emoticons and all that ****. She made time to see me just 7 days ago despite being overbooked. She'd been complaining about not seeing friends lately and being stressed from work. Smells like she's unsure if she wants to be in the relationship, and as a result I'm questioning it to and feel like her radio silence is immature.
Went out last night and scored 2 phone numbers, one from a total babe, and I plan to hit her up Tuesday if my girl hasn't reached out to me by then.
I'm thinking I should just dump her/ask for space. Thing is we have a lot of common friends, so I have to handle this delicately. I want it to sound mutual to her, but feel like I'm the one intiater (which I will be, technically).
Is this advised? How do I do it? I want to save face, keep the relationship power, and maybe hit it off with one my back-burner women.
The girl I've been seeing for 6 months is getting distant and irritable for the 2nd time in this relationship. Both times I have done something a not egregiously wrong and she got really emotional and pulled hard. Last time, I simply went NC and she came back begging for my time. I upped my game(initiate 15% contact, fun dates, good sex, etc.) and got another 3 months of healthy relationship under my belt, but maybe let myself slip into complacency again.
She's distant again after my last minor mistake 7 days ago, which is unwarranted, so I decided to initiate LC and more recently NC ahead of time. Been about a week now of low-to-no contact. Basically I apologized in a non-*****y way, which was warranted, and she got super irritable, angry, emotional, etc. She was inconsolable so I've let her be.
Been like 4 days radio silence. Again, I'm NC. I'm not bothering or anything. I've occupied myself with work, music, lifting, grown man ****. She had to work 12 hour days all through the weekend. Normally in this instance, she'd still be low contact but not radio silent.
Prior to the radio silence, she was all cute with me, emoticons and all that ****. She made time to see me just 7 days ago despite being overbooked. She'd been complaining about not seeing friends lately and being stressed from work. Smells like she's unsure if she wants to be in the relationship, and as a result I'm questioning it to and feel like her radio silence is immature.
Went out last night and scored 2 phone numbers, one from a total babe, and I plan to hit her up Tuesday if my girl hasn't reached out to me by then.
I'm thinking I should just dump her/ask for space. Thing is we have a lot of common friends, so I have to handle this delicately. I want it to sound mutual to her, but feel like I'm the one intiater (which I will be, technically).
Is this advised? How do I do it? I want to save face, keep the relationship power, and maybe hit it off with one my back-burner women.