Dumbfounded

[In10se]

Well im home and I feel confused but good about my decision...for all those as baffled as me...we Skyped plenty and she had FB she knew exactly what I looked like and was adamate about having sex with me. She would randomly send me nudes and specifically got waxed the day before I came. Speculation is useless at this point, I am torn whether to keep no contact or hit her up for an answer that will probably be bull**** anyway...every1 on the same page as pimp? Zero contact? Or do I try to get an explanation..idk?

 

[Jair213]

Well im home and I feel confused but good about my decision...for all those as baffled as me...we Skyped plenty and she had FB she knew exactly what I looked like and was adamate about having sex with me. She would randomly send me nudes and specifically got waxed the day before I came. Speculation is useless at this point, I am torn whether to keep no contact or hit her up for an answer that will probably be bull**** anyway...every1 on the same page as pimp? Zero contact? Or do I try to get an explanation..idk?

make her ass visit you now!!

 

[In10se]

She doesnt have that kind of money to just drop everything and come
Visit.

 

[Blistex]

Well im home and I feel confused but good about my decision...for all those as baffled as me...we Skyped plenty and she had FB she knew exactly what I looked like and was adamate about having sex with me. She would randomly send me nudes and specifically got waxed the day before I came. Speculation is useless at this point, I am torn whether to keep no contact or hit her up for an answer that will probably be bull**** anyway...every1 on the same page as pimp? Zero contact? Or do I try to get an explanation..idk?

No contact is the key. Forget about her because she's clearly not worth the hassle or energy that you've devoted to her all this time. She lives far and the onetime where she got to be with you, she ended up being no fun. You can speculate all you want as to why it was like this but that's not going to give you a definite answer and even asking her is not going to give you a definite answer as she will come up with excuses.

You left her place feeling strong, so continue to feel strong and meet other women. Life goes on.

 

[Blue Phoenix]

I laughed when I read this story although I can feel your pain.

You must be as frustrated as this guy!! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VFGs7wIy7Mw

:crackup:

 

[In10se]

(1/2) You know what its real rude how you left & how you can't even txt me to say you've made it home ok. Regardless if you're pissed about us not having sex I (2/2) welcomed you into my home cooked for you, cleaned after u, introduced u to my friends & ****in drove u around
If u cared about our friendship or respected me u could have least left a note sayin bye & thank you..I think I deserved that at the very least Obviously the sex was ur #1 thing to come for..is that why ur all ****in butt hurt & can't respond to me ur being an *******

Wat do u think guys? Very tempting to respond to her essay of texts

 

[In10se]

If i was going to respond i would say "I made my intentions perfectly clear and you were on the same ****ing page...i did not travel across country to play ****ing house with u"

 

[cordoncordon]

Here is what I would say.

"You are right, I neglected to say thankyou for the hospitality, and for that I apologize. So thank you. At the same time, having sex was imo at least, a very strong prerequisite in my coming out. I thought we were on the same page with that. Obviously not. Good luck with everything. XXXX

I mean yea, you should have said thanks for having you at her house, so that is a no brainer imo. And the sex? By saying what you do here, you come across as stating what you both thought would happen without looking like a ****.

 

[Blistex]

(1/2) You know what its real rude how you left & how you can't even txt me to say you've made it home ok. Regardless if you're pissed about us not having sex I (2/2) welcomed you into my home cooked for you, cleaned after u, introduced u to my friends & ****in drove u around
If u cared about our friendship or respected me u could have least left a note sayin bye & thank you..I think I deserved that at the very least Obviously the sex was ur #1 thing to come for..is that why ur all ****in butt hurt & can't respond to me ur being an *******

Wat do u think guys? Very tempting to respond to her essay of texts

It might be tempting but what are you going to get from replying back to her? Nothing. She is pretty mad about it too but she very well knew your intentions for travelling there. If you reply, you have a pretty good chance that she will create an argument out of this which leads you nowhere.

So as I've advised you to do earlier, I would forget about her.

 

[cordoncordon]

Did she ever specifically say why no sex? My best guess is she saw you IRL and just wasn't that into you. Hate to be cold about it, but that is the only thing that really makes any sense.

 

[Iceberg]

(1/2) You know what its real rude how you left & how you can't even txt me to say you've made it home ok. Regardless if you're pissed about us not having sex I (2/2) welcomed you into my home cooked for you, cleaned after u, introduced u to my friends & ****in drove u around
If u cared about our friendship or respected me u could have least left a note sayin bye & thank you..I think I deserved that at the very least Obviously the sex was ur #1 thing to come for..is that why ur all ****in butt hurt & can't respond to me ur being an *******

Wat do u think guys? Very tempting to respond to her essay of texts

Screw that.

As you said in your later post....you didn't come there to play house. Girl sends you naked pictures of herself. She sends you sex texts. And THEN when you take the time to see her, she decides to play coy.

If she were a friend and you left without saying "thank you" or "goodbye", of course that would be rude. She wasn't a friend. She was a girl you communicated with electronically who positioned herself a sexual partner.

Funny that she talks about respect. What does she consider inviting you out to her house to play mind games with you? Is that respect.

Anyway, responding to her angry texts just shows that she's gotten to you. Which, in the female mind, is a victory.

Let's look at this logically....she is not a sexual partner. She is not a friend. So, essentially, she is useless to you. There's no point in responding...let her sit there angry, wondering why you threw her away like a half-eaten Big Mac.

If this were just some girl in your hometown who was f**king with you, I'd be less cold-hearted about this. But the whole thing with you flying out to see her, and now she's standing up in righteous indignation. As if you're wrong to assume sex from a woman who's sending naked pics and flirting with you all day on text.

Ugh....i'm getting worked up again. This can't be good for my blood pressure.

 

[In10se]

Yea well i sent sumthin along the lines of what concord said...**** it lets have fun and see where it goes...either way i will never see her again

 

[cordoncordon]

Yea well i sent sumthin along the lines of what concord said...**** it lets have fun and see where it goes...either way i will never see her again

I would just leave it at that then and never talk to her again. She'll get the message loud and clear. Unless she flies out to see you...naked. Otherwise, like ice said, she is nothing to you.

 

[In10se]

Ok lets have a look at the next sequence of texts
Your right i neglected to thank you for the hospitality, so thanks for that...sex was at least a very strong prerequisite for me coming out there and i thought we were on the same page with that...clearly not..

Her: (1/2) Well I thought I was going to be willing too..obviously but numerous mixed feelings & thoughts made me change my mind. I think as a woman I have the right (2/2) to change my mind with who & when I want to have sex with a person.

Me "numerous mixed feelings and thoughts" ...lol if u werent that attracted to me in person u shuldve been mature enuff to say so and i wuldve gotten a hotel
But dont act like u xpected i was coming to play house with u because that is straight up bull****

Her:Oh god (my name) it wasn't that just forget it its fine. And of course not I'm not retarded

Me:Well then what was it ..i deserve an explanation at te very least
No (her name) its far from fine..i have responsibilities and relationships that i put on hold to see you...i dont mind spending money but my time is valuable

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

Me "numerous mixed feelings and thoughts" ...lol if u werent that attracted to me in person u shuldve been mature enuff to say so and i wuldve gotten a hotel
But dont act like u xpected i was coming to play house with u because that is straight up bull****

Her:Oh god (my name) it wasn't that just forget it its fine. And of course not I'm not retarded

Me:Well then what was it ..i deserve an explanation at te very least
No (her name) its far from fine..i have responsibilities and relationships that i put on hold to see you...i dont mind spending money but my time is valuable

And this is the part of the conversation where she regains all the power in this dynamic.

You're declaring that she didn't find you attractive. And you're ASKING her what was wrong.

When you packed up and left her, she felt like a h0. Now she's just some girl who broke your heart.

From h0 to heartbreaker in 10 seconds.

Besides, whatever her reasons are, they're emotional. Getting a solid answer from her will be like getting blood from a stone. She could tell you that she just had a rough breakup. She could tell you that you remind her of her ex. That her grandma was sick. That she loves you and didnt want you to think of her as a s1ut.

And the best part of all this stuff is that none of it can be proven or disproven. The perfect female argument.

 

[yuppaz]

Make. Out with her, go down on her, get her really turned on and just put it in. Once she is so turned on her conscious mind goes away she'll be all about it. Don't ask her "can I do this etc" just do it and stop ifshe insists that you stop.

 

[In10se]

Yea yea, this chick ****ed w my head and made me all AFC...i really doubt ill ever see her again...so i figured id just keep u guys posted...hopefully people will learn from all this and rethink their ways ...i culdve been a "heartbreaker" but its not all about revenge ...i didnt travel that far without having some feelings...

 

[cordoncordon]

And this is the part of the conversation where she regains all the power in this dynamic.

You're declaring that she didn't find you attractive. And you're ASKING her what was wrong.

When you packed up and left her, she felt like a h0. Now she's just some girl who broke your heart.

From h0 to heartbreaker in 10 seconds.

Besides, whatever her reasons are, they're emotional. Getting a solid answer from her will be like getting blood from a stone. She could tell you that she just had a rough breakup. She could tell you that you remind her of her ex. That her grandma was sick. That she loves you and didnt want you to think of her as a s1ut.

And the best part of all this stuff is that none of it can be proven or disproven. The perfect female argument.

Agree man just let it go. Don't respond to her any more. You are only giving her what she wants, attention and validation. My guess is she either A) was not attracted to you IRL, or B) met someone else. By ignoring her, she will always wonder "well maybe he is right, that was kind of *****y on my part, and he seems like a man who won't play my games...my God what did I do!!! Fawkkkkkkk!!!"

Just walk away.