Dumbass male needs advice

[david09]

I'm writing because I've made the all time dumbass blunder. I'm not the wussy type at all but I acted like one and it looks like I blew a good thing. I've been seeing a woman for about a month, we've been out a lot and always have a great time so things were moving along nicely. Last weekend we ended up taking a weekend long road trip that was great so things were looking up.......Everything was going great until, like a dumbass, I said I liked her when we got back. My exact words were something to the affect that after 2.5 day road trip I found myself thinking of her and missing her. I know, someone hit me in the fricking head......Talk about things going south quickly. All of a sudden I don't hear back from her...... My question is this. Do I move on because by my being an absolute idiot and acting like a wussy she's no longer interested? She was very interested, told me as much, which is why I said what I did. It's only been a few days since all of this happened but the writing is on the wall. She canceled one date already saying "I'm tired" but then told me she was going to go hang out with her girlfriends....

What can I do at this point to turn things back to my favor or should I just drop it and move on?

Gawd, I'm a moron. I know better than to do what I just did but not sure what my options are now. Any advice?

Dumbass in Seattle....

 

[romangod]

The fat lady is getting ready to sing.


You turned into a chump and turned her off. Time to step back for a while and see if she makes a move towards you. She already thinks she's got you wrapped around her finger. Prove her wrong.


Cheers!

 

[The Bat]

Tell her you want to break up with her.

And then actually do it.

Once she comes crawling back, you now have the upper hand and gotten the frame back in your control.

If she doesn't come back, then you move on...it's not like her interest in you is at an all-time high right now. We all know that it'll be a matter of time before SHE initiates the "i need a break" conversation.

 

[DJKid]

I'm writing because I've made the all time dumbass blunder. I'm not the wussy type at all but I acted like one and it looks like I blew a good thing. I've been seeing a woman for about a month, we've been out a lot and always have a great time so things were moving along nicely. Last weekend we ended up taking a weekend long road trip that was great so things were looking up.......Everything was going great until, like a dumbass, I said I liked her when we got back. My exact words were something to the affect that after 2.5 day road trip I found myself thinking of her and missing her. I know, someone hit me in the fricking head......Talk about things going south quickly. All of a sudden I don't hear back from her...... My question is this. Do I move on because by my being an absolute idiot and acting like a wussy she's no longer interested? She was very interested, told me as much, which is why I said what I did. It's only been a few days since all of this happened but the writing is on the wall. She canceled one date already saying "I'm tired" but then told me she was going to go hang out with her girlfriends....

What can I do at this point to turn things back to my favor or should I just drop it and move on?

Gawd, I'm a moron. I know better than to do what I just did but not sure what my options are now. Any advice?

Dumbass in Seattle....

David even though that was a novice mistake it's one a lot of us are prone to when we genuinely start liking someone. The obvious lesson you should learn here is to make sure the woman expresses her emotions first before you do. Its something I've instilled into myself and it's given me the upperhand in copious relationships.

That being said you certainly haven't lost this girl yet but you are going to have to make somewhat of a gambit move to gain your edge. Right now she feels like she has you and her IL has gone down a bit. You probably spent too much time with her as it is. I wouldn't go as far as to break up with her yet (unless she really starts becoming shady) but you need to make her cognizant that you are a man of value and she should cherish you. I would say something like an ex girlfriend or a girl that liked you but you are friends with called and wants to hang out and say you are going to do it. Make sure when you tell her you sound as calm and normal as possible so that she doesn't think its a game. Being cool, calm and collected is the key with any woman. Make sure she expresses some candid heartfelt emotion to you before you even think about going AFC again.