"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dumb complete newbie type question, but what would you do in this situation?

DLxX

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Ok so basically I'm a university student and over the past couple of days I've noticed that a girl always makes eye contact with me and holds it for a long time when I pass her in the hall. Today I was even standing still waiting for something and I turned my head to find her staring at me while she was walking out of the building, she then made and kept eye contact with me as she passed. Now the thing is I don't think I have any classes with her, and the only time I see her is when I am walking by her in one of the uni hallways. So basically how would you approach her if you were in this situation and what would you say. Basically I'd like to know how I can take this situation and use it to get to know her or whatever.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Ace_McGregor

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Go up and say "hi". Simple as that.
 

sexy_kuta

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have the balls to stop her in the hall ways..

be like excuse me, hi im new here and i dont know many ppl, my name is DLxX,
then she will give u her name.. then u take the conver from there..

keep it 2 min.. then be like well i gotta get running to class, maybe we ge together later, u got a number i can reach you at?

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PS: thats not a dumb question, nothings a dumb question, is it a newb quesiton.. yes lol

but u wont get bashed for that, just keep on reading the dj bible
 

WORKEROUTER

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Go up to her, and say exactly this: "hey, how's it going?...I'm '...' " Shake her hand and start talking about some bullsh*t...class, major, where she lives, etc.

Close by saying "we should get together sometime. what's your number?"

What to say isn't the hard part. It's having the balls to say it.
 
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