Dull Friends

[Yo'Mama]

I'm posting like a demon here lately.

I've been thinking about positives and negatives in my life. I have to say thath one thing that really bothers me is how dull my friends are. There's so much I want to do, spontaneously a lot of the time. But I'm 36 and my buddies (not that I have tonnes) either have families or want to hang out with their tedious girlfriends 24/7.

I have to say, I don't get it. I know these girls and their chat is awful. They're not even that good looking. Why is it that guys would rather spend ALL their time with whichever girl they're with, often at home, rather than, say, just deciding to take a flight down to Miami and have some fun times.

Or maybe I'm just immature and at odds with what I'm supposed to be doing at this age. I don't feel that different to 21, the main difference is I have more cash and am far more confident so could be doing a lot more stuff now than I could then.

There's a real disconnect between what I want to be doing with my life and what society/people in my life expect from me. That doesn't bother me, I'm going to do what I want anyway. I'd just like one or two bros to do it with!

But I really feel that 36 is too late to make friends. This, of course, is my fault a lot. I should have cultivated the kind of friendships I wanted when I was younger.

Does anybody else find themselves in this situation? Settling down and having a family doesn't interest me one bit, but that's what everybody else is doing and no way is some dude with a young kid just going to agree to come and hit up Vegas for a few days. This sucks.

 

[Willard]

I was in your situation, I'm 46 and most of my good friends live in another state. I take martial arts and go to meetup groups, so I've met new friends. It's not that hard if you do activities. I'm looking for one girl to settle down with, then I probable won't have as much time to spend with my friends, I enjoy a exclusive relationship over chasing girls, I'm still going to keep my friends and bring her around them.

Everyone has different desires and opinions, I like a having a woman as my best friend and lover for myself, not what society thinks I should have.

 

[VladPatton]

Yep I can identify. I have one good high school friend left and we hang whenever we can. He can pull a good sized group in a matter of a few hours, so if that happens and I meet more people, great. Other than that most of the guys I grew up with and hung out with in my 20's just vanished. A lot of em became aṣṣholes, drunkards, or have girlfriends or wives they obsess about. Not my cup of tea, Daddy-O.

In short, I'll go or do whatever the fück I want; alone if I have to.

 

[DJinBlue]

They've bought into the "American Dream" scam. I'm 24 and most friends my age are working all the time and they turn down social events or even vacations trying to "save money". Don't get me wrong, I am working long hours too and am all about building up a "f you fund" young, but you do it by cutting extra expenses like cable, meaningless gadgets, your phone bill etc SO THAT you have the cash to drop everything and go to Key West or Vegas if your buddy asks. Last winter myself and two of my boys went on a cruise to the Caribbean - not much to talk about in terms of single women on the boat but still an amazing experience. These same guys I've seen once or twice since then and we live 14 miles apart. I gave up on calling them because they're full of sh*t. I really have 3 guys friends that are pretty dependable at this point, one is pretty much restricted to workout partner, one is a confused stoner working at a grocery store, and one is a Super Alpha whose been tamed albeit by a relatively good woman. Other than that I'm fairly tight with my father, brother and two grandfathers still living.

I have accepted the fact that most of my most enlightening experiences will be done alone. I plan to take a 6 months trip abroad in about 18 months and fully expect to go by myself.

 

[Yo'Mama]

Thanks guys. Glad I'm not alone anyway. I don't get it. These guys live life like it's the first of many. We get one shot. One!!! And they want to just fritter it away, without building any crazy experiences.

I'm in Montreal at the moment. I'm getting rejectd left, right and centre at clubs (going solo). That's not much fun. But then I'm seeing a Colombian HB8 (met online) and having an amazing time with her. I just don't know why people in late twenties or early thirties want to think about nothing but how they'll be when they come to retire. Every time I hear about some forty or fifty year old dying suddenly, or people involved in catastrophes like the Malaysian plane incident, it just reinforces my view that life should be lived now. I'm not talking about hedonistic irresponsibility, just some balance.

If the girls my friends werte with were SO interesting I would cut them more slack, but I swear that these girls are dull as ditchwater. Their pvssies may be amazing, I couldn't say, but it's stil kind of sad. Thi sis the age, for me, when money is no object. I could do anyting with my friends. But, no, they just want to stay home and play house. FML, seriously. I want to make some friends who are as up for it as I am.

 

[Night-hawk]

I have accepted the fact that most of my most enlightening experiences will be done alone. I plan to take a 6 months trip abroad in about 18 months and fully expect to go by myself.

My younger brother has been travelling Asia and South America by himself for over a year now. These are novel pursuits, and although having met many a persons, solitude and nature and change in environment is good chicken soup for the soul.

 

[Yo'Mama]

I love travelling by myself. Love it. I love sarging alone. But it's not really clicking here in Montreal. Not sure why. I'm meeting lots of cool girls but it's all online, which is unusual for me. I don't see ANY guys rolling solo here. I just wish sometimes I had more buddies who were up for doing stuff but one by one they're all going down the marriage/kids route. It's natural I suppose. The game can be a lonely path.