Duke Progress Journal (DPJ)

[Mr_Pink]

Ooh... ouch... Padawan. I should grow one of those crazy braid things. That would bring the women in droves.

-Mr. Pink

 

[Duke]

Haha, Pink, I know it seems like everything is against you sometimes, but giving up will buy you a one way ticket to Hermitville. Btw, I'll read your current journal when I get some time.

Nothing gets your mind off a chick like another chick, eh? Very true words.

Last night, my friend Eric invited me, his g/f (HB-Bossy) and his g/f's friend (HB-ShyGirl) to go ice-skating. I knew I needed to get back out on the field again to avoid getting one-itus for Sarah, so I went. I meet Eric at his house along with his quiet, fat friend, Jason. While Eric is a crazy, loud muthaafukka, Jason is very reserved. They are very much foils of each other. However, Eric has more style than Jason and doesn't complain NEARLY as much.
Every other thing out of Jason's mouth was a complaint .

So simply put, my only competition for HB-Shygirl (who was more attractive than HB-Bossy IMO) was Jason. I could smell Jason's AFCness a mile away. His body language was poor, and when he opened his mouth he did one of two things: 1) Complained, or 2)Made some corny joke. Don't get me wrong, it got HB-Shygirl laughing, so I laughed along with her to mirror her a bit... but it looked to me like the guy was trying to impress her with a comedy routine--sad. EDIT: I almost forgot to add that many times I would laugh at something I thought was funny and then she would start laughing right after.

Now us three guys are in Eric's Cherokee. Eric's driving, Jason's riding shotgun, and I'm in the back by myself. We pull up to HB-Bossy's house to pick up her and HB-Shygirl. All three of us get out and walk up to her door. Eric knocks, and HB-Bossy opens the door. She says "hi" to Eric. Jason and I are standing outside, and Bossy didn't invite us in, so I took it upon myself to enter. Bossy disappears for 30 seconds and comes back with Shygirl. And we're off.

I try to make sure I lead the way most of the time. It just unconsciously signals something to people when you walk ahead of them and don't look back very much. So I get out the house and take the lead. We're walking down her sidewalk when I turn around and go "Hi, my name's Duke. Who are you?" I said this first to Bossy, who got a snotty look on her face because I had met her already and didn't recognize her. She didn't say anything, just gave me a snarling expression.

I look to Shygirl... "And you?" She tells me her name, which I repeat, but quickly forget. We all get inside the Cherokee. Jason, the complaining comedian, sits in the back so that Eric and Bossy can both be in front. Shygirl sits in between me and Jason.

I look to shygirl and say "Go ahead" as I lean to the left to let her buckle her seatbelt. I then strapped myself in 20 seconds later. Eric's seatbelt buckles are hard to find in the dark!

While Eric is driving, the car is pretty silent. I notice Shygirl chewing gum out of the corner of my eye. I ask her what kind of gum it is. "Winterfresh." "Can I have a piece?" "Sure." "Thanks."
Keep in mind that I paid attention to my posture and voice. When I asked her what kind of gum she was chewing, I used a discriminating, confident tone. She dug around in her purse for a moment, and handed a stick of it to me. Mmmmm .

Now there was a duel purpose to asking her for the stick of gum. Can anybody guess what it is? Yes? You back there in the red shirt.... Correctomundo! Aside from freshening my macaroni breath, I wanted HER to do a favor for ME. I read in a psychology book once that people tend to like more those people whom they do favors for. I can hear you now: What, Duke? Man! That sounds krazy! Why would I not instead like the person that DID me a favor?

The answer is cognitive dissonance. What this means is that if you do something, then the mind scampers to find a reason WHY you did it. So why did Shygirl give me the gum? There's no REAL reason, but her mind tells her it's because she likes me. Why would she do a favor for someone she doesn't like? She wouldn't.

Anyways, gauging her initial reaction, she was happy to give me the gum. I make sure to really take up a lot of space in the car; I lean back,hold my head straight, and keep my legs spread apart. My denim leg is rubs up against hers- a lil casual kino, nothing too much.

We get to the skating rink and walk inside. Our group is kinda standing around, fumbling for money and looking for prices. The 40-something woman behind the counter makes the comment that we look scared. What a ho! I again take the lead and walk up to pay first. I go out the door and everyone follows me. I get my ice-skates, and they are very worn. I take a long time lacing them up, eventually wrapping the laces of the right skate around my ankle several times to keep it steady.

I get out on the ice with Eric and Jason. The girls kinda hang back and do their own thing. After getting over some initial wobbling, I get the hang of things again. Ten minutes later, us three guys go back to the bleachers to check on the girls. They were just kinda sitting there, talking. Then I hear the announcer boom through the speakers, "It's time for couples skating! If you don't have a partner, then SHAME ON YOU! Take your partner by the hand and get on out there."

I'm thinking to myself, "Awesome. Mandatory kino." Eric and Bossy lock hands, and then look towards Shygirl. Lol... Shygirl doesn't say anything, but kinda bounces around with a smile on her face and her hand up in a way that reminded me of the girls from elementary school saying "Pick me!" at the beginning of a game. I didn't hesitate, because I didn't want Jason to have a chance and really fukk my night up lol. So I look at her like "Me? Ok, let's go." Bossy pushes me from behind, making me lose my balance on my skates and go gliding past Shygirl.

 

[Duke]

Anyway, I look to Shygirl, and at this point I felt something that I had really never felt in my life... a responsibility to BE THE MAN-- the initiator. So I take her by the hand without any questions and we move out onto the ice. I ask her how long it's been since she skated. She goes, "Oh god... not since I was like, twelve?" I laugh and ask her how many times she thinks she's gonna wipe out. "A couple" she says. I get a pensive look on my face, look to my side, and then turn back to her, "I'm betting on three times."

She laughs and we continue on. We're going kinda slow, because we're working on a heresofar uncoordinated machine.
I comment that I'm glad her hand is warm because mine was FREEZING after I stumbled and hit the ice earlier. She seemed to really get a kick out of that...

Eric and Bossy are going pretty fast and eventually lap us. Going around a curve, I tell Shygirl to not make me crash. She laughs and says "Yeah, same goes to you! As long as I don't break anything, I'll be ok."

In AFC days, I would have laughed and let it die... but the conversation articles I read here helped me bigtime. I just strung out and led our conversation by the bits and pieces she gave me. I asked, "Have you ever broken any bones?" "Yeah." "If you don't mind me asking, which ones?" "ALL of my fingers!" I get a surprised look on my face as I chuckle and ask her if she's a boxer. She laughs pretty hard and says "No, I broke them at different times. Once while I was playing football, once while I was playing soccer, once while I was playing softball." I look to her with a wiseguy face and go "Oh, so you're a girl-jock huh?" She giggles and goes "Girl-jock, no. I only play one team sport." "Really, what's that?" "Softball." "Ahh." Around this time, the couples session ends and we release each other's hands.

Everyone goes back to the bleachers to chill out for a bit. Bossy sits down with a little minature pizza and proceeds to fold it up like a taco and wolf it down. She barks out at Eric, "Get me some napkins!" to which he immidiately obliges. It was really pathetic. Me and and shygirl look at each other like "Damn, she got that boy whipped!" We look back at Bossy, who knows she has him whipped. Her pizza-sauce covered lips are curled into a guilty smile.

Everyone is sitting down except for me and Shygirl. I notice Shygirl is REALLY close to me-- like 2 inches away from my side. I get tired of watching Bossy eat, so I get up and take to the ice again. I do this so that I leave Shygirl to let her know I'm not needy and to make her wonder. Soon, the other two guys join me. For the next 30 minutes, I get tackled by Eric and wipe out on purpose a few times in Jackass style. It was really fun, but I scraped both of my elbows! We do races, none worth mentioning except for the wheelbarrow race... Eric pushes bossy from behind and I push Shygirl from behind. No, we didn't win! This isn't a romantic comedy. But one of the little skating jockey's that worked there gave me these two tickets for free coke and popcorn, and he told me that it was for me and my date... WTF? Maybe he was just being nice, I dunno. Why me? Can't figure it out.

I do the hokey pokey with Eric. Everybody else had too much pride p losers!). Soon, we leave the building and make our way back to the Cherokee. This is where the REAL fun starts . We make our way to the party capital of the world, Wal-mart. On the way, I gave Shygirl a few sidelong glances. Then because my back was hurting, I leaned back really far and gave it a stretch. Right after I stretched, SHE STRETCHED THE EXACT SAME WAY.

I'm thinking, "Whoa . That stuff about the mirror effect is right! Holy crap." We pull up to Walmart and unbuckle our seatbelts. I reach down the same time Shygirl reaches down so that the backs our or hands meet up for two or three seconds. The Wal-mart trip was a waste other than that. We walked around aimlessly looking for a gift for Bossy and Shygirl's friend. Eric wanted to buy condoms as a joke gift for her, but he didn't have enough money. Nobody would loan him any (he owes me $8!) until Shygirl finally says, "If I give you the money, would you shut up." And so he does. We make our way back into the car.

Our final stop is Bossy's house so that we can drop her and Shygirl off. Once we got in the car, I noticed Shygirl leaning into me. Our legs were touching, our shoulders were touching, and our arms were touching (godDAMN her skin was soft!). Her legs were uncrossed. I noticed her gently lean into me each time we hit a curve (Eric is a crazy driver). I wanted to put my arm in hers SO BAD, if only for the fact that it would have been very comfortable. I was just worried how she would recieve it... I didn't want her to think I was clingy or anything, and I certainly didn't want to cause a stir and have the rest of the car teasing us.

I kept my shoulder pressed against hers, and the back of my hand against her thigh. Her hand was open, and occasionally she would slide her hand over so that the back of it brushed mine.
Again, I felt that I had to BE THE MAN. I had to initiate. If I wanted something, I had to TAKE IT. I waited for Eric to take a crazy turn... when he took the turn, Shygirl got thrown into me, and so I brought my other hand to her shoulder to keep her from squashing me (or she she thought ). During the confusion, I slid my other arm through hers in courtly fashion just cuz it was so damn comfortable.

Now, I was still doubting whether or not she was comfortable with this. So as a final test (and just because it felt RIGHT), I slid my hand from her wrist into her palm, and she eagerly locked fingers with me . Wow, I felt on top of the world at that point. For the next three of four minutes, we held hands with some sappy country song playing in the background.

It was...
Magical .

When we pulled up to Bossy's house, I let go of her hand (not the other way around). We got out and went to Bossy's door, but her parents apparently did not want us to all come in .

We sat around on her front porch for a second pondering what to do. Of course, none of the other guys took any initiative. Shygirl seemed really bubbly now-- she was laughing, smiling and all. She suggested that our group walk around the block, but Bossy said that we didn't have enough time. Shygirl suggested that we just go sit on the street, then, and that's what we did. Shygirl and Bossy sat down. Eric sat down ON Bossy. I sat next to Shygirl. Jason may as well have not existed except for his stupid jokes. Then Shygirl got up and moved towards Bossy... kinda made me wonder, but I didn't let it fluster me. I was just in a good mood. Time to go! As Eric and Bossy said their goodbyes to each other, I moved over toward Shygirl and whipped out my cell-phone. I entered her named and then asked her to put her number in there for me. She goes "Sure."

Well I hit the wrong button and erased it (doh!). So I asked her to enter her number again-- she goes "Yeah, no problem."
Me and Jason got back in the car. I kept waiting for Eric to come. He was standing outside still talking to them. I heard him saying something to Shygirl along the lines of "Ya'll were all over each other! I had to keep ya'll separated!" And her saying "We were not! Shut up!" I didn't know if he was talking about US or her and some other dude. I'm guessing it was her and some other dude simply because weren't "All over each other." I'll have to ask Eric what he was talking about.

Anyway, we got in the car and drove off. As we drove off, Shygirl and bossy were sitting down in the yard with Shygirl doing most of the talking. I wondered if she was talking about me and what she was saying. I hoped that I had not come off like a dork when I took her hand in the car. She seemed to enjoy it. I get the feeling Bossy will blab to Eric about what Shygirl told her, so I will let ya'll know.

I'd like to end this report by saying IT FEELS GOOD TO BE THE MAN. You get an immense gratification knowing that you have balls and take risks.

Peace ya'll .

 

[Duke]

AHHHH! A girl I know just revealed to me that she is bisexual!! Now previously, I didn't find her all that hot (maybe a 6), but this changes the dynamic. She is gonna ask a chick out tomorrow and she asked me to join them at the movies. She is subtly hinting that we can all get it on!! Lol, sounds awesome, I just hope that the other chick is attractive. I'd feel like an @sshole if I went and then turned down the opportunity down b/c the chick isn't attractive. I guess it depends on how horny I am. Would you guys be up for a 3some with two average looking chicks just to have a 3some?

Hit me back..

 

[Duke]

I decided not to go for the threesome--I am just not attracted to the chicks.

Heres the deal tho:
The Bi chick (HB5) is most likely going to ask me out tomorrow. I scoured my brain for ways to tell her no. I began talking to my friend Nick, a fellow DJ, and he suggested that I ask Sarah to pretend to be my girlfriend. Muwahahahaha! THIS IS SHEER GENIUS! I kill THREE birds with one stone by doing this.

1. I have an easy excuse to tell HB5 "No" when she asks me out.
2. It gets me closer to Sarah and has her thinking of what it would be like to actually have me as her b/f.
3. OTHER GIRLS that I know will believe I have a girlfriend, and my social proof will EXPLODE.

Awesomeness .

 

[Duke]

Hey fellas, what's happenin'? A lot has happened since my last outing.

First, I'll tell ya'll about Hb-Shygirl. This happened about 3 weeks ago, so I won't go into full detail, just a brief rundown.

HB-Shygirl

She invited me to a mutual friend's house to "watch a movie." Convenient excuse to get freaky, I say . We start out lying next to each other on a small bed (one of two twin beds). I brush up against her lightly. She gets a phone call, and gets out of bed to get it. When she returns, I take up the whole bed and look at her like I'm saying "What? My bed, you can sit your ass on the floor "

Then she LAYS INTO ME. Her ass presses into my crotch. From then on, there is heavy body contact. We hold hands, and our faces touch for most of the movie. I smell her and brush her lips with my thumb. She seeks out my finger and starts to suck on it. I smell her neck and lick her ear a bit. It was great . Then she had to go home (curfew). I coulda kissed her, but I didn't. I need to start going for kiss closes. I KNOW I can, but I just don't. Maybe it's because I'm looking for the PERFECT moment to kiss that doesn't exist. I can't see her til next week, b/c she has places to go this weekend (clubs and shyt).



HB-Veggy (she's a vegetarian)

Some quick background:
I met this chick when I was a raging AFC. She asked me to a Sadie Hawkin's dance at an ice skating rink. ACTION date, YES. The date required that we hold hands for the "couples skating." This is what got me in. Early kino. We had a pretty good time at the dance, and we had GREAT rapport despite the fact that I was the AFC Grandmaster.

One day when we were talking on AIM, she suddenly signed off and didn't come back for the night. I thought she had rudely cut me off, and immaturely accused her of doing just that. Turns out her computer crashed, but because I had *****ed over something so insignificant, she blocked me and we didn't talk for like 8 months.

Last week, I caught her on AIM on another s/n for the first time since that falling-out. She was apprehensive at first, but soon unblocked me and gave me her number again. I told her that we should hang out sometime. She goes "You want to do something? I assume you have a plan." I go "Me? A plan? Psh. Silly girl. I'll have a plan in a few days."

3 days later, I called her up on the phone to make the bowling date. I made her guess who I was, and she got it on the first try. Then our rapport opened up again. I wrote down a lil outline before I called her to make sure I didn't forget anything.

My outlined was comprised of this:
Remember to be CF consistently
String out conversation from what SHE says
Draw out emotions and elicit values
Leave on a high note

I pulled it all off. I had a spot of trouble "leaving on a high note" , tho. Every time I tried to leave she would be like, "Guess what!" and start blabbing on about something else lol.
Anyhow, she agreed to go bowling. I told her to be there at exactly 8:02, and she got a kick out of that. I also messed with her about her bowling abilities-- told her to bring a box of Kleenex, cuz she'd need it after she loses to me . She called me ****y. Basically I pulled a 180 degree turn from the AFC impression I made on her months ago.

Tonight, she showed up at... EXACTLY 8:02. It was weird. On the way there, some ******* wouldn't let me merge into the exit I had to hit, so I showed up 10 mins late to the bowling alley. Kinda felt like a tard for a little while, but I got over it. She was in very high spirits when I met her there.

We had to wait a while for a lane to free up, so we sat down and chatted. I made sure I wandered off every now and then... once to the bathroom and water fountain and once to get an Icee. Both times when I got back, she was like "Where were you?!"

We had VERY GOOD eye contact the whole night. She also cracked up a bunch of times from faces I made when she said crap or if one of us bowled particularly horribly. Apparently I can communicate well with my body and my facial expressions.

I also kinoed her some. I put my hand on her back to direct her to places, and I also showed her how to improve her preposterous bowling form. It was all very casual, but I think I could have used more. She did not reciprocate the kino. She was smiling and laughing a lot, great EC as I said.

Oh yeah, she paid for her half too. It wasn't really a "date." Just a fun get-together. We didn't have that much time tho. We only spent 1 1/2 hours together.

I might have got her thinking about me sexually toward the end of the date. We were talking about dreams. I told her about a dream I had recently where I walk into my room and this Asian chick is lying on my bed, flipping through a magazine. Then the Asian chick says something in Chinese or w/e and then says, "That means 'penis.'" After that, I walk into my hallway, and see myself get a giant erection in the mirror.

I assured her that the dream story was not bullshyt, but that it was a real dream. There was more to my dream than what I just posted, but that was the important, sexual part. Lucky for me, she likes interpreting dreams. So she's gonna try to give me an analysis in the future.

Right about 10:30 she says she has to go (she was supposed to be home at 10:00). I walk her to her car. I tell her to wait up while I go get a CD. She claims to be "Good at the radio" btw. LMAO. She says she has her stations mapped to the buttons and everything...good at the radio hahaha.

I go get a CD for her, and to my surprise, she is standing outside her car. I should have gone for the fukkin kiss, but the moment didn't feel totally right to me. Maybe somethins wrong with me, but I am finding it VERY hard to actually like a girl enough to kiss her. I mean, I find a lot of them attractive. But all this Pook "I am the prize" business has maybe skewed my perceptions. While definitely making me less desperate, I can't push myself to kiss as easily. I need a deeper connection. Maybe I'm just wussing out. I have never had a "real" kiss yet. Maybe its just the anxiety of doing it the first time and wanting everything to be perfect.

Anyways, as we talked, we looked deeply into each other's eyes, and then stood silent for about 2 seconds, and for an INSTANT, it looked like we were gonna kiss. We tilted our heads for a moment and moved forward... but I knew that she would not initiate the kiss. That is the man's job. Instead, we hugged.

She said she'd talk to me soon. I think her IL is pretty high, but she needs to raise mine. She needs to be a lil bolder and more playful. She def ain't a party girl-- she's got a brain and she uses it a lot. I need to find ways to work around that and just get to her inner, womanly core. Hmmm . She's got stuff to do the rest of this weekend, but I'm gonna wait for her to set the next date.

I might have even been TOO CF. I would bullshyt her a lot, and she would accuse me of "lying" when I was obviously just fukking around. She'd be like, "What have you been up to?" And I'd say "When I'm not being a stuntman and popping wheelies on the freeway, I sleep."

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I need to get out and sarge more so that I can have a wider pool of girls to choose from. I'm having more and more success tho. I'm getting the confidence vibe down... as well as the conversation/ rapport. I just need to learn how to escalate things phsyically and amp up the tension.

Comments, gentlemen!

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Duke,

I read your thread, ok I skimmed it. From what I read it seems that you have some low to moderate successes but you are not hitting any homeruns - not to say that you are not making progress, but you seem to be lacking follow through with the actions that you initiate. After gaining so much momentum, you seem to run out of gas and hesitate at the moment where, in fact, you need to go after what you worked so hard to get and go for the kill - and get to the next level! I'm talking the kiss here.

You are thinking about your 'moves' too much - not every action in pursuing a woman is to be pondered, weighed, and deliberated. This leads to missed opportunities and then frustration. As evidenced by some of your experiences.

Also, do you think you spend too much time on one chick, whether by phone, AIM, or just plain pursuing? You need to get confirmation of a woman's interest level sooner, so that you are not chasing rainbows (things that are not there).

Don't worry about having more prospects, when you get a car (freedom to travel) you'll broaden your 'field of prey' by10 fold!

 

[Duke]

Hey Puerto!

You are right, I have been lacking "follow-through" but I really can't pinpoint why! I have vague underlying urges to kiss, but I think of it as more an "It would be nice" kinda thing. It's not like I have this burning desire to kiss the girl and that I am just pussing out. Lol, where did my motivation go? I have a theory.

First thing that comes to mind is that since I have adopted the mindset that I am "the catch," girls just don't seem worth the effort. It's not like I'm chasing a rabbit anymore, running as fast as I can to catch my prey. Now it's more like I'm fishing; I just cast a line with bait (improved DJ self) and wait for them to bite and show heavy interest.

Any other ideas, fellas? This has been perplexing me. I can have fun with a chick and it seems totally natural now, but I am not compelled to escalate things. Or rather, I AM compelled to escalate things, but not ENOUGH to take action. Which leads me to believe that I might need to let myself "fall in love" and become partly infatuated with a chick to have that drive to want to kiss her etc. Dangerous, I know. I'm open to input on this.


HB-Veggy
I had planned a Smoothie King/Celebration Station go-cart date for today, but it rained, so I called her the day before and let her know that we were swapping it to a movie instead. When I got to her house, she was standing outside, and I got out to guide her to the passenger side car door. Apparently she expected a hug, because she grabbed onto me, but I wasn't, so I just put my arm around her and led her to the passenger seat.

We chit-chat for a while. I CF her and tell her that I talked to a dog that told me it was going to rain today. She got a kick out of that. We get to the theater after a short drive. When we went bowling a week or so ago, she paid for her games, so I paid for her movie ticket this time. She is not a gold-digger, and the first date set the precedent that I am not ABOUT to try to buy her attention. She got the point that I paid for her ticket because I'm the one that invited her, and she thanked me.

I made sure I led the way and was decisive. I told her that we were going to sit up high in the theater this time.

Quick side note: Whenever I put her on the spot to make a simple decision, she would just shrug and ask me the same question.

Example:
Her: Hm, what do you want to do now?
Me: Well, the night IS still young. You know the town better than me, watcha wanna do?
Her: I dunno. *shrug*
Me: ...Tell you what, I got the perfect idea. We can go to Barnes and Noble.
Her: Yeah! That is a good idea, and it's right around here!

*Ahem* Back to the movies...
As the movie started, it occurred to me that this type of date is nowhere near ideal for the first or second date. During the movie, you are forced to shut up and learn little about the other person aside from their taste in humor or w/e the theme of the movie is.

Throughout the course of the movie, I considered putting my arm around her, but I didn't because it's so fukkin cliche nowadays, and I simply did not feel the moment called for it. I also considered holding her hand, but there was no occasion for it, so I didn't. We did lean into each other a little and kick each other's feet around...She was laughing the whole time, enjoying the movie.

Also, I wouldn't read too much into body language. She had her legs crossed and pointed away from me, but then she switched them back towards me after a little while. It didn't affect her mood or her attitude toward me. Disregard that crap.

After the movie, we walked outside and into pouring rain. When we got into the car I was shivering, and I almost dropped a music CD. She was like "Cold huh?" I go, "Nah, why would you say a thing like that?" She says "Well, you're shivering "
I go, "What? No I'm not. You're seeing things, I'm impervious to the cold!" She laughed at that, heh.

We drive up to Jason's Deli cuz I wanted some yogurt.
On our way to the door, I go "I'm really cold" and put my arm around her for body heat. This was not a bullshyt excuse! I was actually freezing and wanted some body heat.
The yogurt is free, so I buy a bottle of water to get in and get some yogury. She didn't get anything to eat, so she just sat there and watched me eat. I busted on her about that, and we talked about her vegetarianism. I recalled some other shyt she told me a long time ago and she was impressed that I remembered what she said.

Her "I just ramble on, but I never remember what I say."
Me: "Yeah, well I don't remember everything everyone says."
Her: "No?"
Me: "No, I just remember things that make me think."

We got back inside the car and listened to some music and chilled for a bit, trying to find something else to do. We went to Barnes and Noble and browsed some books and music. I led most of the time... something VERY cool happened.

We walk by the book "Don Quixote"

Me: Ah, Don Kwix-oat.
Her: Huh? Is that how you pronounce it?
Me: (sarcastically) Yeah, ask your English teacher if you can borrow "Don Kwix-oat."
Her: Hm. I've been pronouncing it wrong this whole time!
Me: Hahaha! Aren't you in Spanish? It's "Don Key-otie!"
Her: Oh, heh, that's what I thought. You just sounded so confident...

Bwahaha. Moral of the story is that girls and people in general WILL follow your lead no matter how ridiculous it seems if you are confident about it.

We drive back to her house and I am introduced to her big dog, Levi. The dog instantly warms up to me and starts to dry hump my leg!! HB busts out laughing as she tries to beat the dog off of me. When the dog leaves, we say our goodbyes. We hug and I comment on how good her hair smells. She seemed to be really flattered by this.
As I walk out the door, we look over our shoulders at each other and pause for 2 seconds. I motion her over with a head tilt like I want to kiss her, but again it didn't feel natural since I was on my way out. So I bite my tongue and head out the door. I call back to her...
"Veggy"
"Yeah?"
"We can do the Celebration Station thing later on."
"Ok. "

As I sat in my car in her driveway, a pervading sense of defeat flooded me. I wanted to escalate things a bit. So I called her on my cell-phone and asked her to return my CD. She sounded enthusiastic and goes "Sure!"

When she comes and gives me the CD, we hug again, and I give her a kiss on the cheek (well, the hair on her cheek anyways). We make brief eye contact and smile, and then depart.

Not a BAD date overall, but it didn't allow for as much physical intimacy or rapport as I would have liked.

So what has happened to my desire? I need to kick things up a notch on the next date and kiss her. It still bothers me that I am not burning with desire for her. Like I said, the feeling is more akin to "Getting intimate with you would be really nice, but if not, then who cares?" She's reasonably good-looking and I'm not gay. What gives?

I am more than ready for some feedback on this. Hit me!

 

[Duke]

Woo! The past 2 days, I have been studying and cramming to boost my PU knowledge when I should have been out on the field. It's really not all that complicated when you look at the big picture!!

Just be fun and positive, lead the way with confidence, and embrace the fact that you're both sexual beings and you both KNOW why you are hanging out. A guy and a chick hanging out... HMMMM! I wonder... could it be that you both want sex and find each other sexy enough to go through with it?

You: 'Scuse me, HB, wanna go bowling with me?
Her: Sure!
*you both go bowling*
~1 week later...
You: 'Scuse me, HB, wanna go ice skating?
Her: Sure!

Well, genius, she could hang out and do this shyt with her FRIENDS if she wanted to. But she has a pvssy and you have a c0ck to pleasure her with, so chances are SHE KNOWS WHAT'S UP.
Most girls think they need a man worse than the lowest AFC thinks he needs a girl. BE THAT MAN.

It is really that simple. She through all the bullshyt and be a man for this woman. By being the man, you make her feel femenine and in turn increase her drive to mate . No rocket science here. It's simple biology. I'm just gonna go on autopilot on my next outing because as of right now, I truly believe that trying to analyze everything will only slow me down and hurt me.

And yes, I am going to go for the kiss. Obviously, since the girl has agreed to see me so many times, she finds me fun and attractive and WANTS IT BADLY. So why am I not giving it to her?
It's because I bought into the "I am the catch" mantra too much and have NOT initiating as much as I should. Sometimes, you gotta drop that shyt and realize that you're the man and have to escalate things. (read Fingers' "26 Lessons" post in the Unusual Techniques" forum) The other reason is simple nervousness... "What if I screw it up."

Fuk that. One of my friends recently opened my eyes on the issue of kissing. He asked me why I did not go in for the kiss and I replied, "Well, it just didn't feel right."
He responded, "There is no such thing as the perfect time for a kiss. True, some moments are better than others, but kissing at any moment is better than not kissing at all."

He's right. I've been holding myself back, but now I am cutting the cords off of me. I am busting out of this prison I have created for myself and approaching and initiating and truly LIVING as I was meant to. There's no excuse not to. The way I see it, life is not a right--it's a privelege. Use it for all it's worth.

I'm outta here, and I suggest you do the same. GET OFF THE COMPUTER, OFF THE TV, OFF OF ANYTHING THAT LIMITS YOUR CAPACITY TO EXPERIENCE LIFE IN ITS MOST BASIC, GRAND FORM! LIVE!

Peace

 

[Duke]

DJ Methods working? No.
DJ mindset working? Yes.

Here's the deal. C&F is being seen as immature by HB-Veggie... she is a deep, thinky type and we connect much more when we just gaze into each other's eyes and talk about our views on things. And yes, this leads to a sexual state. We connect and she feels safer and more comfortable, more relaxed around me. Now I can use more kino and be more honest w/ her.

She calls my C&F LYING. So in other words, she doesn't like it too much when I fukk around with her head. It doesn't allow her to trust me, because she is constantly questioning if I am telling the truth or joking around. And CF backfires on me. I will JOKE about something, then she will turn it around and make me look dumb by taking what I said seriously.

An example:
We are in line to ride some go-carts at Celebration Station.
Some guy in line turns to me, "You gonna let her drive?"
Me: "Nah, I don't have my life insurance paid off yet ."
HB-Veggy rolls her eyes. She knows she drives well, and doesn't like stereotypes and that whole schtick.

Now will CF work on the more touchy-feely materalistic types of girls? Sure will. But you can't bounce the SAME vibe off of every single girl you meet.

At the end of our outing, we leaned against my car and blew bubbles from those little bubble canisters. We did this for a long time... just blowing bubbles and talking. Eventually she asked me how I see the world... what my views are.

Our conversation blossomed, and she respected me more at the end of it. I also learned a bit about her. Anyways, the point is that I was trying to run game on her that would work on a touchy-feely, outgoing type, but not HER. I had us constantly DOING something-- driving go-carts, playing air hockey, playing little carnival-type games... so much stuff that we never got to talk! We were almost strangers excepting the fact that we were hanging out together and doing shyt together! This will work on a party-girl, but it will NOT work on a shy-girl. You must first establish a strong rapport and sense of trust with the shy-girl. THEN the gates are open to other things.

Well the go-carts were a blast, and I reccomend them to anyone, but you will benefit MORE from action dates if you have already established some rapport.

Side notes...
I felt uncomfortable because she was leading so much... I had to ask her for directions to get to our destination because I don't know the area well. She would say shyt to me in the car like "Turn left... you have to get in the turning lane ," like I didn't already know! On foot, she would walk out ahead of me.

I also unintentionally ran some patterns about the innocence of children and how religion has been used to demonize sexuality and some other shyt, but I was basically rambling about what I believed instead of trying to lead her into a sexual state. Next time we meet, I will try to veer our conversations onto more racy topics. As things are going right now, we aren't ON the path to the friend-zone, but it is looming off in the distance like an undertow. I have GOT to create more sexual tension!! Any ideas?

When I dropped her off, she thanked me and told me that she had a lot of fun and that she was glad that we talked. I basically blew apart her impression of me when we conversed. She was accustomed to my CF exterior and was surprised that I know such big words and have thought a lot about life. In that regard, I think CF helped me a bit. It has created a dynamic where she believes "He fvcks with people most of the time, but I have gotten him to open up to me." which is good.

I ended up kissing her on the cheek again, b/c there wasn't enough sexual tension. I need some pronto! Aighte Don Juans, hit me!

P.S.
Feel free to ask me anything.

 

[Señor Fingers]

You´ve come a long way Samurai

Originally posted by Duke
DJ Methods working? No.
DJ mindset working? Yes.

You just discovered the fine art of CALIBRATION.

There is no ONE approach that will make all the girls swoon. You need to develop intuiion through your experiences in order to act appropriately.

C&F, while great for generating some quick attraction can often spoil the interaction if you lay it on too thick. You become predictable with all your wise-ass remarks and it gets old...FAST.

Some girls eat this up and will shoot C&F right back at you, which can be fun, but sometimes this sets up a weird competitive dynamic that ruins the rapport.

At the end of the day, the girl has to feel comfortable enough around you to be NAKED. Think about this. She needs to trust you enough to share her body with you, which is why rapport is so important, especially with the quieter girls.

Its a fine balance though because you need to simultaneously show you are a decent, trustworthy guy, but also you subcommunicate that you are a sexual being with EC, kino and proximity.

Its cool to toss some C&F in the mix sometimes to spice things up, but this should not be all of your game, as you are discovering.

Originally posted by Duke
I have GOT to create more sexual tension!! Any ideas?

Sexual tension comes through two channels.

CHANNEL 1 "Racy Conversation"

One of the things I discovered is that talking about conspiracies, religion and other profound issues will not get her turned on at all. Sure the rapport is stronger, and its cool to have an intelligent exchange and all, but you must progress or she will just see you as a smart buddy.

You need to make your conversation more sensual. Talk about sights, sounds, smells...describe things and people that you love and why. Then tell her you really like her smile because it brightens up her face like sunshine. Or say how you love her laugh because it is so sincere. Yes it sounds cheesy, but women LOVE when they can get a ****y, funny guy to say cheesy stuff like this. It makes them feel SPECIAL.

Also, give her hints at how to seduce YOU, by describing qualities of past girlfriends that you found irresistable. Talk about your favorite body parts and ask her what parts of a guys body drives her wild. See how far she is willing to take things...talk about positions and things girls have done to you that turn you into an animal in heat. Ultimately, talk about sex casually but dont focus on it.

I said this in another post recently but it deserves to be repeated.

90% of this game is UNSPOKEN! WHich leads to...

CHANNEL 2 "Communicating sexuality without words"

Talking about sexy topics will only get you so far. It really boils down to how you communicate with your eyes, your body and touch that will make or break your chances. You can talk about anything as mundane as the weather and have it be the most erotic thing in the world, depending on how you finess it.

As a girl begins to open up to me and we are getting to know each other, I gradually increase eye/body contact and start to get physically closer. I generally test girls with my touch to see how receptive they are to me. By the time I can softly caress their cheek or stroke their hair, and get a favorable response I just go for the kiss.

Have I been turned down? Of course! But I didnt let it discourage me. 9 times out of 10 when this has happened, I keep warming her up and try again later and *presto* SUCCESS!

Its cool that you are taking your time right now, enjoying the ride and taking the lessons that come your way in stride. But IMHO, you totally coulda hooked up with this chick already.

Originally posted by Duke
I felt uncomfortable because she was leading so much... I had to ask her for directions to get to our destination because I don't know the area well. She would say shyt to me in the car like "Turn left... you have to get in the turning lane ," like I didn't already know! On foot, she would walk out ahead of me.

As far as her leading, take this as a sign that she is sexually submissive. Most people who take control in life often love to relinquish it in the bedroom. These type of women LONG to be dominated. Once you get her close to you, and the vibe is intimate, you MUST take the lead because there is a 99.9% probability that she wont!

Seriously, sometimes you have to tap into your Inner Caveman and take some chances! If you get blown off, then no sweat right? You are still learning to calibrate and are allowed to mess up when honing those instincts of yours.

SYNOPSIS...

So far so good Dukester. It sounds like you are having a good time, which is the most important part of this game.

Keep it up!

 

[Duke]

NOTE: This is a "continuation" post. I began writing it about a month ago and saved it on my HD. I will tell you when I started writing TONIGHT.

Damn, Fingz, what a reply! I regret not reading it sooner.

Lately, I have been going out more than I ever have in my life thanks to my driver's license , and since I last posted, field experience has enabled me to learn a lot FAST. Man, I can't stress enough how vital it is to GET OUT THERE!!

Like you said Fingz, keyboard jockeying is like reading about how to drive a car... it doesn't matter if you read a DMV manual for 20 years-- you are still going to die in a horrible wreck if you jump into a car for the first time and head out on the freeway with no experience.

I haven't gone out with Veggy since my last FR, but I intend to see her again next week and ask her to prom. However, I did meet up with Sarah last night for my 18th birthday. Sarah's the tall, crazy tease. I noticed that since I have been going out with Theresa, Sarah's IL had spiked up a bit. During our playful exchanges, she would subtly try to find out if I still liked her as more than a friend.

Example:
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*She was telling me about how she was going to a Clay Aiken concert soon*
Me:I wonder if that dude has groupies..he doesn't seem like the type.
Sarah:Yeah, me lol
Me:No, I mean GROUPIES
Sarah:Me.
Me: You don't get it!!
Sarah: ME.
Me:Groupies-- they go backstage and are like "Take me!"
Sarah:Oh, that can be me.
Me: Hmmm, you do that. Tell me if that stooge agrees or runs away with his wrists flailing.
Sarah:Which one would you do? lol
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Then she made me promise to see her this weekend. She had FLAKED on me that day, and I called her on it. She didn't think I was serious, so I set things straight and made sure she realizes that I am serious when I make plans.

My field report begins.

We met outside of Barnes & Noble. She was reading and leaning back with her feet propped up on a table... told me she got there an hour early b/c she wanted to read.. Weird, but w/e. We head over to this lil sandwich joint and I freakin hungry right about now, so I order a big roast beef sandwich. HBCrazy (sarah) orders a coke and grabs some crayons and a coloring sheet of a Mexican pickle wearing a sombrero (haha, you flashed through my mind, Fingz!!).

STARTING TONIGHT
Now I lose some detail because it's been a month. To sum it up quickly, we went to the movies and we began holding hands a bit. I tried to spread out her fingers so that I could get some full-fledge skin-on-skin contact going, but she resisted, balling her fingers up against mine. She accused me of trying to "compare hands" and I guess I was, but I was unconscious of it. She thinks her hands are bigger than mine, which they aren't. Well, she's insecure about how tall she is so yeah. I took this as a sign of disinterest (unwillingness to be dominated).

We went to B&N after the movie and I got her to buy me The Kama Sutra (book) for my birthday. She tried to hand me the money to go pay for it, but I wouldn't have it!! I made her much up there and pay for it. Lol, it was funny.

Oh yah, before she went to pay for it, we were loitering around the Sex Books section. I picked up "Sex for Dummies" and skimmed it. Some of HBCrazy's friends showed up, so I held the book right in front of my face like I was really studying it. Soon, some random hot chicks showed up. HBCrazy was taken by her friends, so I gamed the random chicks. I saw one of them flipping through a pop-out picture Kama Sutra book and warned her that "something that she doesn't expect" might pop out.

I got the whole group laughing and noticed that HBCrazy and her friends were looking my way. I then pointed out a page that showed a depiction of an Asian man having sex on top of an elephant. When you flap the pages of the book, it looks like the main is humping the elephant. This too caused the girls to bust up. It was sweet. When they left they were all like "Byyyyee!" in a really girl voice.

Once again, HBCrazy's peeped my way. After buying me the book, HBCrazy left.

A few days later, I asked her something stupid about HBVeggy and she became extremely cold towards me (jealous, I found out a couple days later). Turns out, the hand-holding meant a LOT to her, and she thought I was into her.

Anyways, I'm gonna see her on Sunday again. This time, she invited me to the movies. Interesting.

Peace, guys. I have a whole 'nother chronical about my best friend's girl wanting to suck my d!ck that I'll get into soon. Just to get you thinking... what would you do?

EXTREMELY HOT CHICK has confessed that she is turned on by your slighest touch, by your smile. You have a strong emotional connection and excellent rapport; she's cool as hell. She hints strongly at giving you a ******* and having sex with you. Only problem is she is your best friend's g/f. She is unsatisfied with him cuz he is AFC and will break up with him soon. You can get with her after they break up. What would you do??

Duke

 

[So Many Ways]

EXTREMELY HOT CHICK has confessed that she is turned on by your slighest touch, by your smile. You have a strong emotional connection and excellent rapport; she's cool as hell. She hints strongly at giving you a ******* and having sex with you. Only problem is she is your best friend's g/f. She is unsatisfied with him cuz he is AFC and will break up with him soon. You can get with her after they break up. What would you do??
------------------
Do nothing. That's your best friend. If your friendship means anything to you, you'll leave her alone. Remember, bros before hos.

I got to second Senor Fingers post. It was so on the money. When I game on chicks, I respond based on how I judge their personality. Not all chicks go for the C&F.

At any rate, congrats on the success you've had.

 

[Duke]

So Many Ways:

Man I'm trying to resist the temptation, but it's SO STRONG. This chick looks like a slightly darker version of an Olsen twin and she has one of the most kick-ass personalities I've ever encountered. And she wants me!! That is the toughest part. I was not at all interested in her beforehand b/c I don't persue uninterested chicks.

She ended up telling Kyle that she needed to "take a break" and I believe I was a big cause of that. I need to get with her now if I ever do.

In other news, I posted my pic on hotornot and got a fvckin' 9.3. I thought I was a pretty average looking guy! Maybe even ugly. But damn, my physical confidence is just through the roof right now.

Tomorrow night I'm meeting up with HBCrazy at the movies. Yes, the one that previously gave me the LJBF speech. She invited me. I see a makeout session in the near future. Well, I'll keep ya'll updated. Cheers,
Duke

 

[Porky]

Originally posted by Duke
Peace, guys. I have a whole 'nother chronical about my best friend's girl wanting to suck my d!ck that I'll get into soon. Just to get you thinking... what would you do?

I've been in that situation. I ignored her coming on to me for about a month, but finally she asked me to prom. I said "what about Tony?" Her reply? "Who cares about Tony? I don't care about Tony."

I had a talk with her and now we're just friendly. Last I heard they were still together and engaged (in high school...wtf?) to be married.

 

[Duke]

Porky:

She looks to be a bit of a drama-queen, so parting ways with her is made easier. I'm trying to stay away, but BOY its hard. I know its the right thing to do, though.

 

[Duke]

This field report chronicles Thursday, the 27th of May 2004.
Second kiss .

I headed out to New Orleans to see A Perfect Circle in concert at the U.N.O. Lakefront Arena with a bunch of my friends and a couple of HB's that belong to my friend circle. HB-PizzaGirl and HB-Wildeyes are both there along with my 'best friend' whom we shall call LS.

Let's fast-forward this bytch!
*zoooooooooooooooom*

I got screwed out of riding with my friends and had to ride with the grouchiest, angriest, most insecure drama-queen AFC known to man. And his fat girlfriend. And another AFC. Just WONDERFUL!

This AFC, I'll call him S, was a perfect example of what I could have metamorphased into had I not changed my attitude. This guy was fat, lethargic, poorly dressed... his car was a wreck, his attitude was shytty-- he blew his lid over EVERY SINGLE THING that went wrong regardless of importance. He fell asleep at the wheel when we were at a red-light and ran into the back of an 18-wheeler, which fukked up his hood.
Anyway, besides this dikkface, the trip was an overall enjoyable experience.

LS and Wildeyes soon get into a fight and she claims that he DUMPED her. I had a hard time believing this, and later on it turns out that she completely misunderstood him and they made up... yet I still think she is dissatisfied and wants OUT. I learned a lot during my outing. The one truth that stuck out most to me is this: WOMEN AND SEXUALITY ARE INSEPARABLE. They are one and the same. They want to fukk you wildly just as much you want to fukk them!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ...We make our way to the mall.

So the two girls get REALLY drunk, right? I mean PizzaGirl can barely walk straight! Wildeyes has slightly better retention but is still buzzin' like a bee. SOMEHOW OR ANOTHER, I get left with them at the food court and we have lunch.

Wildeyes, surprisingly, tells me that LS saw her as a piece of ass..."he treats me like a piece of meat-- just someone he thinks he can make out with and never even talk to!" she protested. I nodded and ate. I lift my eyes to her while chewing my chicken sandwich. She continues in a slightly suggestive tone, "Duke, you don't see us (her and PizzaGirl) as pieces of ass do you?"

I'm thinking to myself, "Well, right now yeah! Prove me wrong, drama-ho!" But I say, "Nahhh" and shake my head and keep eating. She picks up where she left off, "Good cuz I don't like being treated that way. There needs to be some kind of CONNECTION, ya know?"

I thought this was funny...she was unwittingly starting up an NLP-style pattern that I use on chicks. I go, "Yeah, EXACTLY! A relationship is SO MUCH BETTER when you have a REAL connection with a person. When its just understood." I made sure to look both of them in the eyes while speaking and to maintain a calm, collected tone.

PizzaGirl pipes up in a drunken haze (obviously exaggerated since this was her second time being drunk), "Duke, I think we have some sort of connection. Don't you thi..." Wildeyes pierces through PizzaGirl's drunken fog by looking me straight in the eyes and interrupting with "She's just drunk, don't listen to her."

I proceeded to mess with these chicks since they were drunk. I asked them to name the capital of Russia, some different states in the U.S. and I got exceedingly funny answers. I go, "What's the capital of Arizona?" PizzaGirl slurs out, "Lake City" and is immediately corrected by Wildeyes who still has SOME of her wits.

We go window shopping for a little while and I've got my arm around each chick's waist and they've got their arms over my shoulders. PizzaGirl was a fukkin dog in heat! She kept KISSING MY NECK IN PUBLIC as we walked along. I don't know if it's because PizzaGirl has a boyfriend or because Wildeyes was jealous, but Wildeyes kept admonishing PizzaGirl for her behavior.

Gotta admit I felt like the Pimpmaster General walking around with 2 HB9s hanging off of me in the mall. We take a winding staircase (they are still hanging off of me) and my hand bumps a railing and I drop my bottle of water. I go, "Whoop, hold up, dropped my water bottle." And Wildeyes says, GET THIS...... "You dropped it because you were thinking of me and PizzaGirl naked... and we have absolutely NO PROBLEM WITH THAT!!!" She said that with a HUUUGE smile on her face and they both started giggling like crazy.

1) Girls want cokk........CHECK

Soon, we arrive at a massage therapy store in the mall...
PizzaGirl sits down in a vibrating chair. She turns it on. Wildeyes points to the foot-rest and says to PG, "Can you imagine sitting on that thing?!" They giggle again.

PG sits in the chair and says to me, "Look, my boobs are jiggling. See?" Lol this was great. I say with an air of disinterest, "Yeah... I see em'." and walk away.

2) Girls really loooove cokk.........CHECK!

On and off, PG would hang off of me... yet she would ALSO hang off of other guys. I guess her drunkenness accounted for all this? But 3 AMOGS were competing for her attention.

I got pissed at her at first, but then the sun got to me and a mirage of PuertoRican-Lover appeared in front of me. In a thick Latino accent, he told me, "She is a hor! Do not be angry. Move on from her!"

Later, as everyone was sitting down on a road shoulder and waiting for our rides to arrive to bring us to the concert, I laid down. I was almost sleeping when I hear AMOG-Surferdude say "Kiss him." Before I know it, I open my eyes and PizzaGirl's face is staring back down at me. She moves in for the kiss and we kiss! But man it was sloppy since she was drunk. I sit up like WTF and Surferdude says "Just tryin' to help you out haha."

Ass...he's trying to insinuate that I have trouble getting women and that he has control of PizzaGirl.

I lay back down without saying anything and try to go to sleep. A minute later PizzaGirl is again staring down at me and she moves in and kisses me again-- this time of her own accord! This one was even worse because she let her face fall into mine and our teeth clanked together.

3) Girls want cokk..... Chee-yeck!

Intermittently throughout the night I'd lock eyes with PizzaGirl and make sure that I didn't look away. Once, she blew me a kiss, and I went back to watching the concert. At another point, I locked eyes and she smiled, so I smiled in turn.

I got her number at the end of the night. Whenever I left to go back to the car I came in, she goes, "Where are you going?!" I reply, "To the other car." It was kind of funny... how surprised she sounded.

It's been 3 days, so I intend on calling her later tonight or tomorrow and setting up something where we can be alone... preferably a movie at her house. The fact that she has a boyfriend doesn't really deter me. He must be a big AFC, cuz she is NEVER with him. I've never even seen the guy, so I have no guilt about my endeavours. She probably won't become a LTR, though. A summer FB would be excellent, tho.

Comments and suggestions welcome!!
-Duke

 

[Don Ronny]

Ahhh drink sluts! Have fun man, just dont forget to use a rubber, hell, go double-ply on that ass!

 

[Duke]

Haha, yeah. At first I felt a little guilty about the whole thing... her being drunk and all. But screw it, she chose to drink, so whatever happens happens.



Muuuwahahahahahahaha!

 

[Duke]

Field Report for Thursday, June 10
She LJBF'd me 4 months ago. Tonight she devoured my face.

Ah, the long love-war of attrition. How many times I have been told to next this girl... "She LJBF'd you... NEXT" "She is too tall for you... NEXT" Etcetera, etcetera...

When she LJBF'd me long ago, I reversed it on her by telling her that I was about to say the same thing and that I didn't want our friendship to be ruined.

Throw in some scarcity. Add a little bit of jealousy to the mix (she knew I was seeing other girls). Keep things light and CF. A touch of kino and BAM!!!

This date went the way it did largely due to "mental picturing." Search my posts for a thread entitled "Mental Dating."

I met HBCrazy at Barnes and Noble tonight. She is pretty tall-- around 5'11. Her legs are looooong. She told me she was gonna wear jeans, but she surprised me with a pair of khaki short-shorts. She is naturally a brunette, but she died her hair to a reddish color. She looks almost JUST LIKE the character Donna from "That 70's Show." She was with some friends, but we broke away and walked to the movie theater nearby.

I stopped her with my arm as we were walking and patted her stomach down. She no longer needed her backbrace. (lame excuse for kino heheh). "Ah, you're no longer the Bionic Woman, I see."

"Nope! Just me and my gut," she replied. We walked inside the theater. We gave the ticket-dude our ticket and he told us where the movie was going to play. HBCrazy and I were the first ones in the theater. She wanted to know where I wanted to sit, and I let her know that I like sitting in the back row.

So we sat down and almost immidately, a contest over the arm-rest broke out. She tried really hard to nudge me off, but ended up losing . I propped my feet up and told her to tell me if they blocked her view. I then shoved my foot in her face, and she slapped it down. I put it back in front of her and she says, "I wanna compare our feet."

She sticks her foot on the side of mine. I ask her, "Why are you comparing our feet? You wanna buy me some shoes, don't you?"
*giggling* "No."

After some of this, I told her that I was going to get some refreshments. I got up and asked her if she wanted anything. "No." she replied. "Good! Cuz I wasn't going to get you anything anyway!" I said with an arrogant smirk on my face.

I come back with a Vanilla Coke hanging low by my side. She asks "Where is your refreshment?" "In my pants." I whip out my Vanilla Coke and comment, "Coke is so bad for you. There's so much sugar in it!" Then I took a big swig and she says "OMG I LOVE Coke." I offered her some, but she didn't want any.

The previews begin to play and we make a few comments to each other about them and get each other laughing. Some teenage girl to the left of us is on a cell phone. "Helllo?!" she says in an extremely loud and ghetto voice. HBCrazy and I crack up. HBCrazy comments that the girl is funnier than the previews.

Since I won the arm-rest battle, HBC tries to punish me by digging her elbow into my arm. But I didn't mind it, and I didn't budge. Eventually she settles onto my arm. It's not too comfortable, but I liked the kino, so I let her stay there for 15 minutes or so.

I take my arm out from under her and set it back on the arm-rest. I did this partly because i was losing circulation in my arm and partly because I wanted to break kino with her to make her wonder. 5 minutes later, I tell her "Hey, lift your head a second." She does, and I slide my arm around the back of her neck and let my hand rest on her shoulder, carressing it from time to time.

After a while, she leans into me more, and I get to smell her hair. Mmmmm! "Are you smelling my hair?" says she. "Yes, I am. It smells good!" I say. "What is this stuff?" I continue. "It smells all tropical and fruity." She replies, "Herbal Essences."

Well I smell her hair for a while and caress her arms and then i take her hand with my free arm. She reciprocates. She doesn't have a "dead man's hand."

This goes on for some more time. A few minutes pass and I get bolder. I place her hand on top of mine, and I put MY hand on her chest. Not really her boobs, but the area between the neck and the boobs. I rest it there for a while, and then I FEEL HER BRA THROUGH HER SHIRT. I work my hand lower... and lower... and lower... towards her nipple, but she takes my hand and brings up back toward her chest again. I tried later with the same result. Shoot!

We leaned in really close to each other. As far as I know, she had never kissed anyone before tonight. Our heads leaned against one another and I caught her looking up at me a few times. She broke eye contact.

I glanced at her lips occasionally. I knew she was ready when I heard her swallowing and saw her licking her lips. I kissed her on the cheek at first... she started giggling!!

I asked her what was funny and she said, "Nothing." A couple minutes later, I went back in, this time for the lips!! Now the first girl I ever kissed has been the best kisser so far, but I had no connection with her. HBC kissed me, but it was sloppy by comparison. Nevertheless I FINALLY kissed this chick. I've been knowing her for 5 months and I've been wanting her since I first met her.

I then placed my hand on her bare thigh (which she had propped up on a seat in front of us). I didn't notice it, but my hand was sliding miiighty low! She took it and moved it back up on her thigh. I messed with her and moved it back down just to get a reaction from her. She moved it back up again. Well, well! Looks like I have some ASD to diffuse!!

The movie ended and we went to the lobby. I asked her to hold my Vanilla Coke for me while I took a leak. I had the baddest case of blueballs in my life. A combo of having to pee like a racehorse and a psycho-boner is NOT good. We walked to her car and talked for a couple minutes. She told me that she did NOT want to go home.

I asked why not, and she said she didn't like her parents. I asked her how long she was gonna stay and she replied with, "As long as you stand here talking to me." So I said, "Ya know, I'd rather sit down."

So I hopped into the passenger seat of her car. I explored her car and all of the little knick-knacks in it. We couldn't think of anywhere to go, so she circled the movie-theater parking lot and parked again. We searched through each other's belongings (wallet, purse, cell phones, you name it). It was obvious to me why she didn't want to go home. And it wasn't because of her mother.

We talk about each other's hair, and I tell her, "So what? I take care of my hair. That doesn't make me a metrosexual!" HBCrazy responds "Oh, you are SUCH a metrosexual!" "No, I'm not! Argh!" And I pull her hair. "OW!!" she says. "I have a sensitive head!" So I pulled her hair again, and she starts to REALLY pull and mess up MY hair.

The seats were reclined, of course. She taunted me by demonstrating driver's side ELECTRONIC seat adjustment while I had to adjust the seat the old fashioned way. Well, I ended up laying next to her for a bit. I spotted her hemp necklace and say, "Hey I like this necklace. This is hemp, right?"

She goes, "Yeah it's MARIJUANA! I break off little strands and smoke them!" I look at something in her backseat, and then lay down again. This time I put my arm over her (I am laying face-down and she is laying face-up). I pull myself up, and look into her eyes briefly. Then I look at her lips and move in again.

We kiss for a good 4 minutes or so. She giggles intermittently, and I STILL haven't figured out WHY. Maybe she was just nervous? Embarassed? She was inhaling my lips lol. Maybe she was embarassed because she slobbered all on my face.

I pull away and go "What's so funny?" She stops giggling for a second and says with a big smile on her face, "I don't know, I'm sorry!" We go back to kissing, yadda yadda.

Well I got tired of kissing, so I moved down to her neck. I moved her necklace out of the way and licked & kissed her neck for a bit. She seemed to be enjoying this a LOT. She arched her back and started moaning and shyt! I put her necklace back where it was before (Props to the guy who posted about this. Supposedly, removing a piece of a woman's clothing, kissing her there, and then putting it back is supposed to be EXTREMELY sexy to them).

I went back to kissing her and her PHONE RANG!!!! ARG. It was her mom. HBCrazy had to go home. She told me bye really happily and told me she had a great time. She kissed me on the cheek and I left.

Next time I get with her, I plan on escalating things a lil bit. Developments SHALL be interesting. She looks like LTR material. We'll see.

Any questions, comments, related experiences, or words of wisdom are welcome!!!

Cheers, everyone!!

-Duke