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Well guys, I decided to put down my own method for selfish reasons so that I may refer to it when I need it and clarify what works for me so that I can continue to remember and use it. However, if you find what I'm about to say applicable and it helps you, rock on!

I've been on a journey that has it's roots in 1999, but finally began sprouting in early 2003. I was a chubby, socially inadequate video game addict. Girls joked that other girls liked me just to mind-fukk me in middle-school. "Haha, this girl LIKES YOU, Duke!" Of course the girl in question would protest and I'd be the butt of another joke. I was a huge target for guys as well. I was the ONLY guy in my small hick-town middle-school who didn't play football. Life for me then was hell.

Through a series of events that I won't detail here, I transformed into the blossoming PUA that I am today.

Everything I post here has been verified by field experience. No theory, no bullshyt. By no means do I consider myself a master of the game. I learn new things all the time. This is just what has worked FOR ME.

The Mindset

When you're approaching or talking to a girl, envision her doing the lewdest, crudest, most sexually arousing things to you that you can think of. SEE THE END GOAL. See yourself fukking her in your mind's eye while you are talking to her and approaching. Essentially, the nervousness you'd normally feel will have transformed into EXCITEMENT, precisely because there is NO QUESTION in your mind that your end goal will become a REALITY. She WILL end up doing all that shyt to you.

Keep in mind that the amount of confidence you display is directly proportional to how attractive she finds you. Confidence is an inner state of mind that springs from past successes and the amount of certainty with which you can predict future success. If you have NEVER approached a girl, then you won't have much confidence that you even can in the first place. But if you have approached dozens or even hundreds of girls, your confidence in regard to approach will be tremendous. This rule applies to EVERYTHING. The more you do something, the better you get at it (if you make good corrective decisions). The better you get at it, the more confidence you have that you can pull it off again in the future.

Realize that girls want, love, and CRAVE SEX ravenously. Don't believe me? Check out any porno site of a girl deep-throating some guy's c0ck and nearly gagging. If that's not evidence of women loving c0ck and the act of sexual intercourse with a man, I don't know what is. So GIVE IT TO THEM. Make absolutely no negative character judgments on them when they surrender the puzzy. The reason I use the word "surrender" is not because girls don't like sex. I use the word "surrender" because you have to reassure the girl that YOU WILL NOT JUDGE HER based on her instinct to be a slut lol. Once she feels SAFE that you won't judge her, her anti-slut defenses will go down and she will surrender her puzzy for you. Most girls like to delude themselves into thinking that they had no choice in whether or not they had sex with you. You just 'swept her up in the moment.' LOL. That's such BS. She just wants to keep her reputation clean and blame it on you if worse comes to worse. Fine, no problem. I'll accept that HORRIBLE HORRIBLE tax if it means she will do all that lewd, crude, and deliciously erotic shyt to me.

Don't be intimidated by other guys (because getting the lay has got to be a certainty in your mind), but also realize that they are competition. Think...if YOU aren't fukking that HB10 knockout with an ass to kill for, then OTHER MOTHERFUKKERS WILL BE!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Dude, doesn't that make you angry? Doesn't it make you want to assert yourself over those other guys? If you are inactive, then THEY ARE STEALING PUZZY FROM YOU. At least put up a fukking fight, man! VISUALIZE THIS: Some random guy you saw today is pounding the shyt out of a girl you didn't approach, because HE was her only choice, since he was the only one who approached her. It's not a pleasant thought, but that's the fukking reality.

To prepare you to approach, watch porno, but don't jack off. It will get you into a strong sexual state that's ideal for PU.

The Interaction

Always keep it light and fun. You should be as positive as possible all the time. Positivity is magnetic. When approaching, use the environment to your advantage. Make a comment on it, or ask her an open-ended quesiton about it. Or comment on something about her, but be vague as to your true stance about her, ie: "You have an interesting look." Make as much eye contact as you can when talking. Make sure your face is fluid and your facial expressions are shining through. Don't smile unless there's something funny going on. Beta guys smile all the time to signal to the alphas that they are inferior.

Of course, stand up straight, and have a good posture, c0ck your head back a little if you want, keep your feet shoulder length apart, and just dominate, man!

Lead her imagination/emotions to good places. Ask "What if" questions and use "future projections" to see yourselves doing fun things together in the future.

Venue change when you sense the opportunity, because venue changes condense time and make it seem like you know someone longer than you have.

Once you have some rapport and are getting some IOIs (indicators of interest), get physical! Put your arm around her waist, bump her off the sidewalk when walking, poke her in the stomach, take her hand to guide her places, lead her with your hand on her back/waist, "steal" things from her so that she has to get them back from you, walk in front of her then stop suddenly so she bumps into you, touch her shoulder when you're saying something directed only to her, kick her foot under the table, tell her you want to see if you can lift her up then put her over your shoulder and caveman her or literally sweep her off her feet and carry her around.

Ass-grabbing is fair game! You are a man; take what you want! Especially if she is wearing some clothes that really accentuate it. If she gives you the :-O look, then just shrug or tell her "I couldn't help it" and do it again.

Conversation should NEVER be intellectual, but always EMOTIONAL/IMAGINATIVE (imagination and emotions tend to be intertwined). It's not too hard to come up with topics, just use your own imagination.

NEVER, NEVER apologize to her for anything unless she honestly deserves one. "I'm sorry I showed up 5 mins late"=bad.

Once you are in sexual state, your subconscious mind will take control of your body. Your eyes will devour her body. She will pick up on this. When a man communicates his DESIRE for a girl with his eyes, it is very sexy to her. Don't be afraid to scan her legs, her boobs, or whatever, and then look her in the eyes. She will feel your desire and love you for it. She will ,perhaps, look away, but she will get horny.

ISOLATE ISOLATE ISOLATE. I don't know about you guys, but I can't get jack-shyt done as far as closing goes if her friends are around or AMOGS are competing for her attention. Get her alone to knock out her ASD.

Make the ho say no. If you represent yourself as a sexual being, then she cannot simply dismiss you to the dreaded LJBF-zone. She will either have to surrender and sex you, or avoid you and tell you to go away.

Last, but not least... take chances. If you think something will work, TRY IT. Take the risk. You miss 100% of the shots you don't take.

I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.
-Michael Jordan

Props to the men who have inspired me beyond my wildest expectations (in no particular order):

Mister Fingers
Gunwitch
Pook
Photo1
Nick S.
JVesti
MetalFortress
David Deangelo
Tyler Durden
And everyone who's been reading and replying to my journal. Your response have been invaluable. Thank you!

Happy Hunting,
Duke
 
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WrEcKLeSS2000

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Can you give me some examples of emotional/imaginative topics to talk about with girls?
 

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Originally posted by ICEHOCEY77
mad props on this man....great work
Thanks! :D As long as it helps people, I'm happy.


Originally posted by WrEcKLeSS2000
Can you give me some examples of emotional/imaginative topics to talk about with girls?
Okay... as long as you use your imagination, you can always engage hers and work on her emotions.

Let's say you bring up the weather.

AFC: Hey, it's nice out today.
Girl: Yeah, it is.
AFC: Yup, pretty cloudy, kinda hot though.
Girl: Uh huh.
AFC: So, what are you up to?
Girl: Uh not too much, you?
..........................................................

PUA: Hey, lovely weather, huh?
Girl: Yup.
PUA: Such a majestic sunset. It reminds me of Japan... and Hawaii. Oh my God, I love those places so much!
Girl: You've been to them?
PUA: Nah, but I've always imagined living in a tropical paradise, FEELING RELAXED, taking in the cool breeze, feeling it caress my body as all my worries float away. Wouldn't that be so nice?
Girl: Yeaahh (DDB face)
PUA: Mmm, I can almost feel it right now! You'd like that wouldn't you? We could lay out and there'd be our own little world, haha, we'd buy the island just for ourselves and create our own race of people! Of course, they'd be the most beautiful people in the world.
Girl: *laughing*
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See the DRASTIC difference there is when you engage her emotions instead of her logical brain? :)
 

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Originally posted by Duke
PUA: Hey, lovely weather, huh?
Girl: Yup.
PUA: Such a majestic sunset. It reminds me of Japan... and Hawaii. Oh my God, I love those places so much!
Girl: You've been to them?
PUA: Nah, but I've always imagined living in a tropical paradise, FEELING RELAXED, taking in the cool breeze, feeling it caress my body as all my worries float away. Wouldn't that be so nice?
Girl: Yeaahh (DDB face)
PUA: Mmm, I can almost feel it right now! You'd like that wouldn't you? We could lay out and there'd be our own little world, haha, we'd buy the island just for ourselves and create our own race of people! Of course, they'd be the most beautiful people in the world.
Girl: *laughing*
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See the DRASTIC difference there is when you engage her emotions instead of her logical brain? :) [/B]
That got me hard :p
 

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Duke there was an obvious difference between the two conversations but remember, if she's interested she will be talking a lot more than that. If she's not, she's either a) really nervous b) not interested or c) reluctant to talk about the given topic.
 

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Nice Post! :)
 

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Originally posted by Duke
PUA: Hey, lovely weather, huh?
Girl: Yup.
PUA: Such a majestic sunset. It reminds me of Japan... and Hawaii. Oh my God, I love those places so much!
Girl: You've been to them?
PUA: Nah, but I've always imagined living in a tropical paradise, FEELING RELAXED, taking in the cool breeze, feeling it caress my body as all my worries float away. Wouldn't that be so nice?
Girl: Yeaahh (DDB face)
PUA: Mmm, I can almost feel it right now! You'd like that wouldn't you? We could lay out and there'd be our own little world, haha, we'd buy the island just for ourselves and create our own race of people! Of course, they'd be the most beautiful people in the world.
Girl: *laughing*
.........................................................

See the DRASTIC difference there is when you engage her emotions instead of her logical brain


Christ, that is just a bit TOO similar to what fings has said :rolleyes:

Either way, good work
 

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jiza101

Good to hear it buddy! Now that you're aroused, go sarge some chicks! :)

That_Guy49

AMOG stands for Alpha Male Other Guy. Basically it's any guy who tries to steal your target. TRIES being key word, cuz you can't let him ;).

ASD is Anti-Slut Defense. It refers to the resistance women put up to your advances because of societal conditioning to avoid the label "slut."

Nocturnal

I totally agree. I was just showing how GUYS can take different approaches to leading the conversation. Certainly, interested girls will make more of an effort to carry conversation along and give more creative responses.

UltraMan

Thanks!! :cool:

DJBen

That's because Fingz said it best. Why fix it if it ain't broke? You want MORE examples?

Thank tho :)

Duke
 

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The whole "imagine her doing the most erotic things to you" think works REALLY well for approches. You'll lose any kind of fear you had.
 

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sweet post, deserves a standing ovation (i know that word's probally misspelled)
 

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Ass-grabbing is fair game! You are a man; take what you want! Especially if she is wearing some clothes that really accentuate it. If she gives you the :-O look, then just shrug or tell her "I couldn't help it" and do it again.
This I like...
 

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Originally posted by phenom
This I like...
Not just the ass-grabbing part, but that admiting to her that you are a man and not apologizing for it.
 
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