"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Dude Leaves note in Girl's Purse on NYC Subway - She Calls

HeyPachuco!

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How many of you undercover guys are on jezebel, or any other women-gossip blogspheres? I think its only right for a few of us to see what it is, the girls actually talk about in their spare time, as I know there are women lurking on here and other male-forum sites.

Whats funny about this short story is, that this girl USUALLY rejects guys who chat her up, but she thought, she'd be nice THIS ONE TIME, and reply to a guy who left a note with his number on their, in her purse.


Once some guy who takes the same subway as me somehow left a note in my purse. Saying that he thought I was cute and should we go for coffee some time. He included his cellnumber. Since some friends constantly pick on me, saying I am so unfriendly to random dudes who try to chat me up, I thought I'd give him the benefit of the doubt and textet him. Asking if he knew me from work, who he was and how he had managed to get that note into my bag in the first place (because that freaked me out a bit).
Despite me repeating those same questions in four messages he never answered a single one, instead he tried to flatter me with idiotic nonsense that sounded like stupidest lines ever devised. Right, because I'm like a magpie, showing me the equivalent of something glittery will instantly make me forget that you just don't want to reveal ANYTHING about yourself, while asking about my life, my relationship status and my workplace.
I quote: "When I first saw you I was stunned. I was mesmerized by how sweet and lovely you are."
I knew he was bull****ting me right then and there, because if you see me on the tube or anywhere really...sweet and lovely are SO NOT the first words that come to mind! Believe me!
After asking him a fifth time and still receiving no concrete answers I finally told him to forget it. Till this day he sometimes texts me out of the blue despite the fact that I have never answered again. Creepy much?
Whoever the dude was, sounds like he was pulling some seduction type PUA stuff, by totally talking about HER, and not himself. Well, he was doing fine untill after the note-giveaway, it came back to shoot him in the foot.

Oh and can I just note, that, paying or insisting to pay for dates is a TURN-OFF. Apparently, you can be thrown into the creep stockpile, for insisting to pay for dates now. Heck, what was the whole ''paying for the first date'' thing about anyway? I'm not even split it, and let her pay, just from reading some of these comments these chickenheads are making LOL.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Scars

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Amateur PUA or completely clueless.
 

Tesl

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WTF??

You guys are seriously thinking this behaviour is "Amateur PUA" stuff? Since when have PUA recommended slipping a note into a girls bag because you are too much of a ***** to actually talk to her?

And you think this is a great line because its "talking about her and not himself"?

When I first saw you I was stunned. I was mesmerized by how sweet and lovely you are.
You guys clearly have NO idea what you are talking about whatsoever. This guy is almost definitely a total loser, and wouldn't know pickup in a million years.
 

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Reminds me of a time I was at a hipster coffee shop and two young girls were there gossiping away. One kept looking over at me and the other made an elaborate display of writing something on a piece of paper and hiding it under an ash tray. Then they got up and left; out of curiosity I walked over to their table and took the note from under the ash tray. It read something like: "Call her, she's easy," and then gave a phone number.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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