I'm never going to get laid at this rate man because I just can't gain the balls to approach women. I did a few approaches earlier in the year, but I'm still very afraid to approach women, especially if it's a girl I like. I want to approach the girl with "Hey, how's it going?" but then I start thinking that that won't work, and won't spark an interesting conversation. Most successful approach I've had so far is with this Lauren chick, who I had a decent convo with. It's fear of rejection that makes me so scared, fear that my opening line will not spark an interesting conversation, and fear that I'll overall fail with the girl. When I've actually talked to the girl, it's easier to hold a conversation, but my big fear is talking to women I know little about. For instance, there's this Amanda girl in track, and I had several chances to approach her during the meet, but the fear that "Hey, how's it going?" or something like "Hey, I saw you running. What event do you do?" wouldn't start a good convo held me back. I'm never going to get laid at this rate man.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Dude... I'm never going to get laid at this rate.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Firstly, don't post people's names online. it will get back to you somehow. Maybe not, but be paranoid. This thing we do does not engender a lot of friends.
secondly, grow some balls
Rejection happens ALL THE TIME. Rejection from a job, a school, etc. Life is a constant series of tests, to see whether you are MAN enough to deserve the things you get. Believe me, working to get something is much better than getting it without a lot of work in the long run. It makes you feel better about having it (incidentally, that is one of the techniques we use here)
secondly, grow some balls
Rejection happens ALL THE TIME. Rejection from a job, a school, etc. Life is a constant series of tests, to see whether you are MAN enough to deserve the things you get. Believe me, working to get something is much better than getting it without a lot of work in the long run. It makes you feel better about having it (incidentally, that is one of the techniques we use here
)What's the big deal? It's not like you know her last name, nor the school I go to and it's not like anyone from my school goes to this board, so yeah, it's pretty much not a big deal. It's not like you'll be able to find much information about her just knowing her name is Amanda. There are billions of girls named Amanda out there, a good deal that probably do the same things this Amanda does. Besides say you did somehow find out her last name, it's so freaking common that that really wouldn't help you. You're being super paranoid.lebRambo said:Firstly, don't post people's names online. it will get back to you somehow. Maybe not, but be paranoid. This thing we do does not engender a lot of friends.
secondly, grow some balls
Rejection happens ALL THE TIME. Rejection from a job, a school, etc. Life is a constant series of tests, to see whether you are MAN enough to deserve the things you get. Believe me, working to get something is much better than getting it without a lot of work in the long run. It makes you feel better about having it (incidentally, that is one of the techniques we use here
That's good advice, but I'm just afraid my opener won't work. I can actually hold a conversation once I'm past the opener. I've said "hey" to this girl a few times, but never really approacged her.
ObieJuan
Senior Don Juan
Talk to some ugly chicks, ask them questions and get some convo skills to use on the ones you really want. Instead of worrying about being rejected, accept the fact you WILL be rejected, then it doesn't matter what you say to her. Focus on the journey, NOT the destination, because either way you're going to end up somewhere and most of the time it will not be within your control. Remember you can influence their decision but ultimately if they're not attracted there isn't a whole lot you can do besides work on whatever qualities make you special as an individual...that is what will bring you success. Getting women is a combination of looks, wealth and social status- I believe you should work on all of the above if you want to improve your marketability to them. I don't know if this will help you, I tend to summarize a lot.
Plec07
Senior Don Juan
Oh.. You'd be surprised. I'm sure there is at least one person at your school who has come to this board.ElStud said:
More importantly, you just gotta get out there and practise. Try volunteering somewhere like a retirement home to just get used to talking confidently and opening with people who won't care what you say.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Tha Realnezz
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I've met people from Brazil,France and portugal that been to this site.People underestimate how popular this board is(mainly because of askmen.com).
Too bad this site sucks.
But yeah just work with what you've got.Memorize something and don't go in naked given that you're new to this..
Talk about school,class,etc...do the nice guy routince cuz right now you are the nice guy since your convo is platonic.
Or you can do the stalker role and just lay your cards on the table and say you have no clue what to say and you really like the girl and wanna go out;....just like that.Blurt it out the blue..
Like she turns around and you're just standing there with an erection and you go.."Heyijustwanntedtoletyouknowireallylikeyouandiwannagooutwithyou"...
Too bad this site sucks.
But yeah just work with what you've got.Memorize something and don't go in naked given that you're new to this..
Talk about school,class,etc...do the nice guy routince cuz right now you are the nice guy since your convo is platonic.
Or you can do the stalker role and just lay your cards on the table and say you have no clue what to say and you really like the girl and wanna go out;....just like that.Blurt it out the blue..
Like she turns around and you're just standing there with an erection and you go.."Heyijustwanntedtoletyouknowireallylikeyouandiwannagooutwithyou"...