"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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toniothe3rd

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so i met this girl like a week ago. my first impulse was she's out of my league, like, she's really bad, but i decided its worth a shot and i've been texting her a fair amount.
Saturday comes and she texts me, urging me to come out. Despite how tempting it would be to go get drunk with her, I am unable to do so. We continue texting, and she's pretty suggestive: "what would we be doing right now if we met up?" and more bluntly, "i want you". Further along it comes out that i'm a virgin, which is shocking to her. I tell her i aught to lose my virginity before enlisting. She asks who i'd like to do it with, and I say "what are my options?" No reply.
The next morning she texts me telling how drunk she was the night before and says she can't remember what we were talking about and asks me to remind her. About an hour later she says she remembers and apologizes for her whorish drunken texting.
When I wake up I tell her not to apologize and that it was pretty fun texting her.
How should I interpret her apology? Does she mean "I'd only sexually consider you when I'm drunk" or "I'd only tell you what I think of you when I'm drunk" or "You didn't make it clear enough that you are interested in me so now i'm blaming the alcohol for my interest in you" or none of the above?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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toniothe3rd said:
Further along it comes out that i'm a virgin,
Never say this to a girl. The point is to be masculine and strong, not a wimpy virgin. Let her wonder if you're a virgin, and tell her to find out for herself.

toniothe3rd said:
The next morning she texts me telling how drunk she was the night before and says she can't remember what we were talking about and asks me to remind her.
I see that as bullsh1t. She can simply look at her texting history. She was just testing you in some weird way to see if you'd be a nice guy and say 'oh, we talked about flowers mostly', or 'you wanted to fvck me sooo bad'


toniothe3rd said:
How should I interpret her apology? Does she mean "I'd only sexually consider you when I'm drunk" or "I'd only tell you what I think of you when I'm drunk" or "You didn't make it clear enough that you are interested in me so now i'm blaming the alcohol for my interest in you" or none of the above?
No clue. All I can tell you is that a while back when I was drunk, I was IMing this chick and told her she had nice tits. I would have fvcked her right then and there. But sober, not unless I got really desperate. So, you'll probably never know, unless you get aggressive with her. KINO her and see how she responds. Go talk to her tomorrow, ask her what she's doing this weekend and set up a date. If she goes on the date, try to get a kiss and you know she's interested.

The only way to find out is to actually test her interest through KINO and a date.
 

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I don't know, some girls have a thing for virgins.

Maybe this is a good thing.

You should still have a masculine attitude though.
 

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AlexLefty said:
I see that as bullsh1t. She can simply look at her texting history. She was just testing you in some weird way to see if you'd be a nice guy and say 'oh, we talked about flowers mostly', or 'you wanted to fvck me sooo bad'
She said she had deleted the history the night before.
text was as follows: "Duuude. i just woke up and erased my txts. that was a bad idea cuz i was soo drunk that i forget how i got where i am and what we were talking about...haha. so remind me?"
Still could be bull****.

I actually did manage to get something that could be twisted into a date though. Friday night she is gonna pick me up and I'm gonna smoke her out. Now I know that me getting picked up by her is kinda weak but she is two years my senior, and the fact that i'm smoking her out kinda cancels it out I think. I'm hoping to go from smoking to walking on the beach, and then notice I happen to have a towel and good vodka. Cool night on the beach should be conducive to KINO.
 
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