"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Drugs?

(JJ)

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I've been with this girl for a little while now and last night we were chillin at my house and the subject of drugs alcohol etc. came up. now, I'm a good kid (4.5 GPA never smoked or drank in my life) and she said that she'd been at parties before where there's been alcohol or weed or whatever there. All I did was roll my eyes and i kept saying how bad i thought it was. this whole time she was quick to say how she wasn't a part of it or she didn't do that kind of thing anymore or whatever just cuz she knows how i am about it and she was tryin to make it look like she's good enough for me :up: . so anyway the end of that subject began to roll around and i said "you better not do anything like that anymore or i'll kick your ass to the curb" half jokingly half seriously. I think i may have appeared slightly out of my element (which i was) but i'm just wondering what the right thing to do in this situation is.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Patrick124

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i mean dumping a girl for being a pothead i can understand, same if she always wants to get drunk. but casual drinking never hurt no body.
sorry, cant answer. i think u did fine..i mean w/e happens happens, it skinda pushy and most people dont go for that(ex: my ex hated that I smoked, too bad i still did while dating her, and just never told her until after i quit.)
 

nicenomore

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its all right what you did...

you have a standard about women (in this case they shouldn't be a pothead) and thats good. Shows you got something and will not accept every $hit in life.
 

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i dislike girls that i want to date that i find out later smoke. smoking just grosses me out. thats a standard i have on women. if they smoke i dont care how hot they are i wouldnt date em. i can be friends with people who smoke. but i just cant date someone who does. this girl i am seeing she went to a club and a friend of hers asked her outside. she was smoking and her friend gave her a cigarette she smoked it. when she came to school i was hugging and kissing her and i noticed a faint smell of cigarette in her hair. i said your hair smells like cigarette. she said my friends were smoking. i said you smoked? she said only 1. i just looked at her and kept my mouth shut with no expression on my face. afterwards she started asking my friends if i was mad at her. she came upto me and asked me are you mad at me. i said wel talk later. she pulled my arm and told me. your mad arent you. i said wel talk about it later i have to go to class showing no emotions at all. afterwards i met up with all the guys and she came. i said hold up i gotta take a leak. then she said uhh me 2. so i was walking in the hall and i stoped her. i said. dating a girl who smoking groses me out. it disgusts me and i wouldnt date a smoker. even if they were just a social smoker. I cant be with somebody who destroys there body little by little with every cigarette. it disgusts me. and if your going to continue then im cutting this relationship. she said no its ok. il stop if you dont want me to smoke. i promise il stop. and i could tell she really meant it.

all im saying is if you want to create a relationship with a girl please let them know your standards on woman so that you wont end up getting with an alcoholic or pothead, smoker, whatever.
 

The Shocker

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keep your standards
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Patrick124

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smoking cigarettes is gross. i ment i smoked buddah. lol.
but yeah, a girl who smokes jacks get a no-no from me. its sick nasty, in a bad way.

but man, hookah bars are the ****, check one of thsoe out.
 
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