"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Drugs?

(JJ)

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I've been with this girl for a little while now and last night we were chillin at my house and the subject of drugs alcohol etc. came up. now, I'm a good kid (4.5 GPA never smoked or drank in my life) and she said that she'd been at parties before where there's been alcohol or weed or whatever there. All I did was roll my eyes and i kept saying how bad i thought it was. this whole time she was quick to say how she wasn't a part of it or she didn't do that kind of thing anymore or whatever just cuz she knows how i am about it and she was tryin to make it look like she's good enough for me :up: . so anyway the end of that subject began to roll around and i said "you better not do anything like that anymore or i'll kick your ass to the curb" half jokingly half seriously. I think i may have appeared slightly out of my element (which i was) but i'm just wondering what the right thing to do in this situation is.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Patrick124

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i mean dumping a girl for being a pothead i can understand, same if she always wants to get drunk. but casual drinking never hurt no body.
sorry, cant answer. i think u did fine..i mean w/e happens happens, it skinda pushy and most people dont go for that(ex: my ex hated that I smoked, too bad i still did while dating her, and just never told her until after i quit.)
 

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its all right what you did...

you have a standard about women (in this case they shouldn't be a pothead) and thats good. Shows you got something and will not accept every $hit in life.
 

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i dislike girls that i want to date that i find out later smoke. smoking just grosses me out. thats a standard i have on women. if they smoke i dont care how hot they are i wouldnt date em. i can be friends with people who smoke. but i just cant date someone who does. this girl i am seeing she went to a club and a friend of hers asked her outside. she was smoking and her friend gave her a cigarette she smoked it. when she came to school i was hugging and kissing her and i noticed a faint smell of cigarette in her hair. i said your hair smells like cigarette. she said my friends were smoking. i said you smoked? she said only 1. i just looked at her and kept my mouth shut with no expression on my face. afterwards she started asking my friends if i was mad at her. she came upto me and asked me are you mad at me. i said wel talk later. she pulled my arm and told me. your mad arent you. i said wel talk about it later i have to go to class showing no emotions at all. afterwards i met up with all the guys and she came. i said hold up i gotta take a leak. then she said uhh me 2. so i was walking in the hall and i stoped her. i said. dating a girl who smoking groses me out. it disgusts me and i wouldnt date a smoker. even if they were just a social smoker. I cant be with somebody who destroys there body little by little with every cigarette. it disgusts me. and if your going to continue then im cutting this relationship. she said no its ok. il stop if you dont want me to smoke. i promise il stop. and i could tell she really meant it.

all im saying is if you want to create a relationship with a girl please let them know your standards on woman so that you wont end up getting with an alcoholic or pothead, smoker, whatever.
 

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keep your standards
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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smoking cigarettes is gross. i ment i smoked buddah. lol.
but yeah, a girl who smokes jacks get a no-no from me. its sick nasty, in a bad way.

but man, hookah bars are the ****, check one of thsoe out.
 
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