Drop some knowledge on me regarding hot bartender situation

[hairsonbergeron]

What's up guys? I'm seeking some advice if any of you suave gentlemen would be kind enough to drop some wisdom on me. I'm not exactly a Don Juan but I do decent enough most the time. Though this particular situation with this bartender has been ****ing with my head and I feel like a my old AFC self.

To make a long story short and readable, this girl works at a bar that gets pretty crowded, plays loud music and she is hit on constantly. This time in particular I was there early in the day and I was sitting at the bar with a couple of friends. I noticed her continuously giving me quick glances but would never make direct eye contact with me. When my friend started to chat her up, she would be talking to him but her eyes would dart between him and me even though I wasn't in the conversation. I figured I had a good chance so I chatted her up a bit later. She seemed extremely shy but reciprocated every smile I shot her way and at one point we just stared at each other, smiling without saying anything. I felt a lot of sexual tension. When I finally closed out my bill she wouldn't look at me and looked straight at the ground with a smile. The fact she is a hot bartender made me second guess myself, so I figured she probably does this to a lot of guys so I pussed out like a chump and just said thanks and didn't get the number.

Next time I went to this bar I was sitting at a table getting food with a group of people. I saw her walking around helping bring alcohol out to a large group of people. A few minutes later, I look up and see her standing in front of me. She only picks up my empty beer bottle off the table while looking straight down at the ground. It caught me so off guard I only ****ing replied "Thank you" and then she left. I finished eating while kicking myself and decided to go up to the packed bar to talk to her. When I got up there she kind of ignored me for a second and then looked at me with her arms crossed and said "What's up" in an irritated voice. I figured flirting would just make me seem like a chump so I ordered and left.

So this happened a few months back. Now whenever I go there she ignores me. I've had her look at me and IMMIEDIATELY look down and away. Also, all the other bartender chicks know my name so I figured something is up. I've been wanting to chat her up again but the place is so crowded and loud it is never possible without making me try way too hard.

So my question is what should I do? Should I just go in the day time and get her number like I should have done the first time? Or do I just say **** it, cut my losses, live and learn and forget about her?

 

[bootypirate250]

A: You missed your chance. You are a beta that didnt get her number right away. Now you are the creepy guy that is too shy and just looks and smiles.
B: She might just be doing it for some tip money.

READ THE BIBLE

 

[hairsonbergeron]

Word. Figured that was the case. Live and learn and onward to the next.

 

[pyros]

What's up guys? I'm seeking some advice if any of you suave gentlemen would be kind enough to drop some wisdom on me. I'm not exactly a Don Juan but I do decent enough most the time. Though this particular situation with this bartender has been ****ing with my head and I feel like a my old AFC self.

To make a long story short and readable, this girl works at a bar that gets pretty crowded, plays loud music and she is hit on constantly. This time in particular I was there early in the day and I was sitting at the bar with a couple of friends. I noticed her continuously giving me quick glances but would never make direct eye contact with me. When my friend started to chat her up, she would be talking to him but her eyes would dart between him and me even though I wasn't in the conversation. I figured I had a good chance so I chatted her up a bit later. She seemed extremely shy but reciprocated every smile I shot her way and at one point we just stared at each other, smiling without saying anything. I felt a lot of sexual tension. When I finally closed out my bill she wouldn't look at me and looked straight at the ground with a smile. The fact she is a hot bartender made me second guess myself, so I figured she probably does this to a lot of guys so I pussed out like a chump and just said thanks and didn't get the number.

Next time I went to this bar I was sitting at a table getting food with a group of people. I saw her walking around helping bring alcohol out to a large group of people. A few minutes later, I look up and see her standing in front of me. She only picks up my empty beer bottle off the table while looking straight down at the ground. It caught me so off guard I only ****ing replied "Thank you" and then she left. I finished eating while kicking myself and decided to go up to the packed bar to talk to her. When I got up there she kind of ignored me for a second and then looked at me with her arms crossed and said "What's up" in an irritated voice. I figured flirting would just make me seem like a chump so I ordered and left.

So this happened a few months back. Now whenever I go there she ignores me. I've had her look at me and IMMIEDIATELY look down and away. Also, all the other bartender chicks know my name so I figured something is up. I've been wanting to chat her up again but the place is so crowded and loud it is never possible without making me try way too hard.

So my question is what should I do? Should I just go in the day time and get her number like I should have done the first time? Or do I just say **** it, cut my losses, live and learn and forget about her?

Think again...
It doesn't sound like she likes you, does it?

If she liked you she would always smile, be friendly, look at you directly and maybe flirt a little bit with you. However, she ignores you, tries to avoid looking at you, doesnt start any conversation with you etc.