"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Driving home after a night of drinking

Mavrick

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What's most important to you is what's in your best interest in this situation. Pay a couple of thousand dollars worth of fines and court fees, a night in jail, and a loss of your drivers license for a few months. You'll also have to attend some classes about the abuse of alcohol (and you'll pay for the class). You'll have to do community service. I'm sure picking up trash on side of the road will be so much fun. Oh, and the possibility of your insurance sky rocketing if you can't get your DUI/DWI expunged from your record on your first offense, but if you get a traffic ticket, you'll lose this privilege and your insurance will go up anyway. Also, the other factor: Will you be sober enough to make it home safely or will you get in a wreck and kill yourself or someone else?

I have 3 very good friends that died because of drunk driving. Three separate wrecks, but they all suffered the same fate. I miss them very much. I also had an acquaintance that ran over two girls mistaking them for deer. He even called his dad the next day and told him he had hit a deer. When he went out the next night and found out that someone had ran over two girls and killed one of them, he instantly knew that he was the culprit. Knowing he couldn't live with himself after what he had done, he went home and committed suicide.

I think it would be best to spend the money on a cab. Cheaper, too.

Anyway, it's all up to you.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Prodigy746

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Rebound Material said:
oh man...driving intoxicated.

About a year and a half ago I got drunk off my ass right after I got into a confrontation with my sisters BF. A little after I had finished drinking, a friend calls me up asking me to pick him up from Red Lobster. I got there and was still at a pretty high buzz(low drunk). He asked me if I was good to drive and I convinced him that I was. Not long after we hit the road we were side by side with a cop and I noticed that his window was a little open. I then rolled down the passengers side window where my friend was sitting and yelled out "IM DRUNK MOTHERFCUKER!! WHAT?!" and sped off. My friend was in shock and said "DUDE! WHAT THE **** ARE YOU DOING?!". Thats when I looked at my rear view window and noticed that the cop was now tailing me. We reached the stop light and was gonna make a left. At this time I was hoping that the cop was just simply going the same way I was. When the light turned green, his lights went off. My friend at this time was in a state of panic and just kept telling me what a dumbfcuk I was for doing what I did and I just kept telling him "i got this, so stfu!". When I pulled over, 2 officers were flashing their flashlights into my car(one at me and the other at my friend from the passengers side). I rolled down my window and handed the cop my liscense and registration. He told me "Sir, did you know that the registration on your liscense plate is expired? You got the new one right here so just stick that on there when you get home ok?" and I was like "oh sorry about that officer!"(slurred) and he said "alright, good night and drive safe"...I luckily got away that night and had a long ass lecture from my friend afterwards...But yea, that was pretty fcukin retarded of me and considering that I know ALL the consequences now...just don't drive intoxicated dude...
That is the dumbest thing i have ever read on these forums lol.


This is my view on drunk drivers
I like most of the people here because i love to read these forums but i would like to say that i hope every one of you that drives drunk gets cought next time you do it. Why do i say this .... well i like my safety and i have seen drunk drivers before. My dad used to own a club/restaurant and there wouold be people that would get sooooo drunk they would not be able to back their car up from the parking lot but they insisted on driving even after my dad offered to drive them himself for free since they were usual customers. I have also drivin behind a drunk driver numerous of times and seen so many times where they almost caused a car accident. Sometimes i wanna call the police and report a drunk driver but i am not that bad YET!
 

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DonGorgon said:
Drinking and driving is just as prevalent , taboo and lied about as sex with no condoms... many people do it..
Everybody does it, but that doesn't make it right.
 

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I have driven drunk 1000 times at least (meaning legally drunk). I have never been pulled over drunk thank god. If you live in Chicago the cops there really don't give a fvck as long as you don't do nothing to stupid. (meaning accident or driving like a total idiot).

In the surrounding suburbs these c0cksucker cops will actually hide across the street from the bars and see people pulling out and pull them over on bullsh1t. Everyone has driven drunk. Including the asssshole cop that is going to bust you.

Take this advice. If they ever pull you over never blow, and never admit that you were drinking. Tell the cops you know what officer, i don't have time for this so just take me to jail.make sure you don't talk too much. This is a way to beat the dui in court. you are still going to get your license suspended but you headaches will be less.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I.A.F.Y.B.

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Not worth it at all. You either walk home, have someone sober drive, or get a cab. I got a DUII; spent the night in jail, lost my license for 3 months, lost my job and fines you gotta pay. The next time you do it you could kill yourself or others.

Now, I got off pretty easy than, some of you guys. I got a court appointed attorney, only lost my license for three months, only spent 1 night in jail and owe under 1,000 dollars in fees. And for 1 month I only had to go to 1 three hour class once a week then, get my license back.

But, the bottom line is don't drink and drive.
 

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Take a cab. It's only a 10-mile trip. Somtimes I wonder WTF is wrong with people on these boards and it appears to go far beyond not being able to pull chicks regularly.
 

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I very rarely get extremely plastered anymore, but if I'm feeling over my limit I just keep drinking water until I feel confident. I used to have some nasty close calls though.
 

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Wired for Sound said:
Haha, that is a great story. How the hell could he not have heard you yell that crap?
I really don't know...but im just glad that he didnt hahaha.


Prodigy746 said:
That is the dumbest thing i have ever read on these forums lol.
HELL YEA!!!:cheer:
 

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lookyoung said:
I have driven drunk 1000 times at least (meaning legally drunk). I have never been pulled over drunk thank god. If you live in Chicago the cops there really don't give a fvck as long as you don't do nothing to stupid. (meaning accident or driving like a total idiot).

In the surrounding suburbs these c0cksucker cops will actually hide across the street from the bars and see people pulling out and pull them over on bullsh1t. Everyone has driven drunk. Including the asssshole cop that is going to bust you.

Take this advice. If they ever pull you over never blow, and never admit that you were drinking. Tell the cops you know what officer, i don't have time for this so just take me to jail.make sure you don't talk too much. This is a way to beat the dui in court. you are still going to get your license suspended but you headaches will be less.
Yeah you know what gets me is they set the limit so low that few people would actually be impaired at the limit. I don't think anyone is for anyone else driving while they are impaired, but all these stiff penalties and fines for DWI are borderline scam and hoopla. I mean if they're throwing the book at people with an .08 or.10 who were driving perfectly fine, then it's just scam. Someone who is actually impaired and driving a least somewhat irradically is a different matter.

I can remember a time as a kid before Madd propagnda when people would open a beer and have a drink driving down the road and maybe even throw the can out the window lol. I'm not saying it should be that lax but there's got to be a more reasonable medium. It's getting to the point where you can't do anything in the US without spending big money. Let's see a round trip cab ride from the suburbs to downtown. What does that cost $50.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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ketostix said:
Yeah you know what gets me is they set the limit so low that few people would actually be impaired at the limit. I don't think anyone is for anyone else driving while they are impaired, but all these stiff penalties and fines for DWI are borderline scam and hoopla. I mean if they're throwing the book at people with an .08 or.10 who were driving perfectly fine, then it's just scam. Someone who is actually impaired and driving a least somewhat irradically is a different matter.

I can remember a time as a kid before Madd propagnda when people would open a beer and have a drink driving down the road and maybe even throw the can out the window lol. I'm not saying it should be that lax but there's got to be a more reasonable medium. It's getting to the point where you can't do anything in the US without spending big money. Let's see a round trip cab ride from the suburbs to downtown. What does that cost $50.

Before MADD the legal limit was .15
 

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Wired for Sound said:
Use some common sense. No cab fare is more expensive than the s.hitstorm you're in for if you get a DUI. Either get a DD, call a cab, or don't drive.
Maybe for people who always get totally plastered, but for a moderate drinker this isn't totally true. Multiply the cab fare times a 1000 or even a few 100 times, not to mention the inconvience and then even the outlandish DUI penatilies don't really seem that big in comparison. Although losing your licenses for 3-6 months and having the DUI on your record probably makes it a bad gamble. Either way you're going to pay unless you live close to the entertainment district.
 

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My Name is Nobody said:
Before MADD the legal limit was .15
The big thing is the fines and penalties weren't as high and you had to actually be impaired before cops bothered with it.
 

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If you drive your car to a bar or club and feel that you are too drunk to drive home, what should you do?

I can't imagine taking a taxi and leaving your car at the bar over night and hoping that nothing happens to it. The only other solution I can think of is sleeping in your car but that's probably just as dangerous.

I this there anything like a designated driver service, where instead of taking a ride home in a taxi, somebody comes and drives you home in your car.
 

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I use the 1 drink per hour rule, so if I have had 6 drinks I will usually try to space them over 6 hours then I know I will be good to drive. Sometimes I'll have like 2 at a bar then drive after an hour, thats not bad. Driving drunk is just stupid, not worth it! If you get in an accident and kill or hurt someone your screwed...Be smart. You can have fun without alcohol.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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In big cities (I'm in Chicago) it's not as common as rural areas, for a variety of reasons. Public transit, cabs, and everything being close make it slightly easier to avoid. Also, even if you do it, you hardly get caught unless you run into/over something/someone. Not too many traffic cops crawling around at bar close time, they're all busy making drug busts.

In suburbia and rural areas it's extremely common. I was in this farm town once and at a bar with my buddies, and we got tipsy and asked the bartender where we can get a cab, and he said there were none. Literally, no cab service in that area. We look outside, and three cops are just sitting on their hoods, waiting for us to come out. It's a trap, and they do it on purpose. We ended up calling up a buddy's wife to pick us up, she was pissed, but understood.

In suburbia and college towns it's really common as well, mostly because people think they can get away with the 3 miles they have to go to get home. If you press your luck too often, you will get nailed, though. Most people I know don't assign DD's, we never did in college. I tried to arrange going to places where we could walk somewhere afterwards. I'm personally very conscious about driving drunk, I think I may have done it once, but won't do it again. However, it's very common.

My farmer friends told me that the most entertaining thing to do in their town was drive around and drink and drive and get completely wasted on rural roads in the middle of nowhere, that was their typical Friday night. Good fun.
 

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Get a cab, crash at someone's house or just sleep in the car, trust me it's totally worth it. you're not the only one on the road... I don't want to wait for someone close to me to get injured or die in a drunk driving accident so this becomes a "personal" issue, it's just common sense. .25? oh snap
 

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You couldn't pay me to do it.

I've heard too many stories.

a) My brother is a ROTC instructor and one of his midshipmen was out at some party, and decided to drive while drunk. He hit and killed a pedestrian. Not only did he just screw his entire life over, but he will probably spend a ton of time in jail. This kid had a future as a naval officer. What a waste.

b) A kid at my high school was riding his bike home on the street. A drunk driver hit and killed him. He was only 17.

c) Have those of you considering this ever been in a serious car accident? I was in one about eight months ago. I still can't get the image out of my head. The truck hit the car I was in right behind the passenger door (I was in the passenger seat). If he had hit my door, I would be dead. The scariest thing was I saw the whole thing unfold. This guy must have been going at least 55, too.

My point is there is way too much risk here. Use some common sense people. Even if no accident occurs, it is irresponsible to yourself and others to drive impaired. Don't drink, or find some other arrangements.
 

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in mexico you can drive under .80

i have driven with alcohol influence and cops have pull me over, i always give then 10 bucks, but last one wanted 50 or they would take my car, so i gave it to them. mexico is the land of corruption, you can get away with ANYTHING as long as you have money
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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