"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Pakwah

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I dont know how to take it from here as in time, but an ex who i have continued contact with, figure it out, said on the phone the other day 'i hope one day that you and i can get past everything and have a drink or two one day'
We have an on/off thing and i dont trust her as far as i could throw her, though my plan is to keep the door open, even if a little for some nsa sex.
In the convo she also mentioned she does not see the guy she is with now the one she will be with forever and that she thinks i look and dress better now than i did when we dated (which i do)
I never throw her compliments, though ill flirt, never tell her what im doing, or whats going on with me, i piss her off alot, so i throw her a friendly convo once a month so as not to look a 100% ass.
Guys at work will say to me, 'she wants you back' or is hinting at it.
At what strength does anyone see these pieces of what she told me as being a step at her testing the water?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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your last sentence (and question) made no sense whatsoever, but from what i gather she either wants you back or wants to think that she could have you back. either option sounds terrible to me. why waste time with an ex? get another girl.
 

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Sorry, it was late when i wrote that, i am not worrying about her, or waiting for her, i just putting in a little time to keep the door open for it, if it closes, no worries. a little effort can go a long way.
My thing is i dont want her to think i am her safety mat. So i play the game.
I put effort into other things, she is just a 'side project', again, i never compliment her, or talk about us when i talk to her, or that i 'miss' her, tell her nothing about me or what im doing, my business, keep distant, don't call her for 'no reason' or 'to talk'.
Guess my question is why would she say what she said?, is there an adgenda? And how would i play it?
Should i say 'yes' to drinks one day? Or tell her i dunno...or no. How can i keep it going...keep her coming without her just saying...well he not interested...guess ill give up...?
To me its all about giving a little line, reeling her in, then giving a little line, reeling her in. But how long before the fish either releases or wants to just be caught?
 

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Man ditch this women. There's a reason you broke up with her. Sure by all means meet up for drinks but your the one who should decide whether you want to F*** her again, not her.
 

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I just wanna get her in bed again....if it happens great, if not, f--k the niceness altogether.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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