"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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drinking alcohol to overcome shyness

garruk

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hey all,

ive been going clubbing pretty often this last few months (turned 21 in april) and in recent weeks ive been getting close to trashed to overcome my shyness around women.


whenever i get piss drunk, my success rate gets to somewhere like 75% or something and i almost always kiss close.

however, when im sober, like during the day, or at a party i dont feel like drinking at, im sort of quiet and while i do talk to girls, it doesnt really ever lead anywhere.


my question, aimed mostly at you older djs out there: do you find that drinking alcohol is bad for your game? in the sense that you begin to rely on it? or is my reliance on alcohol to game going to fade on its own
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Weezy

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garruk said:
hey all,

ive been going clubbing pretty often this last few months (turned 21 in april) and in recent weeks ive been getting close to trashed to overcome my shyness around women.


whenever i get piss drunk, my success rate gets to somewhere like 75% or something and i almost always kiss close.

however, when im sober, like during the day, or at a party i dont feel like drinking at, im sort of quiet and while i do talk to girls, it doesnt really ever lead anywhere.


my question, aimed mostly at you older djs out there: do you find that drinking alcohol is bad for your game? in the sense that you begin to rely on it? or is my reliance on alcohol to game going to fade on its own
I'm the exact same way. When I get super drunk, sometimes I just black out and wake up in chicks beds. When I'm sober, I normally don't do as well.

As far as bad for your game.. I don't think it is for the first meeting, your partying, they are partying, you spark attraction, bam..

Now... once you start to date them, if you are really into them, then yes, alcohol can really f you up and let your emotions overwhelm you. Love is a pretty damn powerful drug in and of itself and when you mix that with alcohol you are more likely to display neediness, jealousy and all the other emotions that send em running for the hills...
 

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garruk said:
hey all,

ive been going clubbing pretty often this last few months (turned 21 in april) and in recent weeks ive been getting close to trashed to overcome my shyness around women.


whenever i get piss drunk, my success rate gets to somewhere like 75% or something and i almost always kiss close.

however, when im sober, like during the day, or at a party i dont feel like drinking at, im sort of quiet and while i do talk to girls, it doesnt really ever lead anywhere.


my question, aimed mostly at you older djs out there: do you find that drinking alcohol is bad for your game? in the sense that you begin to rely on it? or is my reliance on alcohol to game going to fade on its own
When I was younger, I needed to get drunk to break out of my shell. After a few years, that toned down and I could kick some kind of game in any situation.

But learn to break out of that earlier if you can. I don't want you missing out on pulling some chicks while you're in class, or shopping, etc.
 

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Yes, alcohol helps out tremendously in terms of shyness.

But, there is no easy solution in transitioning that into sober world. The only thing you can really do is start forcing yourself to game chics when you're sober. I think thats the only way its going to work but yes, alcohol is great stuff for getting you laid.
 

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Watch out for this. I did this to meet girls. Then I just started getting drunk out of habit. Then at home, by myself....
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Alcohol certainly has its place but it also might be a good idea to try to get to grips with the causes of your shyness.

I learned the hard way BTW, by nearly killing myself with drink at a rather early age.

After that, I had no option but to learn to go about things sober and although I can drink occasionally now, I still have to be careful.

Espi also makes a very good point too. :)

You are also much better attuned to an individual's body language and signals if you are reasonably sober IME, which is in itself a good thing.
 

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a lot of men have this problem. the best thing to do is learn to do it without the alchol. because if you can only do with it, it is a crutch and thats not good.
 

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Go out for a week straight and after every night decrease the amount you drink by a few drinks. Eventually you should be able to go out sober without problems.
 
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