"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Dressing well or dressing poorly?

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It seems that every time I dress poorly, (didn't sleep for 24 hrs) women are dying to talk to me.
But when I am dressed very well, it turns women off. I'm a well educated wall street type that has traveled well.
I'm good at fluff talk and generally easy to get along with.

Anyone else have these similar situations?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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It seems that every time I dress poorly, (didn't sleep for 24 hrs) women are dying to talk to me.
But when I am dressed very well, it turns women off. I'm a well educated wall street type that has traveled well.
I'm good at fluff talk and generally easy to get along with.

Anyone else have these similar situations?
How old are you? And other than not sleeping for a day, what are you actually wearing?

-Augustus-
 

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It seems that every time I dress poorly, (didn't sleep for 24 hrs) women are dying to talk to me.
But when I am dressed very well, it turns women off. I'm a well educated wall street type that has traveled well.
I'm good at fluff talk and generally easy to get along with.

Anyone else have these similar situations?
It happens but you might have a care free attitude when you are dressed down. I know the Wall St. type when I worked in that area and see many in the Stone Street area as well. I always did better when i wore a fitted t shirt instead of being suited up.
 

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Dark solid colors work for me, but that's just my style. I hate suits and sport jackets. You then have to pay the dry cleaner to clean them. Waste of money. I like non-ironed shirts and pants. Easy and machine washable.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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bob2007

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By dressing well I don't mean the NYC shirts and suits. I just mean fashionably. Dressing poorly ... I mean like soccer jersey or crappy t shirt maybe.

That's true, not sleeping is a different attitude thing. Cause you wanna sleep and they wanna get your attention.
 

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That's true, not sleeping is a different attitude thing. Cause you wanna sleep and they wanna get your attention.
Answered your own question. After 24 hours no sleep you just DGAF, it doesn’t matter what you have on and that attitude transfers to the women you interact with. Translates to carefree alpha confidence to her. The clothes are not as important as you think…
 

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I’ve found that dressing slightly neater than the average guy brings massive benefit in attractiveness. The way we dress screams out to the world what we think of ourselves, and this is a language that women really understand.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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FIELD UPDATE: I guess at this point I have a big personality amongst the younger crowd I meet ... they are under 30. I had all the women's attention among a group of 8 today. The girl that wasn't into me last time was more into me ( partially cause the other women seemed interested). I was sloppily shaven today (didn't). I wore a backwards cali mexican eagle hat with an white under armour long sleeve and skinny jeans. Same girl that saw me last time I had great hair, stylish black armani exchange knitted zipped jacket and jeans.
 

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In principle, I agree with Atomsmasher. I think men SHOULD dress well.

But it’s actual effectiveness varies. Some women love it and will easily round up a point on your looks because of it. Some think you’re being tryhard and don’t like it.

I was told by many women that I dress up too much and need to dress down. Then I tried that and did worse lol.

I went back to dressing up because I like it. It is what it is.
 
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