Drawn to this flirt like a moth to a flame....

[AverageHero]

Hi guys,

Just new to the whole community, and was wondering if you could help me out here.

I am working with this girl who quite frankly, I am infatuated with. She is pretty, intelligent, and a hard worker. She come from a great family (who I get along with - kinda long story) I get along great with her.

The only problem is that she is a flirt. She is a flirt with everyone. If customers come into the shop where we work, and they hit on her, they will add her on Facebook hours later. She has 2000 friends on Facebook, 90% of whom she never ever see's. She told me all of this. She has confessed to also having commitment issues to me. She has one night stands sometimes, yet she has told me she wouldn't mind a boyfriend right about now.

She is a great girl, but she has these flaws which she told me. I have texted her on two occasions, once to an okay response, and once to a pretty mediocre response.

After work, if we all go for a drink, her flirty nature gets her attention that she doesn't even want. She will also flirt quite innocently with co-workers (sexual innuendo, brushing by them, non-necessary touching of hands etc.) So it is not confined to a personable attitude to customers.

She mouths over 'I love you' to me across the shop when it's quiet, and we have agreed to go to the movies together. I just get a horrible feeling that she is only leading me on. My instinct is telling me she is leading me on, but again, I (consciously) think she is a fantastic woman.

She even tells me about the guys who come into the shop who she used to kiss. Like WTF?!

I don't know if I want to get involved with her. She is like a poison chalice, but I'm so drawn to her. Is this a girl that I want to get involved with? And how in the hell do I pull myself away from her?

My head is wrecked, because I really like her, but I dislike certain attributes about her. Maybe WHITE KNIGHT SYNDROME?!

Thanks

 

[Rogue]

She is either a sunshine girl or attention whøre.

Take action. Girls can flirt with you all day and night long and be completely meaningless. Action is where the tires hit the road. But, even if—even if—you have enough game to get with her, she would be nothing more than a fling. Hit it & quit it. Don't get emotionally involved, because it will mess with your head.

 

[sinnerman]

girls like these are good for fun. and they're easiest as well..this is an oppurtunity for you...you need to flirt with her..initiate kino and charge her up...and don't think of her as your gf/wife. if she flirts with other people and you get jealous just tell yourself - "So what are you gonna marry her ?"

that will ease your emotional reaction and you can concentrate on your own game and remain confident. go out with her..tease her..make fun of her..and keep us posted about how it goes...and yea she is a poison chalice only if you get emotional attached to her(most women are poisonous) so guard your heart well. just have fun.

 

[zekko]

yea she is a poison chalice only if you get emotional attached to her(most women are poisonous) so guard your heart well. just have fun.

Girls like these are not suitable for LTRs. Like sinnerman says, she is only a poison chalice if you get emotionally attached. This girl is for fun only.
Sinnerman's advice: "Go out with her..tease her..make fun of her", that's the right approach.
Unfortunately, it sounds like you are already emotionally attached.

Here's your problem, IMO: This girl flirts and kinos with every guy she meets, including you. You are so unused to getting this kind of attention from females that you have let it get to you.

Whether you get with this girl or not, find other women besides her to occupy your time/mind.

After work, if we all go for a drink, her flirty nature gets her attention that she doesn't even want.

Make no mistake about this: She definitely wants that attention, and she is working to get it.