Drama will kill me

[AAAgent]

I've realized that i can't tolerate drama anymore. It's not that I won't tolerate, i literally can't. It makes me crazy, the female drama at least. The last relationship i got out of and the longest one i ended up having to deal with:

pregnancy- she wasn't and was on birth control(wtf!?)
rape- she wasn't either but convinced me until i researched and found out the truth
virgin-again she wasn't and i found out but she lied and continues to lie saying i'm her first
boyfriends- told me i was her 2nd but i was like the 10th
daddy issues-self explanatory being left by father
family issues-crazy mom and older brothers. they used to convince my ex they were striking million dollar deals....they don't even have jobs.
labelling- during and after our relationship she would tell people i beat her...this b1tch would basically try to box me. I felt like muhammed ali doing the rope of dope with this girl.

then there was the fvcking fighting me physically, getting out of the car while driving on a bridge, attempting to walk 20 miles home in spite and anger, etc.

eventually it got to the point i couldn't handle the stress anymore. I've taken alot of sh1t before and i loved this girl to death(she was amazingly sweet sometimes and then turned into a psycho). I tried every possibility i could think of at the time to reason/work things out civilly. I became so brain fried i just said w/e to everything and ignored it.

I'm not sure if i've been scarred or been enlightened but i can't handle this bullsh1t anymore. This weekend i heard my bestfriend "skyping" with his gf who went back to taiwan(there for 2 months). She was complaining about how her older brother is being used by this girl for money. They're getting married.

The brother:
just got out of a 2 year long relationship with some girl he was crazy over.
He slept with a whole bunch of girls after including this pregnant one.
This girl is drinking while she's pregnant.
partying till 4am
spending the guys money to go shopping
various other sh1t

I hadn't seen my boy for a few months and was chilling in his room when he was skyping. When i started to hear this stuff i just walked out and stayed away until he was done talking.

Then he started to talk about it and i told him straight up. I can't handle this sh1t it's driving me crazy. don't talk about it.

Same situation with girls i've dated. When they start mentioning drama to me i don't even bother trying to reason and talk with them how to solve it. I just nod and say "okay. Good luck with that." If there is too much drama i just ignore and stay away.

Hearing this drama literally causes me to go crazy and my mind get's all confused.

This drama sh1t is going to kill me one day and i'm going to stay the fvck away from it.

 

[Warrior74]

I though this was about Entourage.

Yes you should strive to stay away from and minimize drama. Fact.

But also you should be a man and learn how to handle it so you can minimize it. Mind what you say and who you say it to. When you see it coming, eject. If you can't eject, don't participate, if you have to participate, wait until the best moment to act. Good luck with that.

 

[Acq]

congratulations, you have discovered the beauty of being in a relationship with a CLASSIC borderliner. Looks like your got off quite cheaply though, it could have been worse.

 

[AAAgent]

ya that was a while ago. the b1tch tore me apart. took me 2 years to get right, which was a couple of months ago. Still can't handle it therefor won't tolerate it. Who knows about handling it. I'd probably need some time to sit and calm down first.

It definitely was not cheap and i've mentioned this BPD girl before that introduced me to this hell on earth that i thought was heaven. I went through PTSD for a few months. I was smoking a pack and a half of 100's a day, i slept 3-4 hours for weeks daily, and ate a single meal a day at that time. She got a boyfriend 3 days after our breakup and still attempted to pull me back. She calls me from time to time and tells all her friends she loves me to this day.

oh and let me add to that list:
attempted suicide-told me she would kill herself because i was trying to leave her.

 

[Acq]

so, u did not get off the hook as cheaply as I thought. I have a similar experience, with PTSD and all that crap with comes with it, let me tell u something: sport, sport, sport and sex will cure your head.